Posts by vajeni82

@ShirleyW- She got pretty far if I recall. I can't remember which song she went with, but I do remember trying as hard as I could not to laugh. I was in middle school at the time. She was a pretty cooky lady. She always gave out that hard candy with the wrapper that looks like a strawberry to the kids. It would be all nasty from being in tthe bottom of her purse. She has since passed away, but while she was around, she sure made things a little less dull.

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birthdays and baby showers

by wizardca in

my dad is turning a milestone number this month and decided he needed to celebrate a bit so the wife and i are putting together a birthday party for him.

two of my siblings are jws and 1 is not; nor is dad.

invited everyone to the celebration and of course got the "we don't celebrate birthdays" rsvp.

vajeni82

We always had baby showers fot the pregnant ladies. We treated it more like a housewarming party I guess. Though when you say it, it does seem like kind of the same thing.

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Whacky comments! What the craziest comment you've ever heard?

by toweragent in

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last week a sister in my new hall made the following comment,.

"a brother once told me that it is better to be wrong with the organization, than to be right and be on your own without the organization.".

wow.

vajeni82

These are amazing! I remember a talk whre the speaker kept saying "for all INTENSIVE purposes" it was so hard not to giggle. That theocratic education really doesn't live up to the hype.

I also remember a time when a sister raised her had to comment and started singing kingdom melodies when the mic got to her. They stopped calling on her after the second time. She was older, so I'm sure she was not of sound mind, but it made for an iteresting study.

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A tribute to a remarkable woman - Danmera Dinglebum (AKA JWN's "blond moment")

by cedars in

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richard e. kelly has just contributed another moving life story to jwsurvey.. here is the link.... http://jwsurvey.org/domestic-abuse-2/danmera-dinglebum-why-did-it-take-so-long.

i'm sure many of you will be familiar with danmera's brilliant and thought-provoking youtube videos.. for those who don't already know her story, this article should fill you in on the struggle she went through as a young woman thanks to her jw upbringing.. the fact that she has emerged through all of that, and blossomed into such a valuable member of our community, is truly inspiring.. .

cedars.

vajeni82

yesidid- If you watch her youtube videos, she says she started her baptism questions, but then changed her mind. I think that has a lot to do with it.

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A tribute to a remarkable woman - Danmera Dinglebum (AKA JWN's "blond moment")

by cedars in

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friends

richard e. kelly has just contributed another moving life story to jwsurvey.. here is the link.... http://jwsurvey.org/domestic-abuse-2/danmera-dinglebum-why-did-it-take-so-long.

i'm sure many of you will be familiar with danmera's brilliant and thought-provoking youtube videos.. for those who don't already know her story, this article should fill you in on the struggle she went through as a young woman thanks to her jw upbringing.. the fact that she has emerged through all of that, and blossomed into such a valuable member of our community, is truly inspiring.. .

cedars.

vajeni82

Very relateable. I'm so glad these stories are getting out there!

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Quickly becoming one of my favorite bands.

by dazed but not confused in

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i don't usually like folk bands but i love these guys.

the lumineers.

they were just on snl this last saturday.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvcbsswgtg4.

vajeni82

If you like The Lumineers & Mumford, try Horse Feathers or Iron & Wine.

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To those still "in" - how do you keep up a facade?

by magotan in

i can't come out until the summertime.

in the mean time, i have to feign interest like i want to stay so i don't end up homeless.. .

i can't sit at the meetings without getting visibily irritated.

vajeni82

I remember taking "notes" a lot when I was stuck. I particulary rememberthe time I wrote "Religion is the opium of the people" over and over and over for about 6 pages. Other times, I'd write lyrics to "worldly" songs. I also used to go to the Spanish meetings when I was allowed. They were a lot easier to drown out for me, but made it look like I was trying extra hard.

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Explaining what DF'd means to a non-witness

by babygirl30 in

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friends

i actually had to do this twice in the past 2 weeks - and it's really shaken things up!

the first time was last week.

my aunt (who lives out of state) asked me how my parents were doing (her brother and my mom)?

vajeni82

I've had many similar experiences. Since being DF'd 11 years ago, I've been able to finally get to know my extended non-JW family. They will always ask about my parents and sister and simply cannot believe the shunning! It's kind of sad that THEY are more upset about it than I am. I knew what would happen when I decided to quit. I wasn't calling anyone's bluff. A lot of people think we are just "having a fight" or "need to work it out". They simply can't fathom a parent rejecting a child like that. Growing up as a JW, all you know is conditional love. It's kind of sad to know that it didn't have to be that way.

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Hello??

by franticfran in

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friends

i have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.

i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.

scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???

vajeni82

Hi. Today is my first day too! I left the JW's a glorious 11 years ago! I still have parents and a sister on the inside though.