My uncle, aunt and grandmother have been disfellowshipped since 1980 for apostacy, leaving with Franz. My witness family has nothing to do with them. But of course I do. And since I left quietly I can still talk to them to. If I were to want to.
jillbedford
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LOVING AN ORGANISAION MORE THAN YOUR FAMILY?
by badboy inwere there such people in your congregation?
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
Thanks,
Husband problems are a whole other post on some other day. for some reason her does not find her attractive in "that way". I am in shape. I run competitively, winning my age division. I am almost 40, so many he does not like that. He is almost 40 too though.
But men can be replace, children can not.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
My almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her Dad last Thursday. This is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a C. She has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence I told her this last Wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car I gave her on her 16th birthday. She said she was leaving to live with her Dad. I held the door shut and told her she was not allowed to live with her Dad. I am the sole custodial parent. He has NEVER paid child support or paid any interest in her. His weekend visits have not been taken advantage of. Once every 3 or 4 months he allows her to drive to his house and visit for a couple of hours.
Ex-husband was a witness since birth same as me. I hear he is an atheist now.
In the morning on Thursday she was gone with most of her things. The next day almost everything was gone. The weekend passes, no calls from her. On Monday I packed up what was left in her room, putting anything of value in storage. I re-decorated the room. It is a room of peace and solitude now. She calls on Tuesday and says she wants her old broken dresser. I tell her I threw it out because it was broken. She asks about her posters. I tell her these are gone to. I mention a few things that are saved for her in storage. Ten minutes later the ex-husband calls saying he needs her social security card and birth certificate as well as her w-2. He demands to know when this will be delivered. I bit my tongue. But when exactly will the $15,000 in back child support be paid. (I still have not mailed these items.) She also has this car. As the custodial parent, I can not allow no insurance to be paid on it. At the moment it is on my our insurance policy. I spoke to my attourney. He suggests I sign the car over to the ex so he will have to provide insurance for it. In regard to the W-2, he can forget that, she was with me all of 2006 so I am claiming her as a dependant. I know how he thinks.
I have since received another letter from my daughter's high school in regard to her truency issues. Juvenille court is mentioned.
I have always been told your teenagers bring problems. But right now my heart is broken like it has never been before. No man can break your heart like your own child can.
I contemplate what I have done wrong to find myself in this place. Should I have stayed a witness and with my first husband, making my daughter adhere to the witnesses rules for conduct? Because with the choices I have made I find I am with the second husband, who I have not had sex with since we married in 2001. My daughter has gone to her Dad's house. She has been disrepectful of me most of her life.
Since this is the second time she has left home, I have changed the locks and emptied her room. She is not coming home easily. My head says she does not need to come home at all. My heart misses her terribly.
I find myself in tears or close to tears almost every day. I am thinking I need to get medication or something. I find myself in prayer all the time.
You kind folks have always been a huge comfort, so any words of wisdom will help.
I hope you have a peaceful and focused day.
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The One Thing You Could Never Give Up.
by lowden inwell.........here i am, a few pints of guinness further on and it got me thinking.. i luuurve guinness with a passion but what could i never give up in a month of sundays?.
hmmmmmm...well it's definitely not alcohol....i don't think .
for me, it's my music, my george lowden guitar (damn i've blown my cover) and all the amazing vibes that playing, singing and songwriting gives me.. what could you not give up...........in a month of sundays.. peace.
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jillbedford
I really like Guiness too when it is a little warmer than right out of the fridge.
But I haven't drunk any in a long time due to some personal choices in regard to my alcohol consumption.
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Guess who came around breakfast...
by ColdRedRain inyup.
jw's.
i told them to come over tomorrow.
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jillbedford
It must be that time of the year when the elders are doing their sheparding visits to "help" those who have fallen away from the "flock" to return to the "fold".
DON'T DO IT!
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Would You/Do You Remain As A JW "Technically"???
by minimus intechnically, since i am not df'd or dissasociated, i am considered by witnesses as an inactive jw.
i do not actively look to get df'd as i have family that are witnesses.
if i were ever df'd, then i'd deal.
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jillbedford
If you are inactive to maintain contact with witness family, you are still considered "bad association" so there is little difference than being disassociated or disfellowshiped. It may be a little easier for family to talk to you and have a meal with you, but you are still shunned to some extent.
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Things Learned Along the Way
by blondie ini have collected sayings, homilies, whatever along the way that crystallize something bigger i learned.
i will post a few every day.
if you have one, please share it.. if you lie down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas.. to belittle is to be little.. somewhere, i got the idea if i just took care of others, i would be taken care of.. blondie
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jillbedford
Mama always said, "Stupid is as stupid does"
-Forest Gump
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Woman with a flat tire. Would you have stopped to help when you were a JW?
by ObservingTexan inin the light of the second greatest commandment, "love your neighbor as yourself", when you were an active jw would you have stopped to help in the following scenario?
you are in your car and drive by a woman who is having car trouble... a flat tire.
she's struggling to get the tire changed.
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jillbedford
I have always stopped to help a female if she has broken down. As a witness or not. The only factor would be not having time to stop.
I can change a tire as just as well as any male can. I also have a AAA card if the problem is bigger than that.
I feel what comes around goes around.
However, I am not one to be taken advantage of either. But what does it cost to change a tire except time?
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anyone here know their IQ
by orbison11 in.
just wondering if any here know their iq?.
my son, just recently coming back into my life, told me he had his done,,,,and i was wondering,,any here know of theirs, and how it might have affected their lives, their outlook, etc.
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jillbedford
Tests done under age 18 are less accurate than those done as an adult.
FYI my IQ is the same as my weight.......
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Do you still pray?
by undercover in(helps to put something in the subject line .
it's that time once again for yours truly to try to channel minimus and ask a pertinent question sure to spark a lot of interest and debate amongst the ex-jw community.
the question: do you still pray?.
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jillbedford
Yes I do still pray. I pray differently now though. I pray for miracles of healing, where we didn't as JW's.
But I understand and can appreciate those of you who are bitter and have become atheists in your belief system. After the JW experience I can certainly understand. However, I am sure you still have a solid belief system, belief in yourself maybe? I hope you can respect my firm belief that there is a God who hears and responds to prayer. I too belief in myself but find this strength comes as a result of prayer.