I find it amazing that after someone is DF'd or they just fall away, that they allow other JWs to dictate to them what rules they should follow. I fell away in 1996 and renounced it in 1998 and I would be DAMNED if I was told by an elder or any other JW that I was not to do this or that and I can't go here or there and I can't to so and so. I would say, "Who the F*CK are YOU to tell ME what I can and can't do?"
I've heard of them coming over to someone's house for a visit and when the person left the room for a moment they started searching his house for stuff to pin on him. They were even accessing his computer looking to see if he had porn on it. I'm sorry but you are in MY HOUSE! You follow MY RULES HERE! Even the police have no rights to do this without a warrent so what the F*CK do you think you're doing?!
But some people allow others to walk all over them. They give people that have no authority full permission to do whatever they please and THAT'S where they get their power from. From the weak. Stand your ground. Get a spine and stick up for your rights as a human and don't let these soul soliciting sobs think they have control over you.