Posts by rebuilding94

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10 Years a WT Slave

by MsJam in

i'm new to the board.

i did post a topic on my ex husband the difficulties i have with him and sharing my children.

thanks for all the great advice and i have put a lot of it into place.. i just feel the need to let you all know who i am and how i got here.i have never really discussed this before (except with my new husband) i just found that most people didn't understand and weren't interested.

rebuilding94

Hi, Ms Jam

Your story touched my heart. Glad you posted. I 'm happy that you found a good husband the second time around, there still is hope.

Yes God is love, not rules.

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NEW TO YOU ALL...MY STORY

by rebuilding94 in

i was born into the witnesses in 1962, i was disfellowshiped when i was 18, because i decided to marry a catholic.

our first son was born 4 years later, and thinking i had to teach our son about god, which in it self is not a bad thought, so the only thing i new was the jw's teaching's, and yes i went back.. it took them 11 months to decide weather they would reinstate me, 11 month's of no one talking to me, no one coming to see my new baby, allways leaving befor the meeting was completely over, so as not to feel any more hurt then nessecary.

after i was reinstated i proceeded to raise our 3 children as jw's.

rebuilding94

hey lilacs

62 is my year too. Im 41 in Jan.

Turning 40 is not so bad, "they" say that life only gets better after 40, I can hardly wait.

I love the little "saying" you have at the bottom of your welcome

Thanx again to all for the very warm welcome.

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Our Mother is in a coma :(

by noidea in

karla and i came home for a quick shower and a change of clothes.

we ask that you keep our mother and our family in your prayers.

we posted a few weeks ago that our mother had been diagnosed with pancreas cancer and was given 6-18 months with chemo.

rebuilding94

.....Karla,

Im so sorry for the pain that you and your family are suffering.

My prayer's are with you.

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Just new here

by moreisbetter in

i'm 40+ female in n. tx.

i haven't been attending for at least 8 years.

i don't know if i'm df or da or just considered inactive.

rebuilding94

Hi moreisbetter, Not boreing, at all.

Im new here too,welcome. I hope you experiance,what I have in the short time Ive been here. A real warm welcome.

I too kept stuff in, I think it hurt's us in the long run. The thing's that ex JW's have to endure is harsh and unusal punishment. So keep talking, and heal.

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NEW TO YOU ALL...MY STORY

by rebuilding94 in

i was born into the witnesses in 1962, i was disfellowshiped when i was 18, because i decided to marry a catholic.

our first son was born 4 years later, and thinking i had to teach our son about god, which in it self is not a bad thought, so the only thing i new was the jw's teaching's, and yes i went back.. it took them 11 months to decide weather they would reinstate me, 11 month's of no one talking to me, no one coming to see my new baby, allways leaving befor the meeting was completely over, so as not to feel any more hurt then nessecary.

after i was reinstated i proceeded to raise our 3 children as jw's.

rebuilding94

Hi Lady Lee

Ive been wanting to meet another ex, for many years now. I sent you an e mail, send one back, giving time's and place, that we can meet me.

Are there other ex's in the city? Is there to a meet up here?

Look forward to meeting you

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I'm new, too!

by emeril1BAM in

jw
friends

i have never been on a forum before.

i was very happy to find this one while i was doing my research finding out the truth about the religion & just trying to heal from such a damaging religion.

i was raised in it from birth by a devout witness mother.

rebuilding94

Hi emeril1BAm

Im new to this site too , a big welcome from me . I think that you will see that this site is the place to be, I feel the feel the common bond here is understading and compation .

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I'm new

by liquidsky in

i've been visiting this site for about 6 months but haven't had the courage to post anything.

well here goes...... i was born and raised a jw.

although i never really enjoyed anything about the religion, i trudged along because i was afraind of losing my family, and of course afraid of being destroyed in armageddon.

rebuilding94

hi liquidsky

Im new here too. So glad you posted, I too was nervious. Look forward to hearing more from you.

