Posts by nelly1

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What Is The Stupidest Rule You've Encountered As a Witness?

by minimus in

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one rule that i never could understand is that if you were studying with an unbelieving husband, you could associate with him, even as couples, but if a person was considered a "weak" witness, it was best to avoid any association until that person changed......what dumb rule or belief comes to your mind??

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nelly1

how about the rule which is no where in the bible??

50 hours for auxilliary pioneering and 70 for full time pioneers? did you ever see jesus say to the apostles" have you put your time in"???

or make rules on how many hours they could do or when they could go to the loo or who they could walk beside sisters or not???unchaperoned geez talk about strain out the knatt. I remember at conventions them going on and on about dont go to the toilet unless its break time, like we can hold on if we need to go!!! sheesh.

i found that most areas of my life were controlled and like has been said they do your thinking for you, great mind control teqnique huh?

MAN MADE RULES MY FRIENDS!!!

after you read crisis of concience you'll see just how man made they truly are, sheesh what an eye opener that is, im half way through it now and thats the thread thats coming through to me in reading that, its that man made all the rules as to how that org is run and there was a hell of alot of corner cutting and by passing and sheer slackness on the part of the people who were suppose to be in charge geez i have to laugh you know, they lay all that regimental rule keeping on us but when it comes to them they were the slackest of all * shakes head*

i agree with everything you all said

your friend

nelly

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My father is reading Crisis of Conscience...

by logansrun in

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my father dad himself for purely emotional reasons when my parents got divorced seven years ago.

it was a rash decision to say the least.

i re-established contact with him about three months ago.

nelly1

yeah i have been out for more than a year and didnt know how to get hold of that book COC then one night my boyfriend a non jw was on amazon and he ordered it for me so i should get it soon i cant wait to read it...apparently its a real eye opener

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I know

by Jesus Christ in

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i know that my grandmother died before her time because she refused a transfusion that could have saved her life long enough to see her grandson get married.

i know there was nothing i could have told my cousin back in high school when he said he didn?t want to disobey god by taking blood to fight his leukemia but even more importantly didn?t want to die.

i know i have a cousin whose wife loves him but unlike most couples doesn?t expect to spend forever with her husband because he?s the only one that will be going to heaven.

nelly1

oh man there is some mighty accountability somewhere huh? I shake my head when I think of what all of us on this board have had to suffer..its a wonder we are all sane...and no one on this earth jw or not could convince me that jehovah doesnt care about or disaprove of the things that were done in his name.

their day will come dont worry

hang in there there is always a light at the end of the tunnel

huggss

nelly

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What Was "IT" That Finally Made You Leave The "Truth"?

by minimus in

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anything in particular, or was it a combination of things??

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nelly1

god I so relate to what all of you have said and mysterious what you said about people of the so called world... I have experienced this too... i get and got more love from the world than the so called loving congregation.

I read these posts and I just shake my head because I relate to them sooo well....everything you all have said is soo accurate...i wasted 13 years of my life doing what I thought was right the only thing i might have gained is some knowledge and some maturity... but im soo much happier now its not even funny...i look back and i was going thru the most terrible traumas on my own and i mean they were dickensian horror stories... with 3 kids in the early years and I went through them all alone

i was labelled by those so called loving elders and their cronie mates as being a hot potato in the too hard basket HOW CHRISTLIKE!!!

its like you say absoultely so far from being like christ was that its not even funny....

hate to be them at armageddon... like has been said on the thread...who wants to live in that misery...i know i dont and im so glad i got out when i did

i never want to go back and i dont care if i have to die as a result i cant live like that anymore....id rather have a few years of happiness before i die..

heres a bunch of huggs for all of you

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LOVE NELLY

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im sure you'd agree this is soo ironic

by nelly1 in

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i am now much much happier....i spent 13 years in that org and was treated like a leper most of the time, i spent 14 years single and then married a brother i met on the net in another country...usa actually then what a freaken nightmare that was...he ignored me and i might as well have married a stone statue....and we wouldnt have known what to do with a woman even if 100 real men showed him.. i walked away from that mess and now after having been out for over a year i have developed a relationship with the most wonderful man in the world who isnt a witness and as a matter of fact is an athiest but is one of the most loving caring people i have ever met.... so now in effect im the happiest i have ever been in my life.... how ironic huh??

and they say there is no life outside the organisation...well i say crap there is more real life...and more happiness than living under those horrible conditions where they pay a hell of alot of lip service to the word love ....and absolutely no practical application of it.i now.

i now like alot of others have realised that a loving god could not possibly destroy so many loving people who are not jw.. its a bunch of crap..i beleive he saves on your individual attitude myself..what is in your heart and the motivation behind what you do.. anyway i just wanted to say that im one of those ones whos soo happy now that i left and i have a much better life now :)

nelly1

I am now much much happier....i spent 13 years in that org and was treated like a leper most of the time, i spent 14 years single and then married a brother i met on the net in another country...usa actually then what a freaken nightmare that was...he ignored me and i might as well have married a stone statue....and we wouldnt have known what to do with a woman even if 100 real men showed him.

