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  Told my JW mom

  by Mrs Smith in

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  just wanted to let you all know about my phone call to my mom.

  she was telling me how upset she is that all three of her kids no longer are active jw's.

  i could no longer keep quite and i told her how upset am that she still is an active jw.

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  Thats good news. Keep us posted.
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  The serious conversation with the wife about the cult

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  if you needed my background, this thread will tell it-.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/121888/1.ashx.

  my wife recently asked me about not commenting at a wt study.. our discussion was the topic of this thread-.

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  Hi OnTheWayOut, You are going through with what my husband went through for a few years. It took me longer to come around but I had the same feelings as your wife. The WTS demonizes anyone that is not a JW, convinces you that if you leave "the truth" you will immediately go out and lead a wicked life. Your approach with her is excellent, keep dropping tidbits along the way. For me, the final nail in the coffin was the UN thing, I felt like if they lied about that, what else did they lie about.
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  Leaving Florida and Moving to Ontario!

  by Saoirse in

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  it's official, we will be moving to the toronto area within the next month or so.

  my husband was offered an incredible job in canada so we flew up here to check it out.

  we totally fell in love with the place.

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  Glad to hear you are moving on. We did the same thing and it was honestly the best thing we ever did. You can really start your life over again with no religious baggage. Don't worry about the KH. They will probably only work your area once or twice a year. You could just flat out tell them that you use to be witnesses but saw the light, they will probably mark you down as a "do not call." I have a friend that moved from Florida to Montreal and he loves it there. Good luck to you.
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  Confessing to the elders...

  by tan in

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  has anyone ever had to confess their sins to the elders...left out some of the details or "other gross" sins...but wondered if you were truly forgiven of your sins?

  or was reproved and given back your priviledges but knew that you didn't tell everything.

  how did you feel afterward?

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  I have a male relative that was recently reproved after getting caught with a married sister. He went into the back room and fessed up to that wrongdoing, leaving out the dozens of other women he's banged over the last few years. He feels that Jehovah has forgiven him for all of the wrongs even though he only confessed to one of them. He felt that if Jehovah wanted them to know about it, it would have come out, hence, his conscience is clean and now he is trying to stay on the straight and narrow. I give it 6 months.

  What I really find disturbing is that he genuinely believes that JW's have the truth. How he can justify committing fornication is beyond me.
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  Judical Committee/ Plea for Reinstatement help

  by livingalie in

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  2. experiences

  hello to all it has been awhile since my last post but i have been lurking .i just wanted to be careful since i have been trying to be reinstated.

  to give you a little background in short after i left bethel (1993-1999) in 1999 i got married to a local sister from new york city ( brooklyn).i worked at different jobs but the last job i had was with the city of ny after 9/11 i lost the job .i told my wife about a job down south ,i told her that i would go down try the job out and if it looks like a good fit and it would work out she should move down in a few months .the job was going great things were looking up i told her to moved down but she hated the town said it was to small nothing to do but the great thing about it was that her job was in the town also all she would have to do was just transfer no job hunting at all .

  my wife would not move this went on for the next 2 years she said she was coming down then she said she need to finish up something at work .

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  My heart goes out to you. Its obvious that you want to get reinstated so that you can have a relationship with your mom and dad and siblings. Do you want to get back with your wife? Like others have said, you have to play their game, unfortunately. Someone else suggested that you write your wife letters, make every attempt to reconcile. Either she will agree or she will tell you it's completely over. At that point, you can tell the elders that you've tried everything possible to make it right, but that she can't and won't forgive you. For your sake, you should hope that she doesn't forgive you because if you do end up getting back together, she will probably never let you forget it. I will tell you this, the family thing is over-rated. I have siblings that are still in but it wouldn't really bother me to be disfellowshipped at this point. But, that's just me. My parents (dead now) would have never disowned me, no matter what. My inlaws would but I don't live near them anyway. The freedom I feel right now is far superior to the relationship I have with my believing JW family. I'm a fader and the family doesn't know but I'm sure the day will come when they find out. I'm ready for it. I have a loving husband and children (only 1 a JW but quit going to meetings recently) That is the only family I need. I hope you find some happiness. I hope you find someone that will love you unconditionally because most JW's can only give you love that is conditional.
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  Please rescue me! I just got hit with a JW Mac Truck!

  by truthsearcher in

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  oh my, i just had a visit from a jw who proceeded to, for an hour and half, try and cover every doctrine in the book, jump from scripture to scripture, half the time i was so confused about what was being said.

  the other witness barely got a word in edgewise.

  i quickly realized that there was going to be no discussion--it was sit and listen and try and look intelligent.

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  Jourles...that was too funny! I have got to get me one of those.
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  Wanted to share, I helped my brother

  by rassillon in

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  i will try to make this short.

  my brother has been dfed for about 17 years with a one year respit in the middle.

  my family has never been the kind that just totally cuts off dfed family members.

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  So happy for you. When I started to fade, I confided in my older brother (who had left years before) that I was having doubts. It was such a relief to be able to talk to someone about my feelings. I'm glad you two are reconnecting.
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  What state are you from?

  by Junction-Guy in

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  this is for the us crowd, what state do you live in?

  or from?----i live in tennessee, but from ohio and kentucky.

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  The most southern part of Southern California and love it. I'm with youevetteto.
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  How do you make friends once leaving the Borg?

  by unhappy in

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  so i'm starting the fading out now, and i'm avoiding all kh 'friends,' but am finding it a bit lonely, as was raised in org, and was always taught to shun worldly people even at school.

  does anyone have any advice or experiences about how to overcome this?

  how they met and made new friends in the beginning?

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  You might try www.craigslist.com if they have it in your area. There is a section under personals, strictly platonic. You can then search under w4w or m4m, whatever you are looking for. There are a lot of people out there that have just as much trouble making new friends (the older you get the harder it becomes IMHO). Anyway, there are people who have just moved to a new area and are in need of friendships just like you. I actually made friends with someone that way and we get together a couple of times a month for drinks or dinner and discuss whatever. I told her how I was raised a JW and that life outside can be difficult to adjust to at first, but it does get a lot easier. I have also met other friends through her so my circle is getting a lot bigger.
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  The truth about the donation arrangement

  by Wolfgirl in

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  i never knew this...just found it today.

  made me giggle.. payment of sales tax on literatureon 17 january1990 the u.s. supreme court made a ruling that sales tax must be paid on religious literature.

  the following month, a letter from the watchtower society went out to all congregations stating that there would no longer be a set price for literature but that they would be given to the public on a donation basis.

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  Thanks, Mary for coming to my defense. The bottom line for me as far as the Jimmy Swaggert, donation and the UN thing is this...for an organization that is suppose to be Jehovah's organization led by holy spirit, they seem to be NOT relying on that holy spirit to take care of things. Why now allow Jehovah's holy spirit to take care of things?