Hi!
At first, sorry for my bad English.
I found this forum in BBC when I was looking for something about JWs because this sect became a big problem in my life 3 or 4 months ago.
Last 4 years, it began on elementary and now it continues on high school, I was in love with one girl, but I didn't know much about her, because she was entering group B and I was entering group A in the school. I wanted to know more about her so I didn't tell it her and long time I hoped that will be a situation when I will speak with her. But this wasn't happened. I prepared some words and I told her the last day on elementary school and I hoped that one day I'll meet her somewhere and start a friendship. Last 2 years, I did much for this but everything failed so in the end of last school year, I wrote her a letter where I asked to know something abou her. After one complication with Czech post service she sent me an email. After I read it, I was shocked. She told me nothing about her hobbies, interests etc., only that she believes, it is very much for her, she behave as Bible say, that JWs (!!!-this was the first time I knowed it) are known for this and that she think the Biblical hope is the nicest thing in the life. And asked me if she can tell me something from Bible.
Now overview:
In the Czech Republic lives more than 10 200 000 people and 23 000 JWs at all. We are one of the most (or the most) atheistic countries in the world. For example, in my group on elementary school nobody from 24 people was practicing christian and possibly 3 people was non-practicing (everything girls). In my group now on high school one girl is practicing catholic and 1 or 2 other girls are non-practicing, from 32 people. My mother is catholic (but not strong), my father, brother and me are atheists. And I'm a really strong atheist, I have much reasons for it, and I don't like religions because I think they did much bad and not much good. I was afraid of she can be a believer, but we was once at church with school and she didn't listening to the priest, so I took it that she isn't. Now I know it had another reason. And if a loved one or a friend of mine is believing, I'm in bad situation, but if she/he is JW, it's really hardcore. I knew JWs before from my childwood. After communists left the government for democratic parts in 1989 (I was 5 and I was on demonstration with my mum:-)), all Czech 15 000 hidden JWs begun the invasion. They were really annoying so everybody know about them. I was afraid of them, they stopped people on the streets, went to their homes (and sometimes it was hard to get them out-my own experience) and stayed with Awake or Watchtower everywhere. But now the situation is good, one can don't know that they exist, because they have enough paying members.
Back to my story. Whole holidays I didn't nothing, I was only thinking about her and JWs. We changed some opinions in emails and she wrote me we will stop the discussion. I read much articles about they before this. But I read more articles about they after this, I asked some people and I read picks in this forum. I stayed in 3 positions: to let her live as she want, to get her out and now again to let her be. I talked about her with her friend (non-JW), she (the friend) told me that I have no chance to get her (the JW) out, that she (the friend) tried. She (the JW) was JW from her childwood because her mother was and is the JW. Her father isn't but everything indicates he don't care about his children much.
Now, before I really give it up, I need answers to some questions: how do JWs behave to their children if they don't want to become a JWs ? Are there any ways to get somebody out when he/she don't agree with it and you are out of non-violent means (transfusion-I think it's the past now, other things)? And is there on the forum somebody who was succesfull in getting out another person from the sect?
Thanks everybody for answer. Everybody who know her told me she is very clever (she had probably the best success on elementary school from both groups) and a good girl, she is now 17 or 18 like me and I'm afraid she will live the life in lies and do bad things for her sect. I know much of the JWs' (and christians') opinions (homosexuals, vegetarians,...) and I don't like them. I like her because I loved her, but if someone else had the same opinions, I'll be angry with him/her.
