Posts by oldcrowwoman

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Is My JW Husband/Wife/Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Partner Posting Here?...

by SpannerintheWorks in

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...and do they know that you are posting here?

what would be your, or your partner's reaction, if you or they found out?

spanner

oldcrowwoman

I am incognito

Beyond recognition~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~.

OCW

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If you saw a serious car accident, would you...

by JH in

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if you saw a serious car accident, and people were trapped in the car, or unconscious in the wreck, would you try to get them out even if the car was on fire and could explode at any moment?.

coming back from quebec city today, i saw a car or truck in the ditch upside down and with lots of smoke coming out of the wreckage.

4 or 5 cars were stopped near by to look at the accident.

Yes I would definitely stop and help. Depending on the situation of a fire I definitely try to remove them. That would be the only time I would remove. I don't know there many different senarios to accidents.

No fire in the car and they are not in further danger. I would not remove because of possible neck or spinal cord injuries. To make them comfortable as best I could.

I do have CPR and First Aid training. Which I have done over the years.

Working in a ER I've seen alot injuries from car wrecks.

OCW

encourage others to use~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

seat belts~~~~~~~~~~~seat belts~~~~~~~seat belts~~~~~~~~~~~seat belts~~~~~

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My story (in depth) PHEW!

by Aztec in

i've shared a bit about my experiences but i don't think i ever gone into much detail.

i'm setting this down as an example of what growing up a witness can be like for any lurkers who have doubts or questions.

i was born into a family of witnesses.

oldcrowwoman

((((((Aztec)))))

Sometimes its not always easy to say whats in the HEART. I admire your strength and courage to tell your story. No matter how many times you tell your story healing comes behind it.

As far as meeting that guy. It's not your fault . No one has the right to violate your body. No is No and Yes is Yes. To be gentle with yourself , forgiveness of self comes in layers and each of us has our own process in recovery.

And you did not deserve the treatment of receiving abuse from family. And you know what if I was your next door neighbor I would report the abuse to Child Protection.

Just remember you have me in your back pocket for the rough times.

Glad you are here. Glad to have met you ((((((((Aztec))))))

All the Best, OCW

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It's my birthday on Friday! (July 4th) / Thanks

by figureheaduk in

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i finally hit 24 on friday!

don't know why i've posted that as a topic heading.

however, i just want to say thanks to all the people that i've made freinds with on this site (you all know who you are.

oldcrowwoman

Happy Birthady Figureheaduk~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`

Wish you many blessing.

All the Best, OCW

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What's your favorite drink?

by logansrun in

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god, i've been in a "fluff" mood lately!

so, what's your favorite alcoholic beverage?

mine: raspberry stoli cosmopolitan.

oldcrowwoman

Mountain Dew on the rocks~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

OCW

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I am tired of thinking like a victim....

by Ravyn in

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i may have to cut back on my forum reading.

this is getting discouraging.

everyone knows the problem, feels the problem, but very few want to act on the problem.

oldcrowwoman

Hi Ravyn~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I can understand your frustration with wanting to make change. Wanting so badly others to take stand. And wanting the change to be today.

I think you will be surprised as to how many are engaged and making a awareness regarding the org and their policies.

Its true each of us are on the recovery road at different places. Personally myself I am at a place to channel my energies in making awareness of the atrocity(sp) of the org. Its my way of taking my power back.

I think you would be surprised as to how many are working for awareness and change.

I support you in taking care of yourself. Thats something as women don't do .

All the Best, OCW

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Growing up a gay Jehovah's Witness (My Life Story)

by m0nk3y in

i feel the need to express how i feel and felt about my life as a gay man.

i was brought up from birth as a jehovahs witness.

this has played a major part in my life and it has been a real struggle to get past.

oldcrowwoman

Josh~~~~~~~~~*Hugz*

I am proud of you!!!!!!

I understood the energy in writing your story. It takes incredible strength to pull it up and to put words to the feelings. I see this as a way of healing for you~~~~ It's a way of taking care of yourself and allow others to see part of the process in coming out. We as gay people have stories to share in coming out. For me coming out is an on going process and it is for you and others.

