I presume you both decided to see a therapist and he /she suggested EMDR as Sail Away points out this therapy is used to work with people with trauma ? So is it you or your wife that is suffering with trauma? If I may ask ?
Has she made an appointment for herself also ?
As Sail Away says your wife is using a flimsy excuse to break up your marriage .
And Jehovah`s Witnesses claim they don`t break up marriages ? Bullshit they do so simply for religious differences.
Can you imagine the world in general becoming aware that JW`s break up marriages simply because of religious differences ?
Probably unheard of in mainstream Catholic and protestant religions as an excuse for breaking up marriages.
My thoughts are with you Brian J
Take care.