Posts by sunshineToo

So I guess you are in college. Any goal? When you pick a major, make sure it's something you really love to do or at least don't mind to do it for a job. What is your interest? Are you still a jw? ugh, I hated being a college student and being a jw at the same time. You get too much distraction.

If you want to find someone to love, get your carreer in line first. Loving someone is not a game. It's building lives together. These days without a decent job, it is hard to do that no matter how much you are in love.

I know you don't want to hear this, but I gotta say it, "When the time is right, the right person is going to come along and ask you to hold her hand." I didin't believe it, but you know what? It is true.

Since you are in college now, focus on finishing the school and getting a decent job first. Then meet with many other people. You probably have some idea on what kind of person you would like to date. Remember that good person attracts good people.

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Going home

by desib77 in

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do you still live in the same place that you grew up?

if not, do you ever miss it?.

lately i've found myself missing midland, tx where i grew up.

sunshineToo

I was born and raised in South Korea until 16. Then my family moved to the U.S.A. 19 years ago. We've been living in the same city for 19 years now. Out of 19 since I spent 12 1/2 with the jws, this town has more ties (as far as memory wise) to the jws than anything. But I'm trying to change that: building a new life. I got married to a wonderful man. We just bought our first home, and we are expecting our first child. So far life has been so good since I left the cult.

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Daughter Dating DUB Update (Really Long)

by Corvin in

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this is an update regarding my 17 yo who was dating an unbaptized publisher, carl,18.

when he first began dating her i sat them both down and made sure carl understood that he was visiting the home of a df?d brother who also be considered by the society to be an apostate.

i gave him this direct info not wanting to encroach upon his conscience incase he was maintaining a good one, and incase he was looking to make progress in the jw congregation.

sunshineToo

Now that my ex-wolf . . . er um, wife, is involved, I can totally see her trying to facilitate them dating again, reasoning that the two of them might be just the right bait for each other for getting sucked deeper into the organization. Mom just wants her little girl to be as spiritual and as happy as she is ::pukes::

Are you serious? She must be really desperate. If I remember correctly, the WTS discourages teens dating, not to mention dating unbaptized person. In my old congregation, there was a 27 years old divorced "brother" who was dating 15 year-old unbaptized publisher. The elders got really concerned over it, but the girl's mother told the elders not to bother them.

You know, come to think of it, there are some weird parents in this cult: allowing their teenage daughters to date older men. Some men were almost 40 years old!

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Daughter Dating DUB Update (Really Long)

by Corvin in

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this is an update regarding my 17 yo who was dating an unbaptized publisher, carl,18.

when he first began dating her i sat them both down and made sure carl understood that he was visiting the home of a df?d brother who also be considered by the society to be an apostate.

i gave him this direct info not wanting to encroach upon his conscience incase he was maintaining a good one, and incase he was looking to make progress in the jw congregation.

sunshineToo

Corvin, wow, you handle that situation so well!

I just cannot believe what Carl and his mom did to you and your family. And I cannot believe your ex-wife!!!! My GOD! Isn't she her daughter we are talking about, and she (your ex) still wants to protect that perbert rather than protecting her own daughter?

This cult really messes up people's heads.

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Somebody---PLease Party with ME

by codeblue in

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ok....i am all alone....nodenial is working out of town...darn it.. how about a cyber party with me...please!!!.

i have just mixed a 7 and 7..... codeblue

sunshineToo

Sure, if you don't mind to have a 6 months pregnant woman in your party.

I don't know what "7 and 7" is, but you got some pickles?

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What to do now?

by SuperMommy in

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on thursday i did quit my jw studies...now for a problem i had not thought of.

many people in the kh have been asking my husband to do odd jobs around their homes.

he has been doing this for a month for maybe a bit longer.

sunshineToo

If you really don't want any contact with their calls, how about writing a letter to the Presiding Overseer of the congregation? Let him know about the situation and ask him to tell his members to stop calling you or your husband. And put a sign at the door saying, "NO JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES, PLEASE".

I remember when I was a jw and going door to door, whenever we saw that sign, we didn't bother the household.

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Naive

by shera in

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this has been something i have been thinking of for awhile.i was so naive when i started to study and i was even naive when i was in for a few yrs.. i suppose i could be calling myself gullible too,but you know,when i was a jw,i had no idea what the "society" was,no idea who was teaching these beliefs.i look back at it and i realize how i just listened to what was thrown at me.people told me it was the "truth",so it had to be the truth.. when i was a child,i went to bible studies and sunday's school,but i never really went to church to "learn"the bible.so basically never had any biblical knowledge,before i began to study.. when i was studing and even when i was a jw,i always felt something wasnot right,and that used to bother me and depress me.never feeling i was good enough for god.i didnot want to get baptized when i did,i felt something was wrong but i went ahead just incase........ kinda ticks me off,that i never learned the background and history of this religion...but of course i wouldnot be here and wouldnot have met many great people as i have and hope to meet more!.

it wasn't until,i started to search and started to read the bible on my own,that i realized how wrong this religion is.it was like "wow"........with some anger mixed in there too with the "wows".

now i believe,the bible is not 100% authentic,but there is a loving god and i believe in jesus and he died for all people!

sunshineToo

Shera, you are not alone.

You were in "for a few years"? I was in for 12 1/2 years. I guess that makes me a bigger naive stupid. I've been thinking of that these days, too. What was I thinking? I wish I can go back to that time and smack my 21 year-old head.

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Beer Goes With ...

by Satanus in

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icecream.

it also goes w chocolate.

i used to get a mild alergic reaction to beer.

sunshineToo

My brother likes it with sushi. I don't drink, but I would love to try that, though.

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Joel Osteen, Pastor

by new light in

has anyone else ever watched televangelist joel osteen, pastor of the lakewood church in houston, tx?

i believe he is aired pretty much throughout the u.s. even being the faithless slug that i am, his sermons never, ever fail to move me.

he is so inspiring, so positive.

sunshineToo

Yeah, I've listened to him a couple of times. He has a sort of sales-rep kind of style. For some reason he always remind me of a traveling sales person. But I do like his message, though. It is very comforting and makes me want to go to a church. And he seemes to be so young, and his wife is very pretty, too. I wonder what kind of person she is. Is she as popular or approachable as her husband?

You know people who are in the position like Joel, need to have a very good wife who is also a very good people-person. Otherwise it can kill their images.