My JC was not. In fact they were actually rather sympathetic.
The whole thing was a mess. Due to a recent territory change, we were moved (booted) to another area congregation from the one that DF'd my hubby. Although he was reinstated by that time, the elders in this cong knew of the circumstances (the whole G*dD**n MF circuit knew most of the details). The cong did not know us personally, except for the PO, who only knew hubby professionally and as an Elder. He was on my JC.
I came to the meeting with my mind made up. I did not want a discussion because i believed it was futile. DO IT. DF. Get it over with!!!! No one gave a S**t about the reasons my actions existed or the circumstances which led up to them. Funny, I can see it all very clearly right now, and I feel it too. Anyway, their remarks were not cruel. They expressed regret, not condemnation. But they knew what they had to do however; DF. The meeting was short. I was dismissed. I went to my car, broke down & cried. I was still crying when they left the KH and they saw me still sitting in the my car. The PO asked if I was ok, "NO!" was my vehement response. The 2 others stayed, and I was convinced to come back in and tell my story.
I'm really surprised these 3 men were sympathatic. they didn't ask for my "personal transgression details". But what were the events that led up to me choosing to committ the sin. I was "repentent" there was no doubt about that. Oh well, they wanted a meeting with hubby and me. He wasn't in a forgiving mood at that meeting. I don't think they liked his answers. But he wasn't on trial; I was. They did try to admonish him to forgivness and perhaps counseling. They decided to Private Reprove me. I tried a few KH meetings after that and a convention, but after a lifetime of this stuff, I left.
If I were on trial in our original cong; they would DF in a heartbeat. And would not reinstate me no matter how hard i tried.
Whatever, I'm not there anymore. Interesting question.
Oh, Well,