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  Breastfeeding

  by Country Girl in

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  when my son was first born, my husband did not want me to breastfeed.

  he said he would be embarassed, although i was all hip on doing it.

  unfortunately, i just caved in and fed my son a bottle.

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  I don't think ANYONE is arguing that breastfeeding an infant/young child is not natural and loving.

  It's how it's done in public....particularily where men & women of all ages & ethnic backgrounds are gathered - and it can be done discreetly. Trust me.

  I breastfeed 3 babies back in the 70's for extended time periods (about 3 yrs total). One usually didn't do that in public in my area back then....blanket or no blanket. My husband (who had been a hippie) was freaked out if I breastfed my own child in my own living room with appropriate light blanket if a man was there too. But he was a jerk. Most of the time, if I breastfed near the public, I'd wear a blouse which could be pushed up - no problem.

  I think one should try to be sensitive to one's surroundings & people. We want others to do that for us too, don't we? A woman should be free to breastfeed her child where she chooses.....but I think discretion should be used.

  Personally? If I were in a fine/regular restaurant with my husband, I'd appreciate it if a mother would lift her blouse discreetly (like we used to do), or use a light covering. And it would irritate the hell out of me if a parent were to change the baby's crappy diaper where all around would have to endure the smell.....along with the food we're paying for.

  However, I don't think ANY mother should have to breastfeed her baby in a stall in a bathroom, sitting on a toilet - while a stranger uses the next stall. It's just demeaning to the mother & baby. I was coming into Walmart restroom while a young mother was coming out of a stall after breastfeeding her young infant. Public stalls are not known for their cleanliness, let alone smell - and Walmart is NOT above average. Hopefully, she'll just sit in the eating area next time and enjoy a Coke while her child feeds in comfort & cleanliness. Blanket or not blanket - no mother deserves a *crappy stall.*

  Like Billygoat.....this is my personal opinion - but I've been there, done that.

  ((((((((((((((((((((((((Andi))))))))))))))))))))))

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  3-27 & 28 2004 Child Abuse Conference Nashville Tennessee

  by blondie in

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  silentlambs summit .

  march 27-28, 2004 .

  nashville, tn .

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  Thanks for the info - and *btts* for this info.

  Nashville's a great place to visit - particularily if a day or two more can be spent there!

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  What do you collect?

  by FlyingHighNow in

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  besides dust?

  what do you collect?

  heather

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  lol - so many different ideas on what's interesting.

  I collect primarily china/yelloware/pottery/tinware. Watt pottery being the favorite. Moorcroft - when I can afford it - or find someone who doesn't know what it is.

  Love to find things centuries old - particularily if personal in some way. A touch back in time.

  Now I accumulate all kinds of crap! But that's different. My husband's a collector...and far worse.....a *saver.* As in, "I'd better save that....could use it someday."

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  Is This Winter Harsh Where You Live?

  by shamus in

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  our winter this year has been very strange.

  it was very warm originally, then lots of snow... we had a really nice spell here, and now wham!

  we're right in the middle of winter hell in the mountains, lol!

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  checking in from South Carolina. It was 60 last Saturday & sunny.

  Sunday it rained & 50.

  Ice storm Sunday night & 28.

  Ice storm Monday & 28 & no power. No one on roads.

  Tuesday, iced in, 28 & power back on. No one on roads - except those having to work & idiots.

  Wednesday, 45 & back to work.

  By Saturday? 60 degrees again...but rain. Welcome SC weather again.

  We've had it easy compared to our friends in Yankeeland.

  ((((((((((((((Yankees))))))))))))))))))))
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  Everybody, I need your help re Daughter

  by xjw_b12 in

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  as some of you know, when cj and i were married, i adopted her daughter, and raised her as my own.

  i love her so much, i never referred to her as step-daughter, and never will.

  she calls me dad, even though her biological father, somehow found his way out out of the woodwork, when she turned 18.