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NEW TO YOU ALL...MY STORY

by rebuilding94 in

i was born into the witnesses in 1962, i was disfellowshiped when i was 18, because i decided to marry a catholic.

our first son was born 4 years later, and thinking i had to teach our son about god, which in it self is not a bad thought, so the only thing i new was the jw's teaching's, and yes i went back.. it took them 11 months to decide weather they would reinstate me, 11 month's of no one talking to me, no one coming to see my new baby, allways leaving befor the meeting was completely over, so as not to feel any more hurt then nessecary.

after i was reinstated i proceeded to raise our 3 children as jw's.

rebuilding94

Hi, a few of you have asked were I live.

I live in the middel of Canada "the Praries", Manitoba is more than cold it is "freezing", Today is not too bad at -17, but yesterday was -30 with the wind chill. I walk to work every morning (a 15 min.walk) my gear consists of, 2 layers of clothing, down filled coat, wind pants, mitts, touque(a hat usually, wool) and a scarf that goes around my mouth.

Yes, I look like a complete goof, but I stay warm.

Is there any one here close to me?

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NEW TO YOU ALL...MY STORY

by rebuilding94 in

i was born into the witnesses in 1962, i was disfellowshiped when i was 18, because i decided to marry a catholic.

our first son was born 4 years later, and thinking i had to teach our son about god, which in it self is not a bad thought, so the only thing i new was the jw's teaching's, and yes i went back.. it took them 11 months to decide weather they would reinstate me, 11 month's of no one talking to me, no one coming to see my new baby, allways leaving befor the meeting was completely over, so as not to feel any more hurt then nessecary.

after i was reinstated i proceeded to raise our 3 children as jw's.

rebuilding94

Thankyou for making me feel welcome, sorry for the large print, I dont have much experiance with message boards and such. elederrepents, I'm not offended, glad you pointed it out, I wounldnt want other's to think I'm shouting.

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NEW TO YOU ALL...MY STORY

by rebuilding94 in

i was born into the witnesses in 1962, i was disfellowshiped when i was 18, because i decided to marry a catholic.

our first son was born 4 years later, and thinking i had to teach our son about god, which in it self is not a bad thought, so the only thing i new was the jw's teaching's, and yes i went back.. it took them 11 months to decide weather they would reinstate me, 11 month's of no one talking to me, no one coming to see my new baby, allways leaving befor the meeting was completely over, so as not to feel any more hurt then nessecary.

after i was reinstated i proceeded to raise our 3 children as jw's.

rebuilding94

I WAS BORN INTO THE WITNESSES IN 1962, I WAS DISFELLOWSHIPED WHEN I WAS 18, BECAUSE I DECIDED TO MARRY A CATHOLIC. I GUESS THEY DIDNT LIKE THAT. DIDNT FEEL TOO BAD THOUGH, HAD ONE FOOT IN AND ONE OUT. AND MY PARENT STILL KEPT IN TOUCH, FROM TIME TO TIME.

OUR FIRST SON WAS BORN 4 YEARS LATER, AND THINKING I HAD TO TEACH OUR SON ABOUT GOD, WHICH IN IT SELF IS NOT A BAD THOUGHT, SO THE ONLY THING I NEW WAS THE JW'S TEACHING'S, AND YES I WENT BACK.. IT TOOK THEM 11 MONTHS TO DECIDE WEATHER THEY WOULD REINSTATE ME, 11 MONTH'S OF NO ONE TALKING TO ME, NO ONE COMING TO SEE MY NEW BABY, ALLWAYS LEAVING BEFOR THE MEETING WAS COMPLETELY OVER, SO AS NOT TO FEEL ANY MORE HURT THEN NESSECARY. AFTER I WAS REINSTATED I PROCEEDED TO RAISE OUR 3 CHILDREN AS JW'S. MY HUSBAND DID NOT OBJECT, SO THERE WAS NO PROBLEM.

