As i stated my wife will never wake up, it will take a miracle and right now i have a hard time believing in god. so its hopeless.
Obviously you know your wife better than we do.
One thing to keep in mind here on this forum however, is that most of us think pretty much alike. Sure we have different opinions on political and social topics, but we arrive at those opinions through basically the same process.
We use terms like, "cult" and "blinkers" and "waking up" because that describes the way we think.
But not everybody is like that. Not everybody thinks like that.
For the longest time, I did not understand this. (In retrospect, I would say, "refused.")
I knew JW doctrine backwards, forwards and sideways. I could read the NT it its original language. I knew their history (I'm even cited as a source in the Wikipedia article "Eschatology of Jehovah's Witnesses") better than almost all of them.
None of that mattered. Religion is an affair of the heart, not the mind. Facts are powerless in the face of emotion. Worse, they will build up a wall between you and your wife.