Posts by terafera

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To stay or leave....

by Dawn in

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it probably sounds crazy to post this on a forum where "alias" individuals will respond - but i really would like to hear from some of you who may have been in this situation before.. i'm at a cross roads in my marriage and need to decide whether to stay or leave.. long story short:.

hubby is basically a good man - good father, but i am not happy.

i have not been for a long time now.

terafera

Dawn,
I'm sorry to hear your life isnt going where you want it to. I can honestly say the exact things you are saying were in my own head a few years ago. My husband was pretty selfish...not neccesarily a bad person, but didnt think of others. I came to the point where I was going to leave him, or stay. I didnt want my son raised in a broken home, like I was... I sat my husband down and told him my thoughts. I told him that I had been thinking of leaving, and did he want that? He didnt, and we worked on alot of our problems. His main thing was he took us for granted...never showed appreciation or much affection. Alot of that has changed, but its taken work on boh parts, him and myself.

If you talked to your husband, do you think he would listen? I would tell him your doubts, how you are not happy, and though you want to raise your kids with him, you also need to be fulfilled and happy yourself. If he cares, he will do everything in his power to change. If he doesnt care, he will blow it off and let you go.

If you can find an affordable marriage therapist, I would encourage you to see one. We saw a counselor (she wasnt specifically for marriage partners), but taught us how to communicate alot better.

Things wont happen overnight...but with alot of work and love, it can happen!

I wish you all the best! I'm praying for your happiness and peace of mind.

~Tera

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AlanF gave me a virus!

by terafera in

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not the one that posts here...but i recently received an email from an 'alanf' saying there was important info inside.

when i opened it, it did nothing.

turns out it was a virus and thankfully i got rid of it.

terafera

Not the one that posts here...but I recently received an email from an 'AlanF' saying there was important info inside. When I opened it, it did nothing. Turns out it was a virus and thankfully I got rid of it.

When will I learn to not open emails from people I dont know?? The name threw me off though, I thought it was in regards to the jw.com board..... hmmm.. could this be 'theocratic warfare'?

Be careful everyone!

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surgery

by Realist in

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short question: .

is it possible that jw are discourage from having small surgery like the removal of the tonsils?

terafera

I'm not in the medical profession..but it seems to me, having grown up a JW, they are only leary of anything that might require a blood transfusion.

For instance, I was diagnosed with kidney problems when I was 5 and they wanted to do alot of tests. That was fine, but when they said I needed a biopsy and a transfusion MIGHT be needed, the elders told us it would be wise to not have a biopsy done.

I dont think they'd be against tonsils removed or anything of that nature...just something that might make you bleed alot and make them want to fill you up with blood!

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Top 10 excuses JW's use to avoid the facts

by BugParadise in

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top ten excuses some jw's use to deny there are child molesters in the watchtower:.

10. its tv and that its not real.

9. it's all lies.

terafera

Amen to that brotha!

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My Mom's reaction to the Dateline show

by Mulan in

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i posted earlier today that mom thought the show was well done but she thought they made some "cheap shots" too.

tonight, after dinner, i asked her what she thought were the cheap shots.

i could tell she had trouble remembering, but said this: "i am sure there are some cases of molestation, like the ones they discussed on the show, that were handled badly, but there are so many that are handled in the right way.

terafera

Mike Musto,

I know what you mean. I guess she thinks that only a few cases out of millions are molesters and the show made it look like elders purposefully hid them.. or something like that. She kept saying how this was Satan's works to attack the Org...

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ChiChi,

Wow, maybe we're long lost twins ourselves? It's kinda nice knowing someone else knows what I go through... you got it, everything is twisted to somehow be affecting them..no-one else. Ugh.

Were you born in Alaska? Just maybe....

SYN,

Now you get the jw thinking!

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Amazing Survived Major Heart Attack

by AlanF in

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i just spoke on the phone to amazing (jim whitney) who is in intensive care in a chicago hospital.

on monday he had a major heart attack, had a stint put in an artery to unblock things and may have bypass surgery.

he's comfortable enough right now, but of course will have to make some big lifestyle changes.

terafera

Thank you so much for letting us know!

Amazing may not remember me..but once I emailed him about some questions and he promptly replied saying he would try to give me a lengthy answer. Over a month passed..and I thought maybe I'd never hear from him. You can imagine my shock when I got an email from him ...very sweet and long..and very encouraging. He said he tucked my email in his 'to respond' file. What a nice guy! He was so kind to give me some positive thoughts!

Jim, I am sending you thoughts right now!! I pray you recover soon and fully!!!! All my love, Tera (aka Debbie)

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My Mom's reaction to the Dateline show

by Mulan in

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i posted earlier today that mom thought the show was well done but she thought they made some "cheap shots" too.

tonight, after dinner, i asked her what she thought were the cheap shots.

i could tell she had trouble remembering, but said this: "i am sure there are some cases of molestation, like the ones they discussed on the show, that were handled badly, but there are so many that are handled in the right way.

terafera

You havent heard it all yet...just listen....

my df'd mother watched it last night. I called her to ask what she thought...she was crying...( I should mention she is not the most emotionally/mentally stable person around..)

I just am so hurt that Satan is using television to hurt Jehovahs people. I mean..I know the Bible said it would happen...but I cant believe it is happening. To SEE it happen! It hurts me so much! I heard that Kingdom Melody music and broke down..how could they hurt Jehovahs people?

I had to remind her that although she went on and on about how she felt, imagine how those poor molested victims felt!! To this, she responded, yeah, yeah, I know, but those are only a few out of millions. They took it all out of context!

So you can be in or out folks, and be more brainwashed than ever.....

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I'm an ass kisser!

by Beck_Melbourne in

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hi all...just thought you should i'm proud to be an ass kisser!!.

received this email only minutes after my post on simon's thread....what do you make of this?.

simon is biased his friends do as they like cursing and name calling all.

terafera

I completely agree... I dont understand why people attack Simon. He does not over moderate or control excessively at all! If anyone here goes to other message boards, which I have in the past, there are some who will delete anything you say that they dont agree with. I think he is very patient and forgiving of posters...

When you think about it, it's his board. We come in, wipe our feet on his rug, drink his beer, change his tv and then complain if he says anything about it! He has been nothing but totally cool and respectful to me. I guess you get what you give....

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JW Display at the Mall

by saltiest in

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this afternoon while wasting time at the promenade mall, in temecula, ca (southern cal) i had a hard time containing my laughter.

just in front of me were two women behind a table full of wbts literature.

what caught my eye was a young people ask sign.

terafera

Why didnt I get to do this kind of field service????

Just sit at a table and let them come to me??!! Sounds like a sweet deal!

ugh....all those hot and boring days spent walking in neighborhoods....gRrRrRrRrRr....

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The "barf" Bethel visit

by Yadira Angelini in

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my jw daughter came over monday to tell me all about her visit to bethel!.

first, she said how happy she felt and so very emotional when they took them, (a group of 8) to where the "twelve goberning body" held their meetings.

she said: "mom, i got to see where they sit!".

terafera

144thousand_and_one:

LOLOLOL! Oh man..how did the overseer react to that?? LOL!!! I would have given my right leg to see that!!! *LOL* Tell me more!

Room215:

They may know all the good restaurants in town but they've never seen a tab! Femare or not, if you accept a date from one of these pikers, you better take your credit card or pack a hefty wad of greenbacks.

Dont I know this!! The former love of my life, a faithful jw turned Bethelite showed me this in fine format. Wherever we went(as a group), it was just assumed that one of us would pay his share. Aargh!

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