hough I am thinking it may feel like searching for the Holy Grail for some of us! Anyone got any 'alternative' advice? Please do not include religion as an option!!
If you stop searching, I have a suspicion it will find YOU. My man came into my life right after I had decided NO MORE MEN FOR ME! That said, he had some help. It's a long story, but I was very sick for a while. So sick I couldn't leave the apartment. Not having much else to do, I was on line all the time and made up a Yahoo personals ad and posted it with no intention of dating anyone. I just wanted to see if I'd get any responses.
I forgot all about it then my computer broke. Six months later I went into a internet cafe and decided to check the ad and lo and behold, there were over 60 responses! I STILL didn't want to date but T's letter was so wonderful, I decided I had to meet him. Life is far from perfect but he's a wonderful man and I love him dearly.
I think what got me all those responses was that the ad was funny as well as realistically self-deprecating; too many women post ads such as, I WANT A MAN WHO MAKES 500, 000 A YEAR and DOES ALL THE HOUSEWORK TOO. What about what YOU have to GIVE, LADIES? Why is it always about taking? The men always wants someone SLENDER and PRETTY. Funny how the stereotypes about each gender turn out to have truth in them. Stereotypes often do.
Anyway, I am a nervous clumsy ditz preoccupied with silliness - and that's how I presented myself - in a humourous way. I noted that when we met for coffee, I'd probably spill it all over myself and when I reached for a pen to give my phone number, the ink would have leaked all over my handbag. THIS IS SO F-ing ME! Why lie about what we really are!!!
No photo, so my looks did not count against me. Looks matter to men - they always will - but in their 50s they are a bit more forgiving since they themselves are losing hair, have beer guts, etc. and they know the odds of getting some young chick who looks like Angelina Jolie are slim.
Well, that's my advice - for what it's worth.
