i posted a thread last night about trying to find the best way to break things off with my (unbaptized) jw girlfriend.
for more details see http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/54192/1.ashx or look at my personal profile.
i had some replies (all of them helpful) so this morning i phoned her and asked could i go over and see her.
Figureheaduk, gonna miss you
. Don't worry Jgnat, I'm not going anywhere! Like I said, I'll definitely be sticking around. I'd like to think that there are others who are going through what I went through who may come to this board for advice, in which case I'd want to help. Besides, the people here are great
after deprogramming, i found that i was a lot more at ease and comforable with who i am.
this transferred to how others treated me.
i no longer struggle with that unending battle between who i was/am and who the j-dud masters told me i should be.
I've stopped hating myself and the world around me, over the past few years. I've finally realised that it's a great place. No matter what religion (or lack thereof), we are all still human, right?
many of you that i have become friendly with on this board will probably know the story of me and my jw girlfriend.
for those that don't, here is the lowdown:.
three and a half years ago i met my girlfriend, and everything seemed great until about two or three months later she told me that she used to be a jw (and that her brother and certain other family members still were).
I feel sorry for you, blue sapphire............
Figgie
hi jesika and aztec,.
i hope you can help me to get to know everyone better here.
this is a really huge forum from what i am used to.
Welcome aboard Ron!
child sex beast crushed
by robin perrie a child molester has been crushed to death under his own car sparking celebrations among his neighbours.
paedophile george nicholson, 63, had convictions for sex attacks on a string of boys as young as nine and was loathed by everyone living near him.
I've always been a believer in what goes around, comes around. He got what he deserved!
i posted a thread last night about trying to find the best way to break things off with my (unbaptized) jw girlfriend.
for more details see http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/54192/1.ashx or look at my personal profile.
i had some replies (all of them helpful) so this morning i phoned her and asked could i go over and see her.
Hi everyone
I posted a thread last night about trying to find the best way to break things off with my (unbaptized) JW girlfriend. For more details see http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/54192/1.ashx or look at my personal profile. I had some replies (all of them helpful) so this morning I phoned her and asked could I go over and see her. She thought it was a bit odd, and asked why, so I told her that I wanted to talk. She said she knew what I wanted to talk about, and that she wanted to talk too. When I got through her front door she was waiting for me, and we just hugged each other. So we sat down, and talked, and both admitted that in the past few months we had been growing apart, and that a split would be for the best. She also admitted that she was getting ready to phone me tommorow about breaking things off, so it seems that the split was a mutual parting which relieved the both of us.
It's such a great relief to know that it was an amicable split (I had always feared that a split between us would be acrimonius), and that we can both now get on with what we want to do with our lives. Although my links to the WT have now been more or less severed, this isn't the last you guys will hear from me. There are too many nice, friendly people on this board, so I'll still be coming back and posting and chatting on a regular basis.
love, greetings and best wishes to you all
Lee / figureheaduk
many of you that i have become friendly with on this board will probably know the story of me and my jw girlfriend.
for those that don't, here is the lowdown:.
three and a half years ago i met my girlfriend, and everything seemed great until about two or three months later she told me that she used to be a jw (and that her brother and certain other family members still were).
Hello again everyone
I finally broke it off with her earlier. Aunthill was spot-on when she said that I may be pleasantly surprised to find that it could be a relief for her too. it turns out that she wanted to try and end things this weekend too. There were a few tears, but we both admitted to each other that a split would make both our lives easier and would allow us to get on with what we wanted to do with our lives. I had always dreaded splitting up with her, because I always imagined that it would all end in floods of tears, but it was such a huge relief to find out that she had been feeling the same way so we parted on friendly terms.
My thanks to all of you that have replied - each post helped me see that it was over (in different ways). Even though my links with the WT are now over, I'll still be coming back to this site, posting and chatting on a regular basis.
see you all soon!
Lee / figureheaduk
many of you that i have become friendly with on this board will probably know the story of me and my jw girlfriend.
for those that don't, here is the lowdown:.
three and a half years ago i met my girlfriend, and everything seemed great until about two or three months later she told me that she used to be a jw (and that her brother and certain other family members still were).
Hi everybody
Many of you that I have become friendly with on this board will probably know the story of me and my JW girlfriend. For those that don't, here is the lowdown:
Three and a half years ago I met my girlfriend, and everything seemed great until about two or three months later she told me that she used to be a JW (and that her brother and certain other family members still were). It never really bothered me, even though once in a while, for no real reason, she'd mention that she thought that the witnesses were the only true religion. When I'd ask her if that was the case, why did she stop going to meetings and start celebrating christmas, new year, birthdays etc, she would answer that she didn't want to live her life like that. So, everything was OK until a few weeks after the September 11 attacks she started crying one day, saying that she wanted to go back to the witnesses because it was the start of the road to armageddon (she even said she was waiting for Bush to say the words "peace and security"). Not long after she started going back to the meetings, bible studies etc and then she told me that to stay with her we would have to be married. I needed time to think about it and after some long, hard deep thinking I realised that getting married would be a mistake, as I felt that I would be doing it because I felt I had to, rather than that I wanted to. I was totally honest with her and said that I didn't want to get married, which upset her. She then said that it would mean us splitting up at some point in the future so she could get ready for baptism. We've stayed together, but now the relationship is beginning to fall apart. We hardly see each other these days, most of her evenings seem to be WT related, while I'm spending most of my spare time studying for an Open University degree, as well as a work-based qualification. I never seem to be invited to her family get togethers, while she doesnt seem to be interested in my family anymore, either. She says she loves me, but I went to see her earlier and I started to feel uncomfortable being cuddled up to her on the sofa.
It seems so sad that we were once so close and seemingly so besotted with each other, but now we are leading totally seperate lives. I no longer feel that I have anything to offer her, and since she so desperately wants to go back and get baptized, I feel that I need to let go of her so she can do what she wants to do with her life ("unevenly yoked" and all that.....), and I can get on with mine.
So here is my question: does anybody know the best way for me to tell her how I really feel right now ? Are there any things that I should (or shouldn't) say? I know break ups are never easy, but this one could be the most difficult one for me so far, and I honestly dont want to hurt her if I can help it.
Thanks for listening
Figureheaduk
in fact, it is very, very soon.
my jw honey came back from the meeting with this earth-shattering announcement.
he is prancing around the house with this new-found knowledge that i have not had the priveledge to hear, understand, or appreciate.. got any good comeback lines?
Haven't they been preaching this crap (unsuccessfuly!) since the late 19th century? Unless they are referring to the end of the WTS itself thanks to a huge drop in numbers bought on by the internet, paedophile scandals, exposure of past (false) prophecies, doctrinal flip flops etc.
hey everyone....this this my first time on one of these forums... been out for short while, but i miss my family and the friends i grew up with.. feeling a little shitty.
how did u cope with suddenly being cut off from the people that you love and depend on?.
by the way, if your wondering about my nik, look it up, thats how my mind is right now.
Hi Boolean, welcome aboard. I was a newcomer here once (although my reason for joining was totally different to yours), but the people here are very friendly! Even after a few months I'm still asking questions about the WT and it's beliefs and practices, and I haven't come across any negativity when it comes to answering "simple" questions.
