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  This is for all JW's out there...

  by Divergent in

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  sorry to be so blunt, but you only have yourself to blame if you realize something is wrong but allow your cognitive dissonance to kick in.

  if you are confronted with facts which are reported by reliable sources which are hard to dispute and deny, and you choose to dismiss these as "apostate lies" rather than looking at these from an objective point of view, it's your fault and you deserve the consequences of willful ignorance!.

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  It's a bit rough, but I understand the message that you are trying to convey. So many times I've wanted to tell friends and family who are trapped and unhappy to wake the **** up, take control of your life and do something about your unhappiness. They complain and complain about all aspects of the organization, the injustice in the congregation and yet do nothing about it.

  I have a friend still in, who only contacts me to complain, because he knows I'm the only one he can fully rant to. After his rant session he goes right back into full cult mode. What the heck! So frustrating.
  
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  So haven't been on here in 10 months

  by sooner7nc in

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  what's new?

  anybody pass away or otherwise have a life changing experience?

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  I found a naked dead guy in a river while hiking. Is that a life changing experience? I also found out my grandfather had been dead for over a year and none of my family took the time to tell me. No wonder he hadn't posted on Facebook in awhile. Hard to pull that off when you're dead!. 2015 has been an up-and-down year.
  
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  Kick Back and Relax to Some Music

  by Finkelstein in

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  2. entertainment

  that's right folks time to kick back , pour a cold one and in take in some tunes.. what are you listening to right now ?

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  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xu87294pvx8.

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  Muse, Radiohead, Kitaro. Lots of trance and techno.
  
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  heartbroken and not sure what to do...

  by Khaleesi in

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  2. relationships

  i don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.

  we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.

  yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.

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  Khaleesi, welcome! I feel for you. I know my wife wants more of my attention as well. Us ADHD men can be a handful and a headache. Maybe you both need some marriage counseling?
  
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  A new member

  by Kurteousmaximus in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi... i am new and after nearly 20 years after being disassociated at 15 i would like to make contact with others who have similar difficulties.

  my mother was disfellowshipped shortly after my rebellion and had all ties with both her mother and brother cut and that remains the case.. just really hacked off with not being able to put things in the proper place in my life after all these years.

  for the record i don't know if i believe in god but am searching for some peace as i seem to self destruct on a regular basis.. any ideas anyone?.

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  Thanks for joining! So young with your whole life ahead of you in a cult free environment! Now you can go about teaching your children tolerance - something JWLand sorely lacks.
  
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  Hello to everybody!

  by John Free in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i wanted to introduce myself.

  like many of you i was born-in, am married with one child.

  after 36 years of this cycle: doubts-thought stopping- suppression- indoctrination-cult mode i realised enough was enough.

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  Welcome John! Like you, I took my whole family with me. No way in hell I was going to continue to allow them to be subjected to this neurotic religion! Good riddance.
  
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  Islam is the Epitome of Misogyny

  by cofty in

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  2. current

  in this video the popular saudi cleric sheik yahya al-jana discusses the joys of paradise, saying that men will have the strength of a hundred men in paradise and will be busy tearing hymens, while the virgins of paradise, whose breasts are like pomegranates, become virgins every time again.. the cleric also explains it is mostly men who enter paradise noting that women in general are bad because they refuse to wear the veil, they wear tight clothes in shopping malls, put on perfume and jewelry, and use filthy social media platforms.

  source.... this is what young men from conservative muslim families are raised on.

  is it any wonder islamic countries treat women appallingly?.

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  I can't even watch it. I definitely can't write how I feel about it. That leader needs psychological help. I think the stagnate desert water is making some of these people insane.
  
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  Adjusting

  by cognac in

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  just feel like i could never make it on the outside world.

  i was never able to adjust, except in being a mom and in business.

  those are the only things that i feel strong in.

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  I agree with JakeM and what others have written.
  

  if you are doing well as a parent and with your business, then you are as successful as one can get in this life. I wish I was good at both, or even one of those things. You inspire me to do better! Don't be too hard on yourself.
  
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  Cult or Religion

  by Richard C B in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  what is a cult and what is a religion?

  its open to debate.

  who has the authority to say for certain what is a cult and what is a religion?

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  My hats off to Richard for helping us to clarify, quantify and understand what a cult is. We have seen a classic textbook case of cognitive dissonance and confirmation bias from our friend Richard who didn't want to look at the facts that we kindly put before him on a silver platter. People like Richard deserve to be in a cult. They have to learn the hard way. Sometimes you can't convince someone that the fire is hot. They have to touch it and be blistered by it in order to understand. Oh well, at least other lurkers can benefit from the "resonings" (sic) on this thread.
  
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  Introducing...ME

  by Heartsafire in

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  long time lurker here.

  i'm a fifth gen born-in baptized jw.

  to say i've been struggling with doubts is an understatement.

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  Bonsai

  Welcome Heartsafire. Sorry you're in such a tough situation. Hopefully you can blow off stress and join our rantathons on here. Looking forward to reading your opinions on stuff.

  Bonsai