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  Death in the family

  by Phil in

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  2. friends

  i would like to know what are the habits of jws when it comes to a death in the family.

  this would include situations when the family are not jws as well as when the deceased person from a jw raised family passes, disfellowshipped or not.

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  happyout

  little witch,

  you mean "recruitment meeting"

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  Death in the family

  by Phil in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would like to know what are the habits of jws when it comes to a death in the family.

  this would include situations when the family are not jws as well as when the deceased person from a jw raised family passes, disfellowshipped or not.

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  happyout

  You also might want to check out some of the older posts on this subject, including this one:

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/23938/1.ashx

  Happyout
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  Questions about Jehovah's Witnesses that I need answers to

  by the real truth in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm not trying to offend anyone by asking questions, but i really want answers to my questions from jehovah's witnesses.

  ok, i've been having a problem with john 1:1. how many gods are there?

  the most famous distortion in the nwt is john 1:1. the nwt inserts the word "a" in front of the second god in this verse.

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  "The real truth",

  I am confused. Why are you posting the exact same topic again? You got quite a few answers the first time you asked.

  One of the most important points you seemed to miss is that this is not a Jehovah's Witness site. Most people here are xJWs, so our view will not be the one you are apparently looking for. If you are sincere in your questions, you may want to read your original post, and also post questions that are appropriate to the site you are visiting.

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  What do you do to instill positive attitudes in friends and family?

  by freedom96 in

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  so many people seem to have a negative attitude in life.

  oh, they may be happy, but sometimes the negativity gets so ingrained in them that no matter what happens in life, they look at the glass half full, if not completely empty.. for myself, i do everything in my power to instill a positive attitude with my children.

  i am always giving them words of support, anything it takes to instill in them a yes i can attitude, instead of allowing them to wallow in self pity, etc.. same thing with friends.

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  freedom,

  Yesterday a guy who works with me asked me where I got my energy, and why I was always smiling. He said everytime he came to my desk it was crowded with stuff, and I'm always on the phone working, and how do I stay so upbeat. It surprised me for a minute, and then I started to think about it. Some of it has to do with genetics. All the in laws in my family have mentioned that my siblings and I tend to wake up happy and smiling (my husband has been known to ask me to cheer down). The other part of it is introspection. I know things could be worse (and things have been worse), so I try to appreciate the good times. I find that smiling helps me feel better, and I smile all the time.

  I compliment friends and strangers all the time, I smile at everyone I come into contact with, and I laugh as much as I can.

  Have a great day,

  Happyout
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  I'm Concerned About My Children.

  by SpannerintheWorks in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  they are four and seven, both girls.

  and i love them.

  i love them more than my life.. at last i was able to post my real (although sub-concious) reason for being here!.

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  Well, I kind of discuss things very non threateningly. Like, when she says she has never restricted your beliefs, say thank you and all you are asking is that she extend the same courtesy to your children. When she says you have no idea what it's like, then say, she's right, but she fell in love with you as a non-JW, so that must mean something worthwhile came out of your belief. You just want your children to have the opportunity to form their own beliefs, and it if really is "the truth" then their being exposed to other religions will not be a deterent to their seeing "the truth". Also, point out that if you aren't allowed to share your thoughts and ideas with your children, it could damage your relationship with them.

  If all else fails, try to gently point out that you are the "head of the household" and that your decision is that your children will participate in things with you as well as things with their mother. If she cries, hold her and comfort her and say you both want the best for your children, and that's what's most important.

  Again, I haven't experienced this myself, so I hope my advice doesn't sound too simplistic. I hope things work out for you and your family.

  Happyout
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  I'm Concerned About My Children.

  by SpannerintheWorks in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  they are four and seven, both girls.

  and i love them.

  i love them more than my life.. at last i was able to post my real (although sub-concious) reason for being here!.

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  Hi, Spanner

  I am not in this situation (fortunately), but I have seen a few of them actually work out ok. The parents basically traded off Sundays with their different churches, and agreed to leave the rest of the week alone. Around holidays, they were celebrated with both religion's traditions. Now, I know this is harder with a JW, but hopefully your wife will understand that your beliefs are just as important to you as hers are to her, and that you have the right to equal time. Even if your time isn't spent at a church, but maybe at a cultural event, then it is "fair". And, as for holidays, maybe you could take your children to a relative's house and celebrate there, trading off Christmas for Thanksgiving, etc.

  I would be careful, though, to make sure your children don't carry a blood card, and that you have a notice on file at their pediatrician's office as to your wishes in that regard.

  How do your children feel about it? Had I been given a choice, I would have elected to stay where I could have Christmas

  Good luck,

  Happyout
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  Death in the family

  by Phil in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would like to know what are the habits of jws when it comes to a death in the family.

  this would include situations when the family are not jws as well as when the deceased person from a jw raised family passes, disfellowshipped or not.

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  Phil,

  There are too many variances for me to get into detail, but one thing is for absolute certain. All JWs view death as an open door to preach to the bereaved about the "hope of the resurrection". Often, the funeral talk will be less about the individual than about JW teachings, and an invitation to come to the Kingdumb hall.

  If the dead person was disfellowshipped, the funeral cannot be in a KH, and many JWs will not attend. If the deceased was in good standing within the congregation, baptised or not, then the service can be in a hall, and an elder will likely give the talk (see above).

  Hopefully this is not something you are having to deal with personally.

  Happyout
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  I need a good beating for what I did this morning

  by freeman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this morning i let my emotions run away with me and challenged my 20-year-old son into defending his loyalty to the watchtower shunning doctrine.

  it was not good, im in no way proud of myself.

  im sure he and my dub wife will likely mischaracterize it as an attack on god; anything said against the tower is always an attack on god.

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  (((freeman)))

  I know how easy it is to lose your temper regarding some of the vicious, stupid rules that the WTS enforces. There's nothing wrong with getting upset, just in how you express it. Being human, we all lose it sometimes, and as you already know, you need to apologise for the manner in which you spoke. Not what you said, you were right on the money with that.

  Don't be too hard on yourself, though, after all you were basically defending two young men whose lives are in jeapardy (spelling).

  Good luck, let us know how everything works out.

  Happyout

  ps the advice about getting your son to a therapist is great, you should really really try to do that
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  A trip down memory lane...

  by Jessica Rabbit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i thought i would lighten the mood around here.

  just remember, i'm not laughing at them, i'm laughing with them.

  here's a brief description of some of the "regulars" i used to associate with when i was in the troof.

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  Jessica,

  My mom is sister can't carry a tune in a bucket! And she is so full of joy, she can't help but sing kinda loudly (or maybe it just seems that way)

  I also hung out with Sister Jehovah better send me a husband - she introduces herself to all new male visitors, and somehow works their marital status into the first three seconds of the conversation. If he's married, she's outta there. If not, she offers everything except sex on the podium to hook him before any other sister.

  Sister I'm too spiritual to dress fashionably - she wears clothes 3 sizes too big from 2 decades ago, and looks askance at anyone whose knees are showing. She wears flats, never heels, and gives lectures on how bad heels are for your back.

  Sister I cn justify going to a night club as long as I don't miss meetings - she comes home in time to change and go out in service.

  Happyout
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  Whom Have You Seen In Concert....

  by berylblue in

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  ...and what was your first concert ever?

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  happyout

  Probably the best performers ( in my opinion) were:

  Average White Band

  Teena Marie

  Tower of Power

  Oldies, sure, but guaranteed to bring the house down every time.

  Unfortunately, I seldom go to concerts, because I hate the crowds. I am developing some kind of phobia in regards to strangers touching me, and it makes it too difficult to deal.

  Happyout