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  looking for dad

  by zolensky in

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  hey people...im from kenya settling in the states and i have never met my dad and i have no idea where he is at.last i heard is that he travelled abroad when i was 3 months old and i dont know how to find him.

  my mum is a witness but shel never talk about it and i don want her to as i know its painful for her.

  any suggestions as to cure my 21 year old search??

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  desy2477

  My boss found his daughter through the Mormans so You might want to get intouch with them. He found where his daughter was within the week.
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  Reverse Thinking

  by Yizuman in

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  for years i've been reading and talking to people who are out of the organization either by being df'ed or da'ed themselves from the so called "truth".. my main concern is that once the former jdubs are out, they start to reverse their thinking from everything the jdubs had learned that is considered a "no no", ranging from sex, satanism, getting into pornagraphy, drugs, alcohol, rock music, smoking, reading ouji boards and anything else they can get their hands into that was considered forbidden by the wt.

  even some decided to reverse their thinking from believing "there is a god" to "there is no god".. while i can understand the anger and bitterness that has resulted from realizing how they have been deceived by the wt for many years.

  i am concerned about the destructive behavior that ex-jdubs are getting themselves into.. sure it gives ex-jdubs a sense of total freedom and go wild on everything that was forbidden to them.

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  desy2477

  I feel that way that we are all going to die anyway.
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  What Are You Doing On April 4th,2004?

  by minimus in

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  it's the memorial, and just in case you might be doing something, i thought i'd let you know where you're supposed to be.

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  desy2477

  I was always told by my parents even if your not going to be a JW always go to the memorial

  Does anyone still go??
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  Reverse Thinking

  by Yizuman in

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  for years i've been reading and talking to people who are out of the organization either by being df'ed or da'ed themselves from the so called "truth".. my main concern is that once the former jdubs are out, they start to reverse their thinking from everything the jdubs had learned that is considered a "no no", ranging from sex, satanism, getting into pornagraphy, drugs, alcohol, rock music, smoking, reading ouji boards and anything else they can get their hands into that was considered forbidden by the wt.

  even some decided to reverse their thinking from believing "there is a god" to "there is no god".. while i can understand the anger and bitterness that has resulted from realizing how they have been deceived by the wt for many years.

  i am concerned about the destructive behavior that ex-jdubs are getting themselves into.. sure it gives ex-jdubs a sense of total freedom and go wild on everything that was forbidden to them.

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  desy2477

  I agree with some of what you are saying, because I also went a little bit wild when I was disfellowshiped mainly because it was not allowed or now we don't have to hide when we are drinking or having sex etc but I have found that there are alot of people that have never been disfellowshiped and they are out of control as well. So I think it just has to do with growing up unfortunately most people get to go crazy when they are younger we couldn't so we now do it for when we are older and have the freedom to be able to experement and maybe go overborard.
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  Never let me down again

  by Pleasuredome in

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  when i decided to stop going meetings, i text sister who was a good friend, and told her that i wasnt continuing with meetings and the reason why, because of child abuse policy etc.

  i asked her if she would like to stay in touch.

  she said that even though she agreed with me, she's 'not one to keep in contact, and i'm not one to judge either'.

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  desy2477

  It is real hard when friends do that to you. But as far as I'm concerned they weren't true freinds to begin with. Because when my best friend got disfellowshiped there was no way I was going to stop talking to her as some friends are forever.
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  New - My Story

  by Skeptically Yours in

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  i've been a witness for as long as i can remember.

  cannot remember ever celebrating a birthday or any holidays.

  my grandmother introduced my parents and siblings to the religion.. it hasn't been a bad experience at all, except for the time when my hormones kicked in at 18 years old and i fornicated with my first boyfriend (it was awesome really!

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  desy2477

  I think it is great that you are still a JW. You are doing all the right things (staying out of the incrowd, not going to gatherings) I think the important thing is to be very careful who you talk and associate with. Both me and my boyfried were brought up as JW's and hope to go back once we are married as we won't give up our bonking (lol). We feel it is a good way of life as long as you have got all the wild experiences out of the way. you go girl
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  disfellowshiped meeting

  by desy2477 in

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  when i for my hearing where i had to tell the elders what i had been up to, they asked real personal questions such as where did you do it?, did you go down on him?, were you drunk?, and the big one did you use any toys or vegetables as sex tools?

  now i don't know about everyone elses disfellowshiping meetings but did this happen for you?.

  anyway has anyone experienced similar?

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  desy2477

  It was one of the most degrading times in my life. But I am really glad that I found this site it really helps to talk about things and especially to people that can understand.
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  disfellowshiped meeting

  by desy2477 in

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  when i for my hearing where i had to tell the elders what i had been up to, they asked real personal questions such as where did you do it?, did you go down on him?, were you drunk?, and the big one did you use any toys or vegetables as sex tools?

  now i don't know about everyone elses disfellowshiping meetings but did this happen for you?.

  anyway has anyone experienced similar?

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  desy2477

  When I for my hearing where I had to tell the elders what I had been up to, they asked real personal questions such as Where did you do it?, Did you go down on him?, Were you drunk?, And the big one did you use any toys or VEGETABLES as sex tools? Now I don't know about everyone elses disfellowshiping meetings but did this happen for you? There were also 5 elders there and because I was only 19 and the guy I slept with (which I am happy to say we are still together 5yrs later) was my first I told them everything. I am sure they all got off on it.

  Anyway has anyone experienced similar? Would love to hear

  Edited by - desy2477 on 11 December 2002 0:0:58
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  Lurkers

  by Yizuman in

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  seems that the page view out number the posters who actually reply to the thread.. my guess is that there's alot of active jws who are still active within' the so called "truth" are visiting this forum and reading all the threads.

  i don't blame them for not wanting to reply for fear of being found out.. how many of you were still active when you found a forum like this one and lurked around for a long time?

  how many of you left the organization as a result of reading this forum or other forums like it?.

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  desy2477

  I'm new to this site and have been disfellowshiped for about 5yrs and I think I will only post if I have anything interesting to say so I think your right Misty.

  Plus I'm new to all this chat line thing
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  Melbourne's first ex-jw meet up a success!

  by Beck_Melbourne in

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  i don't know how everyone else's meetups have been going, but here in melbourne we had our first official meetup on saturday night.. the meetup situation is quite different to meeting people off a discussion board such as this...as you have already formed a friendship or become familiar online...so this was a new experience for me.

  in attendance we had 6 ex-dubs, 3 guys, 3 gals, as well as 2 non-dub partners.

  at the first venue we found it hard to talk and hear each other...so we moved on to a quieter venue where we all shared pizza and drinks and were able to talk across the table with each other.

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  desy2477

  Hi my name is Desiree and my partner is Mathew both ex JW's and we are going to the next meet up and I am a bit quite till I get a few drinks in me but my Mathew he is never Quiet his always the life of the party !!! Look forward to meeting you all.

  Cheers