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  She didn't give me any hassle, she said it's our house, our rules, so I was relieved, but then again she was in a crisis moment, her boyfriend was attacked last night by a machete wielding man.

  Sorry 'bout that. poor guy. Perhaps your daughter will need your companionship more during their visit - things like that hit hard with some people.

  Enjoy your visit with them.

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  Racism and Violence in Indiana

  by little witch in

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  indiana has seemingly become a hotbed of racism and violence.

  you may remember the wacked out fella that shot an innocent man coming out of the korean church on the bloomington iu campus a couple of years ago?

  he (the shooter)was a member of the worldwide church of god ran by the nut from illinois.

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  My xhusband lives in that town outside of Brown County Park (where millions go to watch the leaves turn colors - as someone told me *down here* in sc.)

  I would strongly suggest you look to *disposing* of him to end many of the Indiana problems. He's a big part of it. Besides that, I have life insurance on the bastard.

  Other than that...............Indiana has always had major people problems. I was born in Indpls, moved to Kokomo as an adult (ugh.) and then on to Lafayette (nice.)

  The KKK was quite active in Indpls in the early century - rallys were still being held openly during the 60's & 70's.

  I've heard it before (and continue the *perhaps* falseness of it) that Indiana has spawned more serial killers than any other state. I tend to agree with that statement.

  Loved the movie, Hoosiers, however.

  waiting - south carolina

  ps: no insult meant to the many nice Hoosiers, and there are some. Some guy I used to work with found out I was from Indy. His mouth fell open with "You people! You're the most outspoken, cussin' people ah EVER met!" Me: "and your point would be....."
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  Special Note

  by Amazing in

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  well folks, this is it ... this big moment has arrived ... and as a result, i will have to be very careful about what i post ... however, the governing buzzard series is still on ... i have to get down to it soon ... just around the corner ... anytime now .

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  well dayum. i AM waiting (really, I am)........and some people are saying that THEY'RE waiting.

  they are not.

  Besides..........I'm also one of the oldest (feeling it in every way btw) on this board.

  So I'm waiting, I'm old............and I'm going to pm amazing.

  so there.

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  Everybody, I need your help re Daughter

  by xjw_b12 in

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  as some of you know, when cj and i were married, i adopted her daughter, and raised her as my own.

  i love her so much, i never referred to her as step-daughter, and never will.

  she calls me dad, even though her biological father, somehow found his way out out of the woodwork, when she turned 18.

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  Haven't read all replies, most of first page. I agree with Lady Lee (no big surprise there).

  It's not only JW's who aren't totally open to the idea of having grown kids come home & sleep together with their dates. My brother in law will not allow it in his house, period. His 3 daughters are approx. same age as xjw & cj's......and it is just not allowed. Even if they were engaged, and/or living together.....it would not be allowed. It's his house....and he's a Methodist (and not that devout) - and really quite open minded about many things.

  When he & his fiance' visited his mother & stayed the night, HE insisted that they stay in separate bedrooms (even though they lived together) - he felt he owed it to his mother not to make her uncomfortable in her own home. He was The Guest & felt she had offered enough in opening her home to them.

  In our house? If my grown kids came home to visit & stayed the night with a person they have a long term, serious, arrangement - I'd go for it. Heterosexual or homosexual - it's not proper to draw the line now, eh?

  However...............if I had young teens in the house? I think I'd answer this thread differently.

  I'd certainly ASK the visiting couple if they'd mind terribly if they stayed in seprate rooms, if I or my husband was uncomfortable with the idea. I just can't imagine a GUEST (and a grown child is still coming in as a guest) being so rude as to demand to have the right of sex - even though it made their hosts/parents terribly uneasy - or that sustaining from sex for a couple days/week would be injurious to their bodies/egos.

  The "free time" built into the schedule for the guests makes good sense though. Guess it depends upon family relations/nationality more than the jw aspect.