I walked away from that mess and now after having been out for over a year i have developed a relationship with the most wonderful man in the world who isnt a witness and as a matter of fact is an athiest but is one of the most loving caring people i have ever met...

so now in effect im the happiest i have ever been in my life...

how ironic huh?? and they say there is no life outside the organisation...well i say crap there is more REAL LIFE...and more happiness than living under those horrible conditions where they pay a hell of alot of lip service to the word love ....and absolutely no practical application of it.i now

i now like alot of others have realised that a loving god could not possibly destroy so many loving people who are not JW.

its a bunch of crap..i beleive he saves on your individual attitude myself..what is in your heart and the motivation behind what you do.

anyway i just wanted to say that im one of those ones whos soo happy now that i left and i have a much better life now :)

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What scams did you use for counting your time?

by Ivor Hope in

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flowerpetals post and thread reminded me of some of the scams we would use to try to show the maximum numbers of hours spent in "service" for the smallest amount of effort.

here's some of the ones i remember...just wondered if any of you had any other memories.. .

nelly1

geez thank goodness i dont have to do it anymore, I used to go out once a week with the group i hated it it was sooo boring, i used to put in so many hours a month always under 10 wether i did them or not..count time for studying with my kids when i hardly ever did it.

i was to damn busy...being a jw took up so much time and what with being a single parent of 3 kids for 14 years and with no help or encouragement from them...geez when i look back...no one used to ask me to work with them cuz i was a nobody. well according to them not related to anyone important like elders or anything or generations of witnesses that anyone knew..but man did they used to gush over the CO when he and his idiotic wife came.

never have i seen so many bugs come outa the woodwork when the co was here.

and scramble to work with him hell no....rather eat soap.

but i pioneered a few times and was the first to get 100 hours in my cong.

but im glad i dont have to do it anymore....in the end you do it cuz its required of you and if you dont you are looked down on ohhh sister such and such isnt on service etc etc etc. ughhhhh

thank goodness thats over.

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Did The Elders Always Talk With You "In A Spirit of Mildness"???

by minimus in

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jw's, are as a rule, self-righteous pharisees.

they were the first to "report" you if they believed that you did something not up to standards.

even if you started "thinking" a certain way that might be considered "worldly", you might be talked to by 2 elders to "readjust you in a spirit of mildness.

nelly1

how about a circuit overseer and an elder yelling at you in the KH right in front of everyone after a service meeting? i never felt so humiliated.. i was told i didnt have jehovahs spirit anymore and i was taking it away from the congregation..i was not a very good christian and not a good mother...all because i wanted to use tough love on my non jw 18 yr old son. for bringing stolen goods and drugs in my house and because i called the cops on him...... they listened to the line my son spun them and beleived him over a 38 yr old baptised sister in good standing.

ironic aint it? another time one yelled at me cuz my skirt rid up on his part on the service meeting..... he took me outside and let me have it....prik!!

wasnt long after his son dissasociated.....he took it out on me.

so loving and christian of them isnt it?? so mild and all that NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!

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geez why do some so called witnesses have to be so abusive?

by nelly1 in

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i had a witness still loaded on my msn ..he said hi.....when i told him id left the org...he about knocked me off my seat..turned so nasty..called me an apostate sheeesh..some ppl can be so nasty.... and they claim to be christian* shakes head*.

i said abt un scandal etc and was gonna mention abt sex abuse etc.....but waste of time hes brainwashed.....geez it makes you feel so small when ppl do that tho doesnt it?

nelly1

i had a witness still loaded on my msn ..he said hi.....when i told him id left the org...he about knocked me off my seat..turned so nasty..called me an apostate sheeesh..some ppl can be so nasty...

and they claim to be christian* shakes head*

i said abt UN scandal etc and was gonna mention abt sex abuse etc.....but waste of time hes brainwashed.....geez it makes you feel so small when ppl do that tho doesnt it?

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Memorable Field Service Moments

by Loris in

for the most part field service is a dull event-less drudgery.

but there are those rare times that something happens that makes it almost worth the effort.. while living in the state of washington i was privileged to meet a rare sister.

she was funny and a bit off the wall.

nelly1

ohh im so PMSL what a hilarious account of the trailor and the dogs ..man i wet my pants laughing,, whe ever said americans dont have a good sense of humour ohh boy..and the nik names like sister tagalong LOL and brother this and that lOLOLOL i love it !!!!!!!

well my one is that i was out on service with a single bro and we went to a house that had uneven concrete on the driveway..well i tripped and landed flat on my back..and he got a good veiw of what was under my dress.....LOL me with my sense of humour and being a bigger girl i said ohh my goodness the angel that broke my fall will be back in heaven recovering hahahahaha

he pissed himself laughing.

ya gotta love a good laugh huh?

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What's The Silliest Rule That You've Seen In The Organization Or Cong.???

by minimus in

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one congregation in the 70's allowed only white shirts to be worn on the platform.

if an out of town speaker didn't know the "rule", it was ok. the brothers kept a variety of white shirts in different sizes in case that happened.

nelly1

im speechless i just cant beleive what im reading..talk about straining out the knatt I never heard such ridiculous things in my life.

in our hall no going to the loo...if ya cant go before or after the meeting then dont go at all

weirdos..geez you guys had to put up with alot..im to outspoken i would have let em have it im afraid

just when you think you heard it all * shakes head*