Posts by Tinkerbell4125

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"MY LIFE IS RUINED BECAUSE I WAS A WITNESS...

by minimus in

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i know of so many people that blame everything on the fact that they were witnesses.have a lousy job?

it's because you were a witness.

angry over anything?

Tinkerbell4125

LoveDubs, I feel your lose and I'm sorry that you are having such a tough time right now. It's a healing process that you have to go through, we all morn for our j.w. families, but we learn to move on and form new families. DNA doesn't make you family. Many families are devided by many different things in this world. Many families other than Jehovah's Witnesses don't speak for different reasons. It's unfortunate, but it happens. This doesn't mean that you can't have many many loving caring people in your life. I've learned over the years to create my own family. You can too. I am fortunate to have some siblins that I am close to and I am grateful for that. But as for the rest that I don't see anymore, I try to remember the good and move on. I've wished them well, and I'm living my life. You will get past this diffucult time and learn to take what you have and be happy. It takes working through the anger though. You hang in there and be proud of yourself. You will make it, just take it one day at a time.

Tink

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The shunning begins

by LovesDubs in

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check out my mother in laws new thinking...already the jws have firmly replaced her ability to think for herself:.

"dear d"i just got your note today, since i was out of commission for a week or more.i wasn't "waiting to tell you," nor was i going to" jump back into shunning d." i just didn't think this was going to be happy news, and judging from your choice of words in this note, i was right!

i have been going to meetings for a couple of months and have expressed a desire to be reinstated.

Tinkerbell4125

Rwagoner, I agree with everything you said. I'm in the same boat, but like you, I'm not going out quietly anymore. I said my piece about the silentlambs issue and I really stepped on some toes. But at least I stood up and will continue to do so! I'm sure in the future if I run into some j.w.'s they will ignore me like the plege. I do have close relationship's with some of my siblins and I'm taking that and being grateful for that. The rest of them, I wish them well.

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The shunning begins

by LovesDubs in

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check out my mother in laws new thinking...already the jws have firmly replaced her ability to think for herself:.

"dear d"i just got your note today, since i was out of commission for a week or more.i wasn't "waiting to tell you," nor was i going to" jump back into shunning d." i just didn't think this was going to be happy news, and judging from your choice of words in this note, i was right!

i have been going to meetings for a couple of months and have expressed a desire to be reinstated.

Tinkerbell4125

LoveDubs, my heart goes out to you and your children. You letter brought back some old memories of when I was 26 and I recieved a letter from my mother. She basically told me that she wouldn't be having any contact with me, when Jehovah lost me, he lost a angel, bla bla bla. We didn't see each other for 13 years later. I would see her occasionally *less than 5 times* somewhere, but we wouldn't speak. I was able to have a relationship with her just before she died, but it was strained because of the j.w. issues. The fact that she was my mother made it very difficult for me to just walk away completely. I wish I had known then what I know now about the WTS, I'm sure I would have handled my life alot differently. We didn't have the internet back then! The fact that you know the real truth about everything, this will impower you to hold your head up high and be proud of youself and your life. You wont be hindered with guilt like I was. You will have to deal with each and every situaion that comes to you and when they do, try to leave it where you can look back and say I'm proud of the way I handled that! I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers that are still j.w.'s and we have no conmunication. I have to deal with having close relationships with certain siblins, and those siblins are close to my other j.w. siblins. I'm learning to accept that there are some things that we are just powerless too and move on. It's not always easy, but I've learned to enjoy life without worrying what my siblins think or not. You keep yourself away from as much toxic family stuff as you can. Have you written your mother back? If so what did you say? If you haven't and you decide to, remember to keep calm and try to look past the j.w. crap and know that your mother is in there somewhere. Remember she is blind and it's really sad. Don't get mad, be sad for her! I would explain to my children what is going on, that it is her religion that keeps her away, and it's not their fault. You hang in there. My mother and I had a strained relationship, and even though it was pleasant in the end, I can never make up for all the lost years. Just try to make this time the best you can. I feel like I could give you so much advice, but I don't want to write a book! Let us know how you are doing.

Tink (((((((cyber hug))))))

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A warm thanks!

by Tinkerbell4125 in

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hey guys!.

i just wanted to give you a warm thank-you for all your sweet comments and the well wishes!

i'm recoving very well from my surgury and i'm feeling quiet good!

Tinkerbell4125

He sure did imanaliento! He is a sweetheart, he truly is!

Thanks again everyone!

