Interesting question Min. I liked your comment about validation. I must confess that when ever I feel I have things together something or someone comes along and shows me how little I know about myself and how others view me. You are right about not looking for validation from others. Most people would not give it to you even if they knew how. Most people have way too much insecurity to give something they crave to someone else.
As for me...the older I get, the less I know, and I'm not too happy about THAT fact.
Mav