Posts by Dansk

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Well, Time to Retire

by Stephanus in

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i know i threatened this last year, but this km scan thing came up, and i always said i'd stick around while that was current.

now that that phase is over (http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/49057/1.ashx), i can drift off as i intended over 6 months ago.

i won't say it hasn't been fun, and i've appreciated the comments on this site greatly.

Please stick around as we need as many good posters as possible. Your posts are often very helpful, so please don't think you aren't needed. We'd all be grateful - and the better for it - if you stayed!

Dansk

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I Need Advice - Brother being DF'd tonight!

by BobsGirl in

i just got a call from my baby brother.

they will be announcing that he has been df'd tonight at the hall.

he was crying, he has told me that the rest of the family has already started to shun him.

Dansk

I agree with Rayzor in that your brother should come here! This forum contains everything your brother needs to strengthen him in his conviction that he was RIGHT!

Love to you both,

Dansk

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Culinary Question For Pheasant Pluckers:

by Englishman in

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so, how long would you hang a pheasant for before you thought that it was ready to eat?.

a day?.

3 days?.

Dansk

Searcher,

What's plucking difficult about that!

14

I'm coming to London

by Mum in

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are there any english apostates who could meet me in london or a mutually convenient location.

i'm arriving late tuesday night, so from wednesday forward i am amenable to being reached.

i am at an internet cafe in new york now.

Dansk

Hey Little Toe,

Dy'a ever pass by Manchester? If so, pop in for a cuppa and a chat!

Dansk

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How to Overcome Programmed Fear by JWs

by Victor_E in

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as jws we were programmed with rules to no end.

we even had rules for what to do when the rules we knew did not apply to new situations.

this constant diet of rules upon rules created our mental map that for many is still deeply ingrained below conscious awareness and still operating even though we are no longer jws.

Dansk

I hate the feeling of having my stomach in my throat for any amount of time

That's EXACTLY how I felt the first week or so after leaving the Borg! THAT'S why you don't want the ride - the Borg's in your subconscious (Gosh, maybe I should start charging for this therapy!).

Seriously, I overcame the programmed fear by turning things around. I decided not to let the Borg control me, so I don't give a heck about them. I don't care if I'm DF'd, DA'd or marked. COULDN'T CARE LESS!!!!!!!

This, I have found, works a treat. If you're not afraid of the guys who hold the fear, then there's no fear to be afraid of (this is getting quite profound!).

Dansk - whose real name is Ian

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I need to ask a question...

by nightwarrior in

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after reading flowers posting about her brother, it really got me thinking (a dangerous occupation with me) lol, what is it about the jws, that when you are in the org, you feel that you are in the'right religion', and then wham, something happens, to make you realise that things are not so rosey as you were first led to believe.. so my point is.. when you leave the 'org' you feel such great relief, as if a burden has been lifted from your shoulders, and that you feel that at long last (as in my case) you can really develop a good relationship with our creator... but, if it were the 'true religion' surely we would feel downhearted and oppressed in leaving, and really we would not want to leave at all, as all things would be made clear to us, and we would feel happy again, but that is not the case.. i hope that this makes sense.

as at the moment my mother and sisters are still not speaking to me, it has now been a month, and the tatic i know, is that by (hopefully) ignoring me, i will come to my senses and return to the fold, and maybe even leave my sweet talking evil slave class husband!!

(yeah right).

Dansk

Excuse me, CJ, but aren't you looking back in your photograph?!

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I Wonder

by Wolfgirl in

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i wonder, if my life had started differently,.

what kind of person would i be?.

when others feel they can at last.

Dansk

Wolfgirl,

Your poem says it all! You are you because of what you’ve been through – and have become the tender loving soul that permeates your verses. Never look back, especially when your life is obviously so good and there’s so much more happiness to come. I’m happy for you.

Thanks for sharing.

Dansk

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Does anyone know of an elder that actually helped a sexual abuse survivor?

by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

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there are soooooooo many victims (although i prefer to use the word: survivor) of sexual abuse coming out of the borg and telling their horrible stories, including my own family.

i have read stories that made me feel either angry, frustrated, revolted, furious.............but they all made me feel sad.. in every story it seems that the wts, elders and jws in general have let the child and/or family down.

from my own personal experience i can say that the elders in the congregation where my child was abused didn't do anything to protect other kids, and certainly didn't show love and support for my child or our family.