Tink =;o)

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I was a JW child

by CBeMe in

my mother started studing with the jw's when i was 2 years old.

she became more involved with the organization over the next few years.

i was very young so i don't remember much about my early years in the jw's.

Tinkerbell4125

CBeMe, welcome girl!!!

You sound like a very bright young woman!!! I have no doubt that you will find success in New England! I think it sounds exciting, and that you should go for it!!! Just keep yourself in the company of *good company* and will do great!!! Don't look back and enjoy this life that is right in front of you!!! You've got the best years ahead of yourself girl, the rest of your life, enjoy them fully!!!

Glad to have ya! Tink

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A warm thanks!

by Tinkerbell4125 in

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hey guys!.

i just wanted to give you a warm thank-you for all your sweet comments and the well wishes!

i'm recoving very well from my surgury and i'm feeling quiet good!

Tinkerbell4125

Hey guys!

I just wanted to give you a warm thank-you for all your sweet comments and the well wishes! I'm recoving very well from my surgury and I'm feeling quiet good! I'm not able to get back into my regular exercise, but I'm getting there!

Thank you all for your concern! I haven't been on line for about a week. I'm waaaaay behind, I'll never catch up! But, I wanted to drop in and thank ya! =;o)

I appreciate it!

Tink =;o)

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Please forgive me...!!

by ELON14 in

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i'm new here and this is the first post i make (i promise that more will come).

i have been following most of the posts made here quietly for about 4 months and i would like to thank all of you who are called apostates for the well documented and researched material you have presented here.thanks to you i know now the truth about the wt organization and i'm no longer blind and misled.

i disassociated myself about 2 months ago after 15 years of very "faithful" service to the society.i was regular pioneer for 12 years and an elder for 8 years, i served mainly as the service overeer.my experience was published in the 2 of the society's magazins.. as i was a very zealous and prominent elder in my circuit i zealously promoted the organizational rules and i allowed myself to be fully used by the society to promote those mind controle techniques that now i know hurt those who were my sheep.

Tinkerbell4125

It's so nice to meet you! As you can see here, you have met alot of really nice folks! Good people, with good hearts, that has left the org.and started to live a rich and full life! I lost my dad to depression in Oct. 1996. It has been a long road of grief that I have endured, along with the rest of my family. I have discovered strength that I never knew I had. You will find this too my friend. Don't let the guilt eat you up. In my fathers situation, I would think of how I could have done things differently, why didn't I? You will wear the *whys* and *what if's* out. The years following my father's death, I put myself in with a situation where I could draw comfort from, people who had experiences of the same impact. People who where highly trained in dealing with that kind of grief. I even put myself before a panel of professial councelors in order to help them in dealing with someone who had lost someone to depression. In time, I was able to work thought alot of my feelings and it has helped me tremendously. You will also find that support here. It's nice to have you. When you are ready to share your story, we will be here for you. =:o)

{{{{warm cyber hug}}}}

Tink =:o)

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Sept. 30, 1955

by CC Ryder in

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sept. 30, 1955 james dean was killed in a car accident.. sept. 30, 1955 cc ryder was born.. that's right....it's my birthday!!!!!.

but i don't guess i turned into james dean at birth...lol.

cc

Tinkerbell4125

Happy Birthday Baby!!!

You're the best ever!!!

LOVE YOU!!!!!

Tink

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Greetings from New York!

by safe4kids in

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hey everyone,.

i am currently sitting in the hotel lobby typing this on their computer .

i don't have time to accurately relate what it was like; all i can tell you is that it was one of the most moving and empowering things that i have ever done.

Tinkerbell4125

Safe4kids, well I am sitting here and I am so jealous!!!!!!! I wished so much that I could go and be with you guys! I'm just now getting over my surgury and I'm feeling much better today. CC and I met Bill and Barbara and Joe and many more a few weeks back at a ex-j.w.meet-up in Nashville. We all have a really nice visit. Post pic's if ya got'tem!

Tink

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Great photo of Mulan and Bill Bowen

by Mulan in

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i have wanted to post this photo of myself, with bill, taken a year and a half ago, for a long time.

he kept telling me not to, since dateline hadn't aired yet.

i came across it today, and decided i could do it now.

Tinkerbell4125

Great pic Mulan!!! I met Bill a few weeks ago at a ex-j.w. meet-up! CC and I met Barbara and Joe Anderson also! We all had the best time!!!! I hope we get to have many more! They are good people!

Glad you had a good time too Mulun and thanks again for sharing your pic!

Tink