I was able to sign out thanks. Not that knowledgeable about computers can you tell? I have used a username that I'm nervous my husband might recognize if he were to find this site. It's very similar to one I've used elsewhere. Can I open a new account? I realize the old stuff would still be here but it would fade into the background, right? I'm becoming paranoid - not a good sneak. I've been too transparent I guess.
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New identity
by thereishope ini was able to sign out thanks.
not that knowledgeable about computers can you tell?
i have used a username that i'm nervous my husband might recognize if he were to find this site.
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Thanks for any help in signing out.
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Did you have "Your chair" or place you sat at the K.H??
by karter ini never really did but lots of the "friends" did like one brother who felt the cold and had "his chair" by the window and was always closing the window when everyone else wanted it open.. karter..
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Have some fun! Arrive early, choose any seat you please (one near the back, on the aisle, and close to the bathroom does nicely - it's sure to be someone's preferred chair) then watch the others arrive - let the game of musical chairs begin! I know, I'm easily amused. (party hat? dunce cap? can't tell)
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Convention Weirdness
by BlackWolf inwell i just got back from 3 days in hell, and geez was this convention strange or what?
im sure someone's probably made a topic about this already but i can't believe that there weren't any new releases besides the movies.
has that ever happened before?
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Oh, here is where those who have gone to their convention are supposed to be all hush-hush to those who have not yet made it - so as not to spoil it for them - yuck! Tissues for when the young sister is disfellowshipped and shunned by her family and made to leave the family home and how those doing the shunning are so broken up about it! Tissues for when the Dad breaks the heart of the little boy with the musical talent, and the Dad feels so bad! Tissues for when everyone in previous videos are together again in this weird paradise and reunited with their lost loved ones because they remained LOYAL to Jehovah. I'm glad I didn't waste my time and energy. Actually, I sat at home while my husband went on his own, and spent most of the 3 days reading this forum - oops! hee hee
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Introducing myself
by scratchme1010 ini just joined the forum, i just want to introduce myself.
i tried to change my bio in my profile but for some reason i couldn't apply the update.. i was born and raise in the jw organization.
lived in it for 23 years.
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Another welcome!
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Disfellowshipping Question
by Elizabeth Thompson ini have been a baptized witness for about 30 years.
from the time i was a kid.
i've been the only one in my family who is baptized until 15 years later when my mother got baptized.
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Hi. I, too, was a little confused by your post. I am relatively new here and still very confused about things and learning so much. Funny, but my first post here was about possibly being disfellowshipped, just for reading a website other than jw.org - ooooo! the big scary D-word. Anyway, I think maybe youre writing about losing friends and family when disfellowshipped. Just for now, please just keep reading here and learning and asking your questions. People here will understand and help, truly! I respectfully suggest that you give this whole issue lots more thought and lots more time and lots more reading. I, too, thought I would just step away or fade away, thought maybe it would be kind of easy. What I could not foresee was the reaction of other people, even though now in hindsight I should have. No, don't go to the elders, you owe them nothing. They wonèt help you, they wonèt be on your side. As much as possible communicate only with people who you are sure will support your decision ie be on your side. I think that's what you need right now. Deal with the harder people and issues sometime when you are further along this path and feeling stronger and clearer. Anyway, my two cents worth ... please take good care of yourself and keep us posted.
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post disappeared
by thereishope invery sad!
i posted a very personal message yesterday evening, received one reply - thanks!
meant a lot to me, now my post is nowhere that i can find.
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Very sad! I posted a very personal message yesterday evening, received one reply - thanks! meant a lot to me, now my post is nowhere that I can find. Please help?
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I Don't Care If It Is A Cult ???
by thereishope inshared a bit with my husband the other day about what i'd learned about cults.
how nearly (if not all) every box on the list gets checked for jw.
he got some upset!
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Shared a bit with my husband the other day about what I'd learned about cults. How nearly (if not all) every box on the list gets checked for JW. He got some upset! "I don't care if it IS a cult! I just want to make it into paradise." I was shocked and speechless. Still am. If this comes up again, what can I say? I think maybe he was a little shocked himself, and came up with the first thing that came to mind, he didn't seem to stop and think. Maybe he's been thinking about it, I don't know. I think it would be unwise to bring it up again, but if he does, how can I respond in a way that might have a chance of winning him over (there, I sound just like a JW, I never used to talk like that when I was a real person ) I'd just like to be prepared. Thanks!
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ARC - where to start?
by thereishope ini'm hoping for help in finding a starting point, somewhere to direct my husband.
i brought up a little bit about the arc spoken of so widely here on the forum.
i just gave him a bit of a hint a few days ago, and he wanted to hear nothing of it - the old you can't believe everything you read.
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I'm hoping for help in finding a starting point, somewhere to direct my husband. I brought up a little bit about the ARC spoken of so widely here on the forum. I just gave him a bit of a hint a few days ago, and he wanted to hear nothing of it - the old you can't believe everything you read. I said nothing more. I guess it triggered something because today he brought It up and wanted to know where I saw that news article (as he called it) because he wanted to read it. He brought up something he'd seen recently on tv to do with JW's and how it was so obviously fake and made to slander JWs. I agree with him on that one, however he's hoping to see an article on the ARC case and to pick it apart the same way to prove to me that I'm believing something that's bogus.
I have to rely on you good people to point me in the right direction. Nothing too overwhelming or detailed or long, please. This might just be what starts to open his eyes - he's BIG on justice! Thanks
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A question .....
by Landy inhi guys - new poster here.
i was brought up a jw in the uk and stopped going not long after i was married.
that was 20 years ago so i'm not really up to date with the current doctrinal flip flops or the new youtube obsessed gb.. came across this site while googling the name of a local elder who's just been convicted of possesion of a pc full of unpleasant pics of kids.. so, my question.
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Just want to say - I was "true to myself" many decades ago, and lost everything - my home, children, ex-husband - nothing to do with religion. Just bought into the "find yourself" theme of the times, and left everything. Lost them all, and never did "find myself". Just saying - one has to count the cost. I now have a good marriage with a good man who doesn't know TTATT, or care to. If I pressed it, it would cause a deep divide, and hurt him deeply. Just because I've woken up, doesn't mean I have the right to try to open his eyes because I want him on the same page with me. Life isn't black and white after all, so I'll sit on the fence in the grey zone.
The song "The Great Pretender" from back in my youth keeps playing in my mind. I'm a good actress. I can do this. As long as I'm not lying to myself I'm being "true to myself". I don't have to be true to anyone else, I can keep secrets. My fade over the last few years has been gradual and not deliberate. Using health issues has worked well, and depression. Maybe this is as fade-ed as I get. No service, maybe the odd meeting to keep hubby happy, no assembly days or conventions, no memorials - never feeling up to it - just so discouraged and depressed and sick!
I got a good reminder this week about what's really important to me. My husband got very ill and I stood to lose him at one point. He's fine now and back from hospital, but it reminded me of what's really important in my life, and I'll be damned if I'll let this cult ruin things for us. I may not have long with him, we're getting on in years. If he goes before me, I'll cut ties with the congregation so quick!
My goodness, didn't mean to go on for so long, and I've even deleted a lot of what I've written, so I don't know if this even makes much sense to anyone else. My story is long - 70 years long. Just the "be true to yourself" thing really set off some alarm bells, and thought it might help someone else not jump off the cliff like I did and pull the plug on everyone and everything. I felt very free and joyful initially (what a rush), but that was short lived when my head cleared and I realized what I'd done.
My advice to people would be to go slowly and think things through very carefully from all angles and yes! be true to yourself - act as you believe yourself to be. That's all folks! :)