Sosoconfused, I cried when I read your moms letter. The statements she believes are from her heart are a parrot of words she has been taught by this organizarion. Why do I make this staement. I have heard the same exact words from my sister, mother-in-law, and sister-in-law. It amazes me how close each staement parrots the same ones I have heard over and over. If this is not brainwashing I do not brainwashing would be. My heart goes out to you, wife, children and parents. To even be put in the position to feel such a letter must be written. Follow your heart.
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My Mom has decided to turn me in... I am not afraid (Letter Inside)
by sosoconfused inthe only reason i am posting this is because i know many of you are going or will be going through something similar and wonder if it is worth it.
i personally feel that it is worth it regardless of what i lose.
my wife is backing me and i have my children.
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Unbelievable Experience in Yearbook
by gingerbread ina number of years back i heard a story of a young girl in a congregation ( i have some good friends in this hall ) who had an amazing field service experience.
it was so amazing that it was retold in the 2007 yearbook!.
it is retold in the highlight of the past year section.
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Mynfavorite part of assemblies were not accurate. This actually saddened me. Another bubble busted.
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Week of worry
by gma-tired2 inmy husband and i have had a long week worrying we would lose our niece, and yes the blood issue was very much part of the problem.
it is new to us to actually have the blood issue affect our family, but it really makes you think.
we would have immediately given her blood, but she and husband are still jws.
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Thank you everyone. As of last night none of the Elders have even been to the hospital. These two young people are active in the congregation. No one from the Blood Liason has even been there. Neices mom has been there every step with them even though she is DFd. She is the one taking care of the other children, and sad the rest of us are unable to be there as we live in other states. Maybe they will start to question TTATT. Without family life gets harder.
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exJW Psychology 103--Let's Reconsider "Confidentiality"
by Billy the Ex-Bethelite inover the course of decades as a jw, an elder, a bethelite, then learning ttatt and wanting to leave, i'd collected a lot of insight into the power of "confidentiality.
" although the confidentiality in a judicial hearing is supposedly to protect the sinner, in actuality, i saw that it was about control and was protecting the power of the jc.. i didn't use any of this knowledge until i was called before the boe because the other elders figured they had grounds to remove me as an elder.
it was a work situation that only lasted a matter of hours, but it was enough that they seized the moment.
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Billy you are right the more they said for us not to talk we started sharing with everyone. They totally lost control of trying to control a situation that honestly I knew was none of their business. They didnt want to know DIL ran home to mama and daddy because her new husband told her they couldn't have a vaction in addition to DC. I have often wondered if Elders had stayed out it, if they would have given marriage a second chance.
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exJW Psychology 103--Let's Reconsider "Confidentiality"
by Billy the Ex-Bethelite inover the course of decades as a jw, an elder, a bethelite, then learning ttatt and wanting to leave, i'd collected a lot of insight into the power of "confidentiality.
" although the confidentiality in a judicial hearing is supposedly to protect the sinner, in actuality, i saw that it was about control and was protecting the power of the jc.. i didn't use any of this knowledge until i was called before the boe because the other elders figured they had grounds to remove me as an elder.
it was a work situation that only lasted a matter of hours, but it was enough that they seized the moment.
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Yes, I do. 20 years ago we had a family problem. DIL left my son. The Elders kept telling my son not to talk to family or friends, told me not to talk to family, or friend same said to my mother and best friend, and yes we spoke to each other for SUPPORT. When Elders would come to one or another to caution us on talking about the matter, we just kept telling them we were talking for support as they werent giving my son any. They hated us because they couldn't keep subjects in the backroom and yes many of the brothers and sisters gave us their SUPPORT. I hope this makes a little sense too those of you reading.
Need to add yes we were all marked but since we were a family with long term standing in congregation, it didnt work the way they thought. They tried to reign my elderly outspoken mother but she looked at these Elders she had watched grow up and said to the " Who in the hell do you think you are. She got away with it. Love my mom.
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Week of worry
by gma-tired2 inmy husband and i have had a long week worrying we would lose our niece, and yes the blood issue was very much part of the problem.
it is new to us to actually have the blood issue affect our family, but it really makes you think.
we would have immediately given her blood, but she and husband are still jws.
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My husband and I have had a long week worrying we would lose our niece, and yes the blood issue was very much part of the problem. It is new to us to actually have the blood issue affect our family, but it really makes you think. We would have immediately given her blood, but she and husband are still JWs. It looks as of today she has a chance of surviving because they pinpointed the infection, which now has her body fighting the infection. She had a lot of blood loss due to emergency surgery, (new baby) but the Drs didnt have a clue what was interferring with her recovery until the finally found an unrelated infection. We have a family that is a mixture of active, inactive, faders and DFd so this has been a week where at least some of us are still in communication. We love her and wish her a speedy recovery.
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7 million Jehovah's Witnesses wasting 10 hours every month
by Terry inwhat if.... what if jehovah's witnesses spent their 70 million hours on something better than cartoon theology distribution?.
would this world be better served by:.
1.feeding the hungry?.
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My sister said last night she is skipping service today to work in her yard. I'm sure she will enjoy her weekend more.
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Another story of JW's and child abuse
by Black Man ini've really been getting into these life stories of ex jw's.
it just confirms i was right in getting out of the cult like the plague it is.
here's a link to another powerful story about ex-jw stephanie hammond.
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Black Man Thank You for youe posts they keep us realizing why we no longwe can be JWs. Keep your posts coming
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Finally ready
by independenthinker inok so i havent posted on here in over a year, i think i posted like a few times, then disappeared.. has anyone else like just shut it out?
like i joined here as soon as i found out, then after a month or two i just didnt want to think about it; i had my final exams, elders creeping about, my mom got crazier, i was starting college, other kinda issues, which made me just blot everything i learnt about my religion out.
well he hurt me too, oh i would give all my blood to you.
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Good job keep it up you have talent
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exJW Psychology 102--How to Ask a Question When Questions Aren't Allowed
by Billy the Ex-Bethelite innow that enough time has passed and i've moved away, i think i'm overdue to share some of the stories from my fade.
i've mentioned some of this before, but i think it deserves its own thread.. we all would like to be able to freely ask questions about jw beliefs and get our family and friends to really think about certain questions.
however, when you're a baptized jw, you really can't ask any good questions or you'll get the "apostate" label slapped on you!
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Trujw I believe how you and your wife were treated. I watched elders in action in 1988 and was so shocked and disappointed. I have only attended a handful of meetings since that experience. It wasn't even my problem they were attacking my early 20's son because his marriage wasn't working.