NO PROBLEM'S, UNTIL MY HUSBAND STARTED TO STUDY WITH THE ELEDER'S. I WAS SO EXCITED I THOUGHT FINALLY WE WERE GOING TO BE THE FAMILY I DREAMED OF. I DREAMT, THAT I WOULDNT HAVE TO GO TO THE KINGDOM HALL 3 TIMES A WEEK, AND STRUGGLE WITH MY SCREAMING KIDS ALONE. (I SPENT SO MUCH TIME IN THAT BACK ROOM ) I TOO DREAMT, THAT I WOULDNT HAVE TO CONDUCT OUR FAMILY STUDIES, WEARING THAT STUPID CURCHIF ON MY HEAD, HE COULD DO IT, I DREAMT, ALL THE DREAMS A "SINGEL" WOMEN OF GOD'S ORGINIZATION COULD DREAM.

I SAT ON THE BACK STAIRS EVES DROPPING ON ALL MY HUSBANDS STUDIES, ONE OF HIS STUDIES STOPPED VERY SHARPLY, WHEN MY HUSBAND PROCEEDED TO TELL THE ELDERS THAT THIS IS NOT THE SAME BIBLE TEACHING THAT HE WAS TAUGHT, AND HE ASKED THEM TO LEAVE UNTIL HE WAS SURE THAT THIS WAS THE TRUTH...SO MUCH FOR MY DREAM.

MY HUSBAND STARTED COMING HOME FROM THE LIBRARY ( HE DID AN ALL OUT SEARCH) WITH BOOKS THAT WROTE ABOUT CULTS, AND THERE WERE JWS IN THE CONTEXT OF ALL THE BOOKS, I WAS VERY UPSET WITH HIM, I TOLD HIM I WOULD NOT LOOK AT THOSE BOOKS. HE DIDNT PUSH IT, HE ONLY VERY CLEVERLY STARTED TO LEAVE THESE BOOK'S AROUND THE HOUSE, WIDE OPEN. HE EVEN LEFT THEM IN THE TEA TOWEL DRAWER, OPEND. MY CURIOSITY GOT THE BETTER OF ME, AND I READ , AND READ, UNTIL I THOUGHT I WOULD GO CRAZY. I DID THIS FOR 1 YEAR, THEN I TOLD THE ELDERS THEY COULD TAKE THESE LIES AND KEEP THEM, I AND MY CHILDREN WERE LEAVING. I TOLD THEM THAT I NO LONGER BELIEVED THAT WE HAD THE TRUTH.I TOLD THEM THAT I STILL LOVED GOD BUT NOT THE ORGINIZATION. I WAS DISFELLOWSHIP THAT COMING SUNDAY. I HAVE LOST ALL MY FAMILY AND CHILDHOOD FRIENDS. I HAVE BEEN NOTED AS AN "APOSTATE", ( I DID TRY TO TELL OTHERS OF WHAT I READ, OOP'S) I HAVE SUFFERD FOR MY CHOICE, AS ALOT OF YOU HAVE, I HURT FOR MY FAMILY, AT TIMES I AM LONELY, IN ALL THIS I HAVE NEVER ONCE REGRETED MY CHOICE. I HAVE NEW FRIEND'S, AND FAMILY NOW. MOST IMPORTANTLY I AM FREE, FREE TO CHOOSE WHAT TO BELIEVE, WHO TO WORSHIP, AND HOW MANY DAYS IN A WEEK I WANT TO GO TO CHURCH, WITH NO GUILT, AND NO SCREAMING KIDS. THAT WAS IN 1994.

SINCE THAT TIME MY HUSBAND LEFT OUR FAMILY,( NOT FOR ANY RELIGIOUS REASON'S) MY PARENTS ARE CONVINCED, THAT I HAVE LOST JEHOVAHS PROTECTION, AND WILL CONTINUE TO LOOSE. I TELL THEM THAT I COULD LOOSE IT ALL, AND I WOULD NEVER GO BACK, FOR I KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT JW'S, HOW COULD I GO BACK AFTER KNOWING WHAT I DO???

I HAVE NOT MEET AN EX JW IN THESE YEARS OUT, THAT WOULD BE NICE. TO TALK OF THING'S THAT SO MANY DONT UNDERSTAND, I HOPE TO GET TO KNOW SOME OF YOU.........................HOPE IT WAS NOT TOO LONG.