Posts by zamzummim

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Would you give your life to get your family out of the Watchtower?

by zugzwang in

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friends

i asked this question as part of another thread but i thought i would ask it in a new thread.

if there were some way to assure that your death would result in your family and friends learning the truth about the wts would you be willing to die to 'save' them?

zamzummim

Depends on the family member.

If it was my daughter, then the answer would be yes. For any other family member the answer would have to be no. My mom is still a JW, and there is no way I would give my life in order to liberate her.

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What Was Your Behavior Like Just Before You Left "The Truth"?

by minimus in

jw
friends

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were people shocked by your departure or was it pretty obvious you were on your way out?

zamzummim

I went out with a bit of a bang.

I had just given my first Sunday public talk, was a MS, and was to begin Regular Pioneering on Sept 1st. On August 31st, I ran off with a newly baptized woman, left my pioneer card, the key to the KH and my house key on the dresser in my house with a note to my wife.

Definitely not the best way to end a 5 year marriage, and I'm not proud of how badly I hurt my ex-wife. However, after being out 15 years, I can look back and say, "at least I'm out".

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Question about reaching out to old friends

by zamzummim in

jw
friends

hi all, i have a quick question about reaching out to old friends you used to know.

i was able to do some research on the internet and came across the name of an old friend of mine from when i was a jw.

there was actually quite a bit of information about his life and he's no longer married to the woman he was married to when we were both part of the org.

zamzummim

Thanks everyone!

Based on the encouragement here, I've decided to send my buddy an email. It's on it's way, so we'll see what happens.

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Question about reaching out to old friends

by zamzummim in

jw
friends

hi all, i have a quick question about reaching out to old friends you used to know.

i was able to do some research on the internet and came across the name of an old friend of mine from when i was a jw.

there was actually quite a bit of information about his life and he's no longer married to the woman he was married to when we were both part of the org.

zamzummim

Hi all, I have a quick question about reaching out to old friends you used to know.

I was able to do some research on the internet and came across the name of an old friend of mine from when I was a JW. There was actually quite a bit of information about his life and he's no longer married to the woman he was married to when we were both part of the org.

I'd like to reach out to him, but I have no clue whether he's still a JW, or if he's out.

Has anyone done this, and if so, can you offer any advice?

Thank you!

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Stockton, Lockeford, or Sacramento?

by zamzummim in

i used to belong to a congregation in stockton called quail lakes.

i also had some very good friends that moved out to lockeford and one couple moved to sacramento.. if you're from that area circa 1984-1990, please email me.

i would really like to find out if some of my old friends have "seen the light"!.

zamzummim

I used to belong to a congregation in Stockton called Quail Lakes. I also had some very good friends that moved out to Lockeford and one couple moved to Sacramento.

If you're from that area circa 1984-1990, please email me. I would really like to find out if some of my old friends have "seen the light"!

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finally got my thoughts gathered to share......

by scootergirl in

i am relatively new to the board and have to say have never had such a heartwarming welcome from so many people!

it feels so comforting to make new friends that "understand" where i have come from.. i have read many many stories, and have sat back in awe....wow, what stories.

mine is quite simple, but none-the-less my story.

zamzummim

I can't imagine how hard it must have been being a female in such a male dominated religion.

Reading some of these stories makes me so furious at how the JW's made everyone feel so bad about being human, and experiencing human emotions.

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Newbie experience.....

by zamzummim in

what better way to join the board than jumping in with both feet?

(sorry if it's too long).

my experience is somewhat similar to the ones i've read here.

zamzummim

Thank you all for making me feel so welcome.

Rem, it's been great trading emails with you. I'm so impressed with the stand that you took. I know how hard it must have been. It's like starting your life all over again.

And Penn, thanks for the encouraging words....I've already chosen what is right and feel no further need to explain my actions, either to God, to Christ, or to any human dead or alive.

Thanks again to all of you for making me feel so welcome here.

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A Plea For Responsible Reporting

by hillary_step in

jw
friends

many hundreds of people read this site who are not subscribed, and i would suspect that the vast majority are jw's looking for answers to an internal turmoil that they may be living with.. the information posted on this board does get read and then passed among many congregations of jw's.

this information is a powerful force and is a wonderful thing for those who are seeking to be informed, and a not so wonderful thing to those in brooklyn who are seeking to harness the boundaries of knowledge.. given this scenario, and how much credibility can be lost by xjw's who perpetuate gossip and innuendo, can we check our sources and facts very carefully before we post information to this board.

there is no particular nobility in being first with news about some aspect of wts life.

zamzummim

I think that part of the problem is the emotional nature of this topic.

There are so many people that feel extreme hurt and anger by their days in the JW organization that it's only natural to want to lash out and try and inflict pain and suffering.

This too shall pass.

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Our Second Un-Invitation Card

by ozziepost in

some of you may remember the post about the un-invitation card which is sent to da/df persons who have previously been invited to a wedding.

the un-invitation card tells them not to turn up!.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=27313&site=3.

zamzummim

It's pains me to say that I used to shun my sister. I thought at the time that I was doing what was right. I missed the birth of my nephew but fortunately for me, my sister was there when I was ready to leave the "truth".

Your daughter will soften as time goes by. She will eventually realize that family is too important.

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Newbie experience.....

by zamzummim in

what better way to join the board than jumping in with both feet?

(sorry if it's too long).

my experience is somewhat similar to the ones i've read here.

zamzummim

Point made! Yikes!