"If we associate with them when they are disfellowshipped we could actually be taking away from them a motivating factor for wanting to be reinstated"
Isn`t that a telling statement ?
Its not a love for Jehovah God that they want to rejoin Jehovah`s Witnesses .
Its because they love their family more than Jehovah God and want to associate with them again and this is the only way they can do it.
Whereas the Jehovah`s Witness position is to use emotional blackmail to get these ones to rejoin the J.W. religion.
These ones that come back are not stupid they know they have been manipulated and they will never be loyal to the religion of Jehovah`s Witnesses .
And if the WTB&TS thinks otherwise ? They are the stupid ones .