Dear Amazing,
The Society and its Elders teach that Elders are not to Lord it over the flock, or act as spiritual policemen.
I appreciate (I can't say enjoyed) your recent posts as well as the justice series. "Lording it over" is a common trait and I have seen a fair amount of it.
A few years ago some "brothers" in a congregation I attended organized a show (sort of talent competition but without a competition). Several local JW's from several cong's took part part and it was held at a high school auditorium. I wasn't invited although some in my family were, as was one local elder and several elders from neighboring cog's, several MS's and families, in addition to the 200 or so who attended. It was strictly by invitation only. The elders in my congregation knew something was happening but didn't know when. It was after all a private function. Nothing bad happened, no one misbehaved, no one got drunk (no alcohol was served) and from the reports I heard it was a happy and successful event.
The Sunday following the Saturday evening event the elders had heard about it from sources I believe were the teenage children of one elder. There then proceeded a witch-hunt to find out who attended and who didn't. Two MS were forced to resign (the event organizers) and the local elder was eventually deleted after a protracted conflict within the elder body.
After I was appointed as an elder about 2 years after this event I asked what the fuss was all about. All I was told was that several people attending mainly non-elder's children had lied to elders kids about the event. As far as I could tell the elders who didn't get invited felt slighted or felt their kids were being unreasonably excluded so they went out of their way to seek retribution from the organizers who they held responsible for the invite list.
It was one of several acts of "lording it over" by the PO and congregation secretary. That PO was eventually demoted to Watchtower study conductor and his son-in-law took over the PO job (PO by proxy I guess). I left just before that change took place. I think some of the reason for the CO's intervention was a result of mine and another elder's resignation over other poorly handled matters within the elder body.
Thirdson
'To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing'