DD: They must perform works, be SOMEONE in the cult [ especially men ] to earn love. The authentic person is not good enough
Everyone knows that the best basis for a fulfilling relationship is to marry an Elder or Pioneer. Authenticity is overrated.
"Listen, [marry an Elder], and be blessed".
If you are happy because you married your soulmate you are spiritually weak and deluded. If that person didn't have a title (Elder), then you made the wrong choice, regardless of how happy you are.