Posts by oldcrowwoman

I smoked before becoming a witness. I was told to quit before becoming one of those jw's. Because it was not my choice to quit. I struggled with the addiction~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I quit smoking for 14 yrs in the org. I started up smoking out of spite and being rebellious towards my ex and the org. my whole motive was to get disfellowshiped. Ended up being pushed out and DA'ed self.

Actually I hurt myself by smoking. Turning the anger towards me.

Smoking is one of the nastiest addictions to deal with.

OCW

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What religion are you now?

by Michalea in

i've struggled with wanting to be 'something' mostly probably to fill that hole that was left and to try and belong somewhere, anywhere really.

so i've tried penecostal, presbyterian, united churches but they all seem fake.

i always compared everything to the jw's, and didn't even realize it.

oldcrowwoman

a devote born-again Pagan

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What's the Highest "Position" You Had in the Congregation???

by minimus in

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friends

me----p.o.....you??

?

oldcrowwoman

Cleaning Kingdom Hall bathrooms

Does that count???????????????

OCW

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Judge: Elders NOT required to report abuse

by Nathan Natas in

http://www.nashuatelegraph.com/main.asp?sectionid=25&subsectionid=377&articleid=83009

judge: elders not required to report abuse .

saturday, june 21, 2003. by andrew wolfe telegraph staff, [email protected].

oldcrowwoman

I am outraged~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

OCW

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Are You Happy That You Are The Color Or Nationality That You Are?

by minimus in

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do you wish that you were of a different race or heritage than you are ?

oldcrowwoman

Yes I am happy with who I am. I am a dark Saami Finlander. Never thought myself being something else!!

OCW

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Finally! Some good news in my life!

by Aztec in

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i've been having a rough go financially lately and my job is less than rewarding.

my hours have slowly been cut back over the last few months to the point where i've had to decide between food and bills.

however, my sister's friend brought me a job ad.

oldcrowwoman

Aztec

I am excited for you~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~.

Burn a candle for you~~~~~~~~~~~ and hoping it all works out for you.

OCW

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Need advice on splitting up with my JW girlfriend

by figureheaduk in

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many of you that i have become friendly with on this board will probably know the story of me and my jw girlfriend.

for those that don't, here is the lowdown:.

three and a half years ago i met my girlfriend, and everything seemed great until about two or three months later she told me that she used to be a jw (and that her brother and certain other family members still were).

oldcrowwoman

Hi Figureheaduk~~~~~~~~ Have'nt chatted a while. Sorry to hear your relationship is'nt working out.

Ending are never easy. Even its for the best. Trust your gut in needing to take care of your self. I always try to figure out honestly and repectfully how I am going to end the relationship with dignity.

I see people as teachers , they come into our lives to teach about ourselves. Kinda like a mirror. When changes are made it upsets the apple cart. That gifts were given. They are not always painless.

You have my support in the way you take care of yourself.

OCW

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Stopping smoking - any suggestions?

by be wise in

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hi, i smoke, not loads, but i would like to stop.

i think i will find it really hard though and was wondering how you stopped if you were a previous smoker.

i also suffer from asthma which obviously doesn't make things any better.

oldcrowwoman

I quit smoking 6 years ago. What was the deciding factor, having ear and sinus infections and the Doc telling I may have to have tubes put into the roof of my mouth to the sinuses to drain. Found out from one of the ER Docs whats the process and sounded horrible to go thru. That was the deciding factor in quitting.

I went cold turkey. I did'nt have time to figure it out. And it was the best method for me. I was smoking 3 packs a day!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I got involved with a 12 step Smoking group once a week for a couple of years. Which was one my saving grace!!

I did'nt worry about the weight. I packed some pounds. There came a time I did'nt have focus staying off cigs. And channel my energy to remove the access. Staying off cigs was my top priority.

Drank alot water and chewed gum. thats my devise now. I could probably pave the highway from Minneapolis to New York City with the gum I have chewed~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~. Ha!

chemicals is the cigs are powerful addiction. Went throught the same feelings as I did getting off of alcohol. I think the chemicals are worst. Plays the same mind games.

I get the desire every now and again to smoke for me its all related to feelings. When I get those feelings I stick a piece of gum in my mouth and minutes later its forgotten.

I had alot of support with friends, support groups and my work place and my girls.

Its true that cigs are nasty to get off from than heroin...

Be gentle with your self. You will get the support connecting here.

Keep us updated~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

All the Best, OCW

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If you were gay would you...

by Swan in

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friends

in light of the recent threads on homosexuality, if you were gay would you let anyone on this site know?

would you feel supported as a gay exjw or would you feel ridiculed?

would you feel safe here?

oldcrowwoman

In light of the recent threads on homosexuality, if you were gay would you let anyone know on this site?

Yes I would when the opportunities arise.

Would you feel supported as gay exjw or would you feel ridiculed?

for the most part supported. There a few low riders that like create drama and make fools out of themselves!!

Would you feel supported as a gay exjw or would you feel that revealing your sexual orientation would make you subject to attack?

Thats the risk I take.

No I would be perceive as flaunting your life style.

Considering what jw's put gay people thru, would you feel that this site is accepting, tolerant or judgemental?

For myself is accepting, tolerant and judgemental. And lately their is hateful threads. that don't need to to exposed on this site. It saddens me to read the hatefulness and hitting below the belt.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Mentality!!

As far as double standard I have no clue its been awhile in a primary relationship

OCW