Posts by SweatPea

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I'm sad.

by SPAZnik in

my father called the other evening.. first time since i left over a year ago.. .

i know how this man operates.

i knew he'd call a year after my departure.

SPAZnik......I know how you feel. The same thing happen to me last year. It was my brother who said he needed to talk to me. I told him that I did not think he was to discuss that issue with me. He informed me that he is an "ELDER" and he can. After I explained to him that I had no desire to come back, there has been no contact.

I understand you being sad as I was the same way. I was DF'd 35 years ago and I thought I had come to terms with being shunned. After he and I talked and I must say he did not push the subject, the rejected feeling set in again. I became depressed and isolated myself. I found this forum and it has helped me alot.

You hang in there.......it gets better!!!

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Finding out Who you really are

by Sentinel in

good morning everyone,.

i'm very new on here--just "born yesterday", as a matter of fact, but am finding out how wonderful it is to be able to be free to express thoughts and opinions, share ideas, give comfort, and find hope, within "these walls".. i'm going to ask a question, and that is, how long did it take any of you souls out there to find your true self, after leaving jw's?

i was very young when i was first introduced to the studies of jw's.

SweatPea

Welcome Sentinel! I'm new to this board also. I related to your story so much. Sounds a lot like my own, which I plan on posting. I also felt out of place. What hurt me the most was the shunning from my family. I still have a hard time dealing with that. I have come to terms that my two daughters and two grand daughters are the only family that I need. I have a abundant amount of friends that except me for who I am. When they hear how my family treats me they can't believe it. If you have never lived the JW life it is hard to comprehend.

I noticed that we are about the same age, me 55.

You hang in there........it gets better. This forum has helped me a lot.

SweatPea

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my personal experience part #1 (very long)

by dustrabbit in

[note: this essay, broken into sections for easier reading, was written as the first part of a three-part essay cycle written for a biography/autobiography writing class that i took so i could get my bachelors in english (with an emphasis in creative writing), thus it was meant for non-jehovahs witnesses.

the three parts were written during the fall 97 semester.

i purposely focused on three major events: 1. the catalyst for my spiritual journey away from the jw.

SweatPea

Welcome....looking forward to part 2.

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Anyone in North Carolina???

by SmokeEater in

looking for any df'd or da'd ex-jw's from central nc... triad, triangle, sandhills region of nc.

please hollar back if there are any...

SweatPea

Waiting.........I sent you an E-mail. Did you get it?

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Our Second Un-Invitation Card

by ozziepost in

some of you may remember the post about the un-invitation card which is sent to da/df persons who have previously been invited to a wedding.

the un-invitation card tells them not to turn up!.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=27313&site=3.

SweatPea

Mr. and Mrs. Ozzie my heart goes out to both of you. Back in the 80's I heard that my brother was getting married. I looked the mail box everyday for an invitation. Never got one. The wedding date came and went. Later my niece told me that she was told that they (my brothers and sister) could not invite me. So I know your pain. Thumbs up for going anyway. Hope Mrs Ozzie is feeling better. :)

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Anyone in North Carolina???

by SmokeEater in

looking for any df'd or da'd ex-jw's from central nc... triad, triangle, sandhills region of nc.

please hollar back if there are any...

SweatPea

How about Lincolnton!!!!!! I WAS a JW in Columbia, SC. I was raise in Columbia, left when I was 20 and have settled in NC.

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Dateline Precursor: CBS 60 Min. w/Leslie Stahl

by Room 215 in

how many of you out there remember the cbs 60 minutes program several years ago when correspondent leslie stahl examined the jw child custody issues?

it may well have provided a clue as to how the upcoming dateline segement will play out.

predictably, the society emerged with something of a black eye, especially because of its cowardly refusal to produce even one gb or bethel bigshot spokesman to defend its duplicitous policies.

SweatPea

Amnesian.......I would also be interested in receiving a copy of the Dateline program from Tuesday, May 28, 02. I had been waiting months for it to air and some how I missed it. I would be more than glad to send you a blank tape plus postage for the return. I have the transcript on that 60 minutes and its dated December 27, 1992.
Thanks

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I'm new at this!

by SweatPea in

jw
friends

hi guys and girls!

i've been visiting this site for the last three days and decided to join the group.

i was df in 1965 and to tell you the truth (no pun intended) i don't think i have ever recovered.

SweatPea

Thanks to all of you for such warm replies. I live about 20 miles north west of Charlotte, NC. When I was a JW I lived in SC. When my mother started studying with JW's my daddy fought her on it. He finally gave up and let her have her way. I was a small child at that time. Daddy never did become one. After I was DF things were not too bad as Daddy did not allow them (my siblings) to shut me out, even tho they did manage to do it sometimes without his knowledge. After he passed away thats when they took over. Life was very different after that. They have tried to convert my daughters. No luck there. My oldest has been known to slam the door in JW's faces and the youngest lets her claws out. My sister has went as far as to tell my daughters that she needs to talk to them about me. It's the part of being cut off from my blood that hurts. Thats not the way it should be. I've told them that I can not believe that God would want family treated this way. When Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit that made everyone imperfect. I feel like if someone falls, you help them up, not turn your back. It's amazing what a brain washing cult can do. Sorry that I vented so long.

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Other thoughts: the two witnesses idea

by larc in

jw
friends

whether the two witnesses to two separate incidences is new or old, it is still a very stupid policy.

let us suppose a child was raped and their parents took the matter to police.

further suppose that the police said, that they couldn't investigate because there had not been any other complaints against the rapist.

SweatPea

You get disfellowshipped for adultery and fornication, don't you? Shouldn't they have two witnesses for that also? (Sorry, I'm being fecetious!!) Now to be serious........When a child is being molested, raped, fondled by an adult is that adult not fornicating or committing adultery?

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I'm new at this!

by SweatPea in

jw
friends

hi guys and girls!

i've been visiting this site for the last three days and decided to join the group.

i was df in 1965 and to tell you the truth (no pun intended) i don't think i have ever recovered.

SweatPea

Hi guys and girls! I've been visiting this site for the last three days and decided to join the group. I was DF in 1965 and to tell you the truth (no pun intended) I don't think I have ever recovered. It's the shunning thing that I can't shake. Hopefully this forum can get me over this hurdle.
I'm twice divorced (both wordly men) and live in North Carolina. I have two daughters, who by the way are very resentful of JW's, and two beautiful grand daughters.
Hope to correspond with all soon.