It was Gay Pride Festival the past week-end here in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Huge turn out. There was a parade and part of the parade were two blocks of parents, families who supported their son or daughter. Called PFLAG . They received a standing ovation. And each year I cry. And touches my pain in lack of support from family. But also its impowering to see those who stand by their children.

So Josh I admire your courage and strength. And maybe by you sharing will open a door to another on this site.

All the Best, OCW (your sister) <not in a jw way!!!

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Who are some of your favorites who are not so well unknown here?

by oldcrowwoman in

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my thinking on this subject is the stereo typing.

for my most of my life i struggled to be in the crowd.

what i realize it comes from within.

oldcrowwoman

My thinking on this subject is the stereo typing. For my most of my life I struggled to be in the crowd. What I realize it comes from within. Cause one can be lonely in the incrowd. I think what opened the door for me. When I met up with my high school buddies recently. I had'nt seen for 20 some years.

To watch my best friend trying to win points with the supposedly popular woman. And to see the struggle and pain to get that attention. " I said to her, you are okay the way your are!! " I don't know if she understood. But I could measure within myself I had no need to wave my arm and saying I am here. But those old messages keeping creeping in every now and then. Especially when its been so ingrained from childhood.

I don't have some favorites. I see this board as we all are favorites and whatever way we contribute to being here. And Being here is a statement .

OCW

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Happy B'D to me, Happy B'D to me, la la la

by Trotafox in

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yep...july 1. almost a firecracker.

trot .

: "life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here, we may as well dance.

oldcrowwoman

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU~~~~~~~~~~~~~~many more returns

OCW

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What was you JC Meeting like?

by sandy in

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(inspired from caspian's thread) i hope the stories help rebel.

i was just wondering if any of you would like to share the details of your jc meeting.. i remember mine so well.

i was about 22 years old when i went to a jw relative of mine and broke my silence about sexual abuse i suffered as a child.. at this point i was involved in some normal young adult behavior (sex, drugs & rock n' roll) but because of my religious upbringing i was going crazy over it all.. well somebody took the liberty of telling the elders i wanted to talk to them about my devious behavior that i never admitted to anybody.

oldcrowwoman

My experience was of betrayal, abandonment and total lack of understanding in dealing with domestic abuse.

A nightmare from hell. I came out battered. I went there for support. I said I needed out. There is no way this relationship could continue. I said I would be pushing daisies up somewhere. They wanted us to date to rekindle our relationship and the last 14 yrs pushed aside.

I took it further and taking the risk exposing rapes. I figure what did I have to lose and layed the cards on the table. The one responses I was told "well you know how men are"? Emotionally I fell off the chair and having the wind knocked out me. I refused to memorize quotes from the bible. I mange to pull this one up out my brain. Paraphrase about a man loving himself as he does towards his wife. Something like that!! There were no reponse. I had them by the balls!!!! If they were christains how could they condone this kind of behavior.

So in reality I was pushed out. I started smoking to get myself disfellowship. It would have been against my valves to go out and have affair.

After the divorce was final I walked into the Kingdom Hall on a Sunday am. Which felt like I was walking into a freezer everybody was gathered at the hall. Went straight to the back and threw my papers on the desk in front of the elders. To this day I don't know what I said. I knew I was flaming hot~~~~~~~~~~. Picked up the papers and walked out of the Kingdom hall . As I was walking out felt like the furnace was on.

I wrote a letter and DA'ed myself.

I did run into one of the elder's at the store. I told him my children suffered abuse from their Father. The court ordered no visitation. The girls were going to meetings still. I needed to know they would be safe and not to have contact with the children.

The elder did apologized to me for pushing me out.(one of seven) And understood they were manipulated by the ex. I knew if I layed in the weeds the truth would come through. I said to him I hear your apololgy but I can't accept it. I was burned. I don't know if I can forgive or forget??

OCW