Very interesting OCW! Thanks for sharing that with us, I suffer from anxiety in a huge way. Thank goodness for medication, supportive friends and websites like this, if I didn't have these things I would be in a mess. Coming out of the org is a very long healing process, but with the right frame of mind we can ALL get through this.
Red
so i e mailed bill o reilly, a foxnews reporter who is very opinionated, and told him about how anti-american the org.
is cuz he hates that kind of stuff and exposes it on his show... so if we all e-mail him, and he does read his e-mail, maybe we can get another punch in the apostate time-card regarding the pedophilia issue and the general crappiness of jws during the war.
we all know that they'r eout there more than ever because they think people need to hear from them during the war, and fox gets a lot of publicity... so c'mon guys, e-mail bill o reilly about how jws are anti-american, let's get them in the news!.
I don't have a problem doing this; but what exactly should I say in my email????
Red
please give a number of examples to prove that jw's are a controlling group.
I remember after having my THIRD baby I was talking with my brother (who was a very strong jw) and I simply made the comment that my stomach was a little sore and he gave me a weird look, so I explained to him I got my tubes tied...oh boy I tell you, you would've thought I just killed somebody. The First words out of his mouth were "Did you do any research on that and find out what the faithful and discreet slave have to say about that"!! I thought I was gonna freakin puke! My husband and I made the decision that no matter what our 3rd baby was- that was it for us--no more. I never even realized it would be considered wrong to "them". So like a normal JW, I was stricken with guilt, went right home and started looking up info and even talked to an elder about it. I hated that feeling (at that time) of doing something I couldn't change. I mean- damn I had 3 kids now, do you think those bastards were gonna come help me take care of all 3 of them during all these meetings, service etc...??? Just a little example of how much control this organization has over its members! It wasn't long after this episode I left! My heart truly aches for people that are still under this control, because I am loving life--finally!
Red
no, i'm not singing an eminem song...i actually did clean out my closet this weekend and came across all my old jw books.
when i left the org 2 years ago i bought everything i could get my hands on, and read everything that was considered "apostate" literature.
but there is this one called "the report"... i can't remember how or who i bought it from-- all i remember is that i had a very hard time understanding it.
No, I'm not singing an eminem song...I actually did clean out my closet this weekend and came across all my old JW books. When I left the org 2 years ago I bought everything I could get my hands on, and read everything that was considered "apostate" literature. But there is this one called "The Report"... I can't remember how or who I bought it from-- All I remember is that I had a very hard time understanding it. Does anyone know anything about this book???
Thanks!
Red
o.k who here is irish?
it's st.patricks weekend and time get that green beer, irish stew and corned beef and cabbage.
who is partaking this weekend?
well...green happens to be one of my favorite colors and beer is definately my favorite drink..so by golly you can count me in. Don't know if I'm Irish--don't really care, but I will help them celebrate!!
Red
i see a counselor, i am on medication...but still several times a week a just burst out into tears when i think of my mom, sister, brother (all jw's) who are shunning me.
i miss them soooo very much.
it has been 2 years since i left (i also da'd myself).
I signed up to the Meetup site. And have already marked my calendar for the next meeting in Kansas City. I can't wait! It will be so good to finally be able to talk to others that actually know what you're going through. Thanks to all who responded!
Red
i see a counselor, i am on medication...but still several times a week a just burst out into tears when i think of my mom, sister, brother (all jw's) who are shunning me.
i miss them soooo very much.
it has been 2 years since i left (i also da'd myself).
Thanks Tammy! Ok where is the meetup site???
i see a counselor, i am on medication...but still several times a week a just burst out into tears when i think of my mom, sister, brother (all jw's) who are shunning me.
i miss them soooo very much.
it has been 2 years since i left (i also da'd myself).
I don't know what else to do. I see a counselor, I am on medication...but still several times a week a just burst out into tears when I think of my mom, sister, brother (all jw's) who are shunning me. I miss them soooo very much. It has been 2 years since I left (I also DA'd myself). Does it ever get any easier? What more can I do to help myself? I don't regret the decision I made, and will NEVER consider going back, but I miss my family very much... my heart hurts!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Red
will you now say when someone sneezes ," bless you!!!"?
or do you feel weird about it?
would you give blood or be uncomfortable, still?
well, let's see...since I left 2 years ago I have:
gotten a divorce, celebrate ALL the holidays, wear patriotic clothes, got a tattoo, my purpose in having a "few" drinks is to get drunk and dance my butt off at a nightclub, read my horoscope daily(ooh shame-shame), smoke when I feel like it-especially with a Budlite, and last but not least...fornicate, fornicate, fornicate!!! And I haven't been this happy in a very long time!!! And yes, I can still sleep at night knowing that I am doing all these things, I don't feel one bit guilty!
Isn't life great!
Red
was it internal or external?
i know of some that pioneered because they felt they had to.
we know of many that felt awful because they were ridiculed because they were witness children and had to get baptized and face school pressure, all the while hating it.
Hi everyone, I am new to the board. I have been looking alot at the discussions the last few months, but this is the first time I have replied.
Some of the worst pressures I felt were dealing with my children. I have 3 beautiful girls--and it is tough making sure ALL 3 of them had dresses, tights, hair all prettied up...(I know it sounds trivial, but it was a lot of pressure and stress), just making it to the meetings 3 times a week plus field service-- I was a nervous wreck. And not to mention I had to work full time plus keep the home in order--you know setting the good "christian" example for my neighbors. Also felt a lot of pressure of trying to make my kids behave during the meetings. Being a JW is the most exhausting thing I ever experienced.
I also dreaded having the "talk" with the teachers at school about why my daughter wasn't going to participate in certain things. I remember picking up my daughter early one day because they were getting ready to have a halloween party, and could just see all the glares from other parents and teachers. But the look on her face when she knew she had to leave (thinking about it now) just rips my heart in two!! I still feel so horrible that I made my child go through that the first few years of her school years!
Thank God, I came to my senses!!
Looking forward to becoming more involved in this board, you guys have kept me pretty entertained lately!!
Red
