I only saw the first 2 posts yesterday, and I considered your thoughts, which gave me some thoughts of my own.
1. Whenever I'm around ANY family, just my existance there is a circus. There's no need for overkill.
2. Many others have left the JW org only to have the freedom of the outside world and to rebel. They still believe what the WT has to say, and they usually come back. JW's have very little respect for those, and they laugh when they come back. They're still thinking that I'm one of those that left just to rebel and see the outside world, and not because the JW organization is corrupted and full of lies. Answering their questions and not showing a scene will be a good counter-ministry.
3. If they ever attend my wedding, I wouldn't want them to be preaching to my guests.
Goph, as for them getting refreshments..... They're notorious lightweights. It only takes fumes to get them tipsy.
Thank you for your advice, everybody.
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