Regular women do that:
Yes, that's true but regular women don't have elders to go to. They don't run to men in authority and risk the other person being kicked out of their community for oral sex/watching porn/listening to questionable music/getting drunk/ looking up forums like this on the net etc.
I'm not saying the scenarios are unique, just that some will use anything they can to control and the dubs use the scripture, often inconsistantly, for that control.
Cheers, Bliss