Posts by TweetieBird

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I am new here and need help...or just a listening ear

by Fallingaway in

12 years ago

my husband and i have two small children, one of which recently became an unbaptised publisher and joined the school.

my husband is an elder and firmly committed to our family and loves me deeply as i love him.

i would like to find a way for all of us to fade away as we have family in the organization that we do not want to lose.

12 years ago

TweetieBird 12 years ago

Hi Fallingaway and welcome. I have not read all of the other comments so if someone else touched on this, I apologize.

I remember a few years ago reading a post by a brother that was able to get his whole family out. Here is the link, maybe you will find some information helpful.

http://www.freeminds.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=392:how-i-helped-my-family-leave-jehovahs-witnesses&catid=48:restoring-family&Itemid=365

You seem to have a good relationship with your husband who may be awakening to the truth about "the truth". It's a long journey ahead of you, take it slow. This is a safe place for you to come and share your feelings. Most of the people here have been where you are now so you will gets lots of advice and information.

What got me through the first few years was going to the meetings and trying to find positive, uplifting scriptures to help me through the day. What I didn't have was the guilt of never measuring up so that helped.

The last time I stepped foot in a KH was last year for the memorial (hadn't been for a couple of years prior to that). My awakening began in 1997 and I can just now admit to family members that I no longer attend meetings. Most of them do not associate or communicate with us any longer but that's okay. I have my husband and children so that is what is important to me.

Hope this helps.

Leslie

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Coco Rocha: lonely celeb Jehovah's Witness

by recovering in

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12 years ago

here comments made me laugh.

" if you are not interested just say so".

http://www.nypost.com/p/pagesix/lonely_believer_jlww5fd1bwokhvuq7u2e9i.

12 years ago

TweetieBird 12 years ago

Here is another model, raised in the cult, but not sure she is still a witness. Her family is still in, at least 1 sister and parents.

http://www.amberarbucci.com/biography/

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How did you break the news to your parents?

by tootired2care in

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12 years ago

so one of the things both me and my wife are faced with is breaking the news that we've stopped going to meetings to our parents.

my wifes parents could go either way, they have made several critical remarks of the wt over the years, while my parents are die hard jw's.

i tossed the idea around of sending a letter or doing a phone call or just not saying anything.. we've decided that were just tired of having to hide our true feelings and play pretend.

12 years ago

TweetieBird 12 years ago

My mother-in-law forced it out of my husband one day on the phone. It's been strained since then. Recently got a letter from her about how we fit the definition of an apostate since we have left the faith. Fortunately, we live 300 miles from her so it's not an issue. She doesn't call us anymore and when my husband calls her it's short and sweet.

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CO from years ago

by z-monster in

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13 years ago

i haven't been to a kh in about 30 years.

i had come across isocf at a time when i briefly considered going back, about 10 or so years ago.. anyway, ray quotes a letter in chapter 7 from a co that mentions that r&f witnesses would be expected to do more during the co's visit.

thus feeling like an overwoked horse in a field.

13 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

Sorry Z, never heard of him. What part of the country did he serve in?

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Have you ever watched the Angels & Demons Movie?

by Iamallcool in

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13 years ago

i am thinking about renting it.

would you recommend me to watch it?

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13 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

I read the book, liked it even better than Davinci Code and watched the movie. It's been a while but I liked both.

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I hope you die...

by WatchTowerofBabel in

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13 years ago

i'm curious.

(true in both senses).

when i was a child i used to hope celebrities i liked (or wanted to boink) died before armageddon.

13 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

When my brother was dying of cancer (at age 44) he was at peace because he knew he had a straight ticket to paradise. He always struggled with being a witness (either extremely spiritual or barely going to meetings). For him, I think it was a relief for him because the struggle was over. I was having my awakening at the time so it was kind of hard for me to take.

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I hope you die...

by WatchTowerofBabel in

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13 years ago

i'm curious.

(true in both senses).

when i was a child i used to hope celebrities i liked (or wanted to boink) died before armageddon.

13 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

I remember when my dad died (he was apostate, but not me) I was so relieved because I felt like Jehovah knew what a kind, loving man he really was and that for sure he would be resurrected. When he disassociated himself, it felt like someone had gutted me with a knife. Strangely, not long after he died, I innocently found something on the web that forever changed me and then it became a burning mission to find out the truth about "the truth".

I told my oldest brother about this and he said that dad told him that of all of his kids, I would be the one to come around. I know this sounds strange but I felt like he (my dad) was the one pushing me to keep investigating even though he was dead.

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For those of you who were die hard JW's, did you ever think...

by TweetieBird in

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13 years ago

you would find yourself on this side of the fence?.

13 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

you would find yourself on this side of the fence?

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JW Tragic murder was by JW

by snare&racket in

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13 years ago

http://www.katu.com/news/local/report-holt-heichel-were-members-of-same-church-175169201.html.

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how sad......

12 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

So sad...I wonder what made him snap.

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Could you live with not talking to your JW family for the rest of your life?

by ÁrbolesdeArabia in

13 years ago

one of greatest obstacles to leaving the organization is the destruction of the family unit.

as lady-lee wrote about oompa, i thought of this topic, the society says "this is their way to get wrong doing people to return to the loving arms of jehovah after they repent of their sins" .

i know of men and women who are in good standings and hate their fellow spiritual jw family, i am willing to bet, wager that "jw-hatred" exceeds the worlds hatred, something about a self-assured group versus the "not so self assured' creates one plucked up structure.

13 years ago

TweetieBird 13 years ago

bigmac - I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Thank God that none of my children, nor my husband are still controlled by the organization. The people that I care about most escaped.

Heaven - we are pretty much in the same boat with the rest of our families. I have one brother who left the organization before me (yep, I kind of shunned him for a while) and a sister who is still in. She doesn't shun me but makes no effort to communicate. My husband's family (all in) have nothing to do with us unless they need something. His mother recently wrote us a letter calling us apostates.

Ziddina-so sorry that your parents were like that. I can't even imagine.

Leslie - (good name, btw...wink, wink, same as mine) we tried going back also to feel apart of our families again. Just couldn't do it. Once you come out of the matrix, there's no going back in.

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