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  Sad News Orangefatcat's husband died this morning.

  by orangefatcat in

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  this is one of the sadest days in my life, my beloved husband marco passed away this morning at 5:15 am.. it has been a dreadful day.

  but my dear friend was with most of the day while we went togerther to make funeral arrangements.. that was really hard on me.

  i have done nothing but cry and cry all day, i finally fell asleep a few hours ago while my friend diane was here and she let me sleep.

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  (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((OFC)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  I am deeply sorry to hear of your loss. May God grant you strength in these overwhelming moments of grief.

  bebu
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  Iranian Women "Honored" on Thursday !

  by Rabbit in

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  http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070704/wl_nm/iran_khamenei_women_dc_1;_ylt=akt2uvvuc93za2taib9xdnn0wnwv.

  don't "play" with islamic law, iranian women told 43 minutes ago .

  activists should not try to change islamic laws relating to women's rights, iran's supreme leader said on wednesday, two days after one campaigner was reportedly sentenced to 34 months in jail and ten lashes.. ayatollah ali khamenei, also lambasted the west for using women as a tool to advertise products, make money and to satisfy "disorderly and unlawful sexual needs," state television said.. he was addressing a group of women, most dressed conservatively in head-to-toe black chadors, in tehran ahead of thursday's anniversary of the birth of prophet mohammad's daughter, fatima, when iran honors mothers and women.. campaigners say iranian women face difficulties in getting a divorce and criticize inheritance laws they say are unjust and the fact their court testimony is worth half that of a man's.. the islamic republic rejects allegations it is discriminating against women, saying it follows sharia law.. "we are witnessing in our country that some women activists and some men are trying to play with islamic laws ... in order to harmonize them with international conventions related to women," khamenei said.

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  Can you feel the love?

  Interestingly, in Islam God is called everything very positive (great, awesome, mighty, wise, etc.) but not loving. There is no Koranic verse anywhere, to my knowledge, that states that God even loves people at all. In return, Muslims are required only to respect and obey Allah; there is no command to love him. Compulsive obedience, not a relationship, is the goal.

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  need serious advice

  by coffee_black in

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  i don't know where to start.

  i'm on vacation, staying with my daughter for the next few days...and then we're going (my daughter & her 3 kids) to my son's wedding reception some distance from here.. she has been trying to finalize her divorce and custody of the kids for about 6 years now.

  they have been separated for that long.

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  Is all this behavior recent? Is it documented?

  I think it would behoove you to find a GOOD lawyer if she stayed--one who can end the divorce fast and who can help make things stick. It could be worth it in the long run!!!

  If your state has better protection against domestic abuse, I hope she considers moving there, too. It will be harder for him to bother her, even if he finds her. Especially if there is a recent threat, she must consider this alternative seriously.

  I had a friend whose daughter was in a similar situation; he was psychotic/bipolar, and alternately threatened and apologized. He eventually killed himself. They think he did it (while lucid) to end the horrible cycle he couldn't control.

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  Funny Things Kids Say to Brighten Your Day......

  by AK - Jeff in

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  art linkletter used to do program in which he highlighted the funny things that kids say.

  later bill cosby did the same sort of show.

  locally, there is a lady who does a newspaper column in which funny things are recounted.. this forum represents hundreds and even thousands of people - many of whom have childen, or at least are around children.

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  Those are great stories!

  I have several, but one thatwe always joke about goes:

  When B. was 4, she was concerned about the pepper that was put on her food at dinner. "What if I get it in my eye?" she asked anxiously. "Don't worry," we said, "you won't get it in your eye." Of course, the pepper was just sitting on her food, totally impotent to her eyes.

  Still anxious, she took her index finger and put it in the pepper, and dabbed it into her own eye! Of course she began screaming, and we were all sitting with mouths agape at what we just saw. She couldn't explain why she felt compelled to do what she was so afraid of.

  Now we say "Don't put it in your eye!" whenever she (or anyone else) has something that is ridiculously and OBVIOUSLY dangerous to put into an eye--such as, a garden trowel, a dead fly, tabasco sauce... (She finally "gets" why this is so funny, and she doesn't feel compelled to put things in her eyes now, of course--thank God.)

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  Because they are FAITHFUL!!! Because they are DISCREET!!!

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  a coworker and friend whose family are jw went to the district convention with his jw wife and kids.. he said that about the only thing he got out of friday's session was this hilarious statement in the title.. here's the story-.

  the speaker says, .

  "why should we trust the faithful and discreet slave?.

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  Soooooo... suddenly Jesus found a group of men whom he could rely upon?? Exactly as was said earlier,

  "Jesus trusted them, ACCORDING TO THEM."

  And not according to Jesus:

  JN 2:23 Now while he was in Jerusalem at the Passover Feast, many people saw the miraculous signs he was doing and believed in his name. 24 But Jesus would not entrust himself to them,for he knew all men. 25 He did not need man's testimony about man, for he knew what was in a man.

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  My 17 year old daughter has so many problems

  by Jez in

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  well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way.

  she has had many problems for many years.

  she ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies.

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  ((((((((((((((((Jez)))))))))))))))))

  It is horrendously hard to see a child go so wrong when you have done all you can to help her go right. It is scary... one of the scariest things I've faced, too. It can consume you, like you said. ( BTW, don't blame yourself over the JW pull-out; I suspect she may have still had similar problems even as a JW.)

  After you finally resolve to allow her to fly solo, you will slowly discover that you can find parameters for your emotions over her. You will love her no less, but she will not consume you the same way.

  More than any advice (and jgnat's was the voice of experience and reason and love imo), I just want to give you a cyberhug. Moms hurt like hll over their lost kids, and I wish I could ease that for you somehow. It is harder when it seems that everyone else's kids have no problems at all. What has helped me is the support and advice from a mom whose 2 sons left when they were 14 and 16... and how they finally came to their senses after several months.

  I know you don't pray, but I'll certainly be praying for your daughter, and you as well.

  (((HUGS)))

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  Help !!!! I need some answers...shall I continue in the truth???

  by resthe in

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  i need some answers or advice from the experienced brothers/sisters regarding my stand.

  i am too shy to go to the elders.

  shall i continue and pursue my life and hopefully be part of the organization once again ??

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  I didn't read all the replies, so maybe this was already addressed...

  But your subject question was, "Shall I continue in the truth?"

  Why would you leave the truth if it REALLY is the truth?? You are more devoted to a culture than to what truth is, because pursuing truth will always lead to making uncomfortable or painful choices. Already, what you call the "truth" is inconvenient, and you want to do something else.

  So... decide if the truth matters at all. Or if it matters at all to you.

  If the truth really isn't important to you, then please don't call anything the "truth" because you don't know/don't care to be sure.

  If the truth does matter to you, you must discern if the JWs alone really have the "truth".

  I am convinced that they do not, despite their passionate assertions that they do.

  bebu

  PS: Welcome to the board!!
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  Reminder for assistance for FlyingHighNow

  by bebu in

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  it's a new month coming, and i would like to encourage folks who can and feel personally lead to, to give some special financial assistance to fhn.

  yes, there are always bills to be paid... .

  it is hoped that fhn can be tided over, esp.

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  Ka-bump
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  Reminder for assistance for FlyingHighNow

  by bebu in

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  it's a new month coming, and i would like to encourage folks who can and feel personally lead to, to give some special financial assistance to fhn.

  yes, there are always bills to be paid... .

  it is hoped that fhn can be tided over, esp.

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  BuMpItY bUmP...
