When I first faded my wife was heading out to the meeting with her mother and a friend and her mom said "aren't you worried about G finding another man at the hall" to which I replied "not really, if she's a whore I would rather find out now than later...
Full on aggression at it's best. It took me awhile but I eventually determined that that was what it took when dealing with my wife and her JW family. Put them on the defensive and keep them there.
always bring the offensive "A" game