hi people.
in all my life i have only looked in a womans handbag once.
it was close to looking at the arc of the covenant.
Wallet, sunglasses,
many lip glosses :) always trying to find the perfect shade.....also about 100 hair slides/bobby pins (long hair!)
iphone
receipts which must be hidden (also in the back of my car!)
sweets (for emergency sugar hits) & nurofen plus, tampons
thats it, but.....like everyone else, no one is allowed in my bag, so if ever I had something to hide that's where it would go!
i have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
Hi Fran, welcome! It's never too late to change your life, this board is great because everyone has been through similar experiences, it's a good place to vent! I'm glad your kids are out........you've got so much to enjoy now, not looking over your shoulder, not being judged all the time, free time for fun stuff!!!
the more you learn about the truth, the less hold it has over you...
I hope you get out & enjoy the world a bit....there's a lot on out here! Welcome again!
i have a new poll at jwfacts.mobi/pollsarchive/ as i am very interested to see what people have moved on to believe.
as this is considered sensitive by some, you can answer anonymously at the jwfacts.mobi/pollsarchive/, or answer on this thread.
this is what i have created in the list, but feel free to add comments, corrections, or options i have missed.. .
Atheist
recognizing the spiritual needs of many, and the influx of newly interested ones, the beast-tower writing committee has compiled a thorough list of the articles published by the 'discreet virgin class', for the upbuilding of honesthearted ones.
no doubt you will appreciate the many changes that have been made in our articles over the years, and thus have your faith strengthened that those whom jehovah has appointed are carrying out their god-given responsibilities thoroughly.
we encourage you to read and meditate on these articles, and in doing so, we pray that your relationship with jehovah will surely be renewed from day to day.. your brother,.
The light is getting brighter!
i have come here for any advice and support that anyone can give and i really need it now.
i don't talk about these issues with my siblings anymore because they have already told me that they have no advice and can't help.
feelings of anxiety have been overwhelming me the lat 2 years and it makes me feel like a scared little child.
Marriedtoajw, you are good guy!
I know it seems far less important than the major problems you are facing, but you said at the start you had gained weight due to your sedentary job. Could you try some exercise, or yoga, for both physical and mental benefits? You are under so much stress. I find yoga amazing, learning how to breathe and meditate could help you?
Its a small thing, but may help make tackling the big things easier?
i have come here for any advice and support that anyone can give and i really need it now.
i don't talk about these issues with my siblings anymore because they have already told me that they have no advice and can't help.
feelings of anxiety have been overwhelming me the lat 2 years and it makes me feel like a scared little child.
Hey married to a JW,
If I didn't know better I'd say you are my dad, your story sounds exactly like my family. JW mum, very opposed dad. So maybe I can help a little bit by telling what happened in the next 20 years.
All of us kids left the religion in our 20s, and we gradually established some sort of relationship with my dad.
At 70 years of age my witness mother left my dad ( after 44 years ). This was allowed because I think she felt the marriage jeopardized her sanity. They Hated each other and have never spoken again.
They are both so much happier, particularly my dad. You'd think at 70, why bother? But he has made so many friends and is finally having the social life he deserved to have. We haven't spoken to Mum for years, she is entrenched as a JW.
I deeply wish that my dad had left when he was younger, why?
When I was a kid I used to look at dad and see how angry he was all the time, yelling, scathing about the witnesses. This played right into mums hands as she constantly told us this was sadly an example of his worldly ways. Now I see how impossible it was for him in a house run by a JW, nothing like a normal family. When I asked him why he stayed, he said " to provide an alternative for you kids".
I respect this reasoning, but I think what we needed was a rational, sane, calm adult providing the alternative, not anger. I also hated seeing the sh*ty life that he had. Kids want to see their parents happy!!!
I'm sorry if this next part sounds extreme, but I haven't got much time so I'm going to be blunt....save yourself! Get yourself a life! Be happy! Maintain contact with your kids......that is the greatest gift you can give them. Let them know you are there to talk to. It sounds like you have had a really bad time, your kids will be lucky to have a close relative who is not a witness, you will be there if they need you! Good luck!!!!!!
i made my first post (which i have attached) more than 2.5 years ago.. sad to say i am still in the same situation.
still "physically in" but have mentally been gone for years.
i am still in my marriage and unfortunatly things have not gotten any better as far as me being able to help him see the light as far as the organization.. i am at a serious crossroad though because i am almost 30 years old, with no children.
Hey, lostinnj83, welcome back.
I know you probably don't feel it, but you are still really young! Young enough to take the life you have and grab it with both hands, don't live a half life.
I think its hard for us raised as JWs to do this because we were not taught this way of living. We were taught to be obedient, to put our own selfish desires aside until the new system.....
Whatever you want......freedom from JW, a marriage you are happy in? Or starting again and finding happiness with someone else? It's all available for you.
Recently someone told me that they walked away from a 20 year marriage, he said that you have to let go of the bad in order to make room for the good.....these words have stuck with me. Good luck to you lostinnj83!
i apologize for not writing much of anything in several weeks.. did you miss me?
(don't answer that!).
i am doing pretty good now after going through the worst year of my 60 years of life... but in order to make some changes that will enable me to keep working, i really had to take time off to take care of medical issues (mostly my spine - destroyed after 30 years spending 10-12 hours a day on the computer).
Thanks dog patch, I'm new to these forums, but have been out of TT for years. I'm blown away by the courage & strength of so many who have worked to expose what JW really is.
Even though I've been out for so long it's really hard to read all this stuff. I'm beginning to realize that I had some idea of a benevolent GB who were maybe just out of touch & misguided. Living on the other side of the world, people think of bethel as some kind of holy place. I never saw the org for what it really was, but I'm beginning to now.
Understanding the real nature of what we were a part of is another step towards freedom, thank you for all your work!
And look after your back!
sosoconfused mentioned this vaguely in his thread and it upset me... i asked him to post where i could find the information, trust me i went looking!
now lets read this:.
http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/w20121215/view-of-in-vitro-fertilization/.
It amazes me how the GB believes it has the god given directive to speak on matters which are none of its f**king business.
Those scriptures are clearly talking about fornication or adultery, to equate that to IVF is stupidity. I agree that the GB are none too fond of children, children take time, energy & $ away from their organization!
SophieG good luck on your quest to be a mum, go for it!
what does everyone think for that term?
i am diggin it!
i am thinkin no one has coined this?
Make it somewhere incredible like Hawaii???? All us non Americans would love it, It would be amazing to meet some people from this website one day.....
