Let the other assholes on the Body of Elders remove him once, that should REALLY show him how they "love" him!!!!! Hahahahaha!! It will also free up his time to actually be a HUSBAND and FATHER!! He might actually enjoy the free time, that is, if he isn't a power hungry phony two-faced narcissist who gets off on the power trip like so many others do.
Imagine, they are threatening to "delete" him as an Elder, from a VOLUNTARY position that pays ZERO, all because you don't kiss their asses and fall in line! How ludicrous and controlling. F' those clowns.
Good for you on doing the fade, and having your daughter join you! If your husband doesn't like it, too bad! It's a free country, and you have the RIGHT to worship how you see fit. If he doesn't like it, let him file for divorce. Either way, YOU WIN!!! Congrats on your right to freedom of choice, religion, and THOUGHT.