  Good luck with the visit - and enjoy!

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  Is the rank and file aware of the serious dilema the WTS is facing?

  by fearnotruth22 in

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  2. scandals

  the rank and file fears "apostates" hence jws will not accpet any evidence or arguments from succh like ones.

  the mind set automatically rejects any charges against the wts without examining facts obejectivle because the wts cannot be wrong.by definition jws view the wts as god's agency, so it cannot be wrong and even if it is wrong, it is for a reason that god is allowing it and it is god's arrangement and not the business of the rank and file to judge for themselves on that but,to leave it in j's hand and in time it will be taken care of.

  in law that is called a catch all, which is sometimes the power that a judge is empowered with by the state to use his discretion and do whatever the hell he wants, pardon the phrase.. it is true that the wts has opoosers that distort facts and trump up charges in order to discredit the wts, but false accustaions against thewts do not camcel out real evidence that challenges the wt and above and beyond wt teachings is the evidence that puts a differebnt spin on and shows another perspective of the bible, and the concept of god affecting in peoples lives.

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  Oh! I was talking with my 82 yr old mil yesterday about all the old, old, WT books she has.

  We both acknowledged that all people should know and remember their own history.

  We both acknowledged "many mistakes in those" & her Really Quick comments about the light getting brighter, learn by our mistakes, yada yada.

  And then I remembered something I had read on our forum within the last couple of weeks - an excellent response to the above "old light" idea.

  "But, yanno, old cranky woman (thinking that) - if Jesus came to the earth to choose his True Followers in 1914 - what made him choose Jehovah's Witnesses? What were the *truths* that Russell taught that were different from all the other religions? Aren't those truths in those old books?"

  No more comments from her. JW's are stuck on that one.....there are no teachings of Russell that they still hold to - but they can't admit it. lol - they can't hold to the truths that were supposedly true 10 years ago....and now "old light."

  I'm so glad to be outta of the JW cult!
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  Is the rank and file aware of the serious dilema the WTS is facing?

  by fearnotruth22 in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  the rank and file fears "apostates" hence jws will not accpet any evidence or arguments from succh like ones.

  the mind set automatically rejects any charges against the wts without examining facts obejectivle because the wts cannot be wrong.by definition jws view the wts as god's agency, so it cannot be wrong and even if it is wrong, it is for a reason that god is allowing it and it is god's arrangement and not the business of the rank and file to judge for themselves on that but,to leave it in j's hand and in time it will be taken care of.

  in law that is called a catch all, which is sometimes the power that a judge is empowered with by the state to use his discretion and do whatever the hell he wants, pardon the phrase.. it is true that the wts has opoosers that distort facts and trump up charges in order to discredit the wts, but false accustaions against thewts do not camcel out real evidence that challenges the wt and above and beyond wt teachings is the evidence that puts a differebnt spin on and shows another perspective of the bible, and the concept of god affecting in peoples lives.

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  Hey gopher - good point.

  I think a lot of JW's are "resigned" to a life of quiet desperation within the organization.

  They're told they should be joyful, and when they aren't they feel it's their own fault. They're told that they should feel happy after meetings and service, and if they don't they blame themselves.

  My in-laws are living their lives "in quiet desperation within the organization." Their mantra is "Well, the meetings are where I'm supposed to be. Nobody's going to push me out." And they're speaking of others within their congregation - not apostates.

  At some - personal - point, some people get tired of being always wrong, always not good enough, always not working hard enough, always worried that Satan's stalking them, always secretly worried that Jehovah will kill them and their children at Armageddon - for a personal fault they didn't work hard enough on "while there was time."

  Thank God, Demons, or natural selection - my family individually got tired enough to take the flack & leave.

  As for JW's leaving? Something will have to engage them emotionally strong enough to allow themselves to think or feel.....and acknowledge those personal mechanisms.

  Many JW's are beginning to acknowledge "there's something not right here......"