USE - The JW doctrine from 2,000 year old sexist middle eastern culture
"I am the head of the house." This is no time to wimp out.
Stand up to her. Tell her she will not rule you or rule your house.
( and this is coming from the queen of feminism )
But I am guessing this is not a submissive woman.
Remind her she is supposed to be submissive according to the WT.
You as the man and "head of the house" do not have to make excuses to her.
You work and provide for her? You house and clothe and provide everything
for her and your children ? Take charge. Start taking that 8 years old on
some weekend outings to do fun stuff. And if she gives you "attitude"
tell her, you do not want to see "attitude"
Get the JW smile pasted on her face.
Tell her she is to BACK-OFF and forbid any interrogations
from her, or from elders. Don't let them BULLY you.
Stand your ground, do NOT explain yourself.
As soon as you try to explain yourself you play into their very
convoluted shame game. Point out to her, you have a right
to stay away from meeting, you have right to be with your children,
and to do as you see fit . Do not allow her to talk you DOWN to the children,
or criticsize you. No critism will be tolerated of the "Head of the House",
remind her she took vows to obey you.
Tell her what her place is, draw the line.
Defend yourself.