the reason i ask is that my brother who you can see in the picture with me, died at the age of 23, which i should be able to get over, but 12 years on and it still bothers me. because he was killed in an accident, it was sudden, and now i have 2 young sons and i find myself constantly looking at them wondering if i will have to say goodbye to them too, i just wish i could put it to bed, either try and contact him, or believe that he is sleeping waiting for resurrection, but i dont know what to believe. the people here seem to make so much sense, i thought you might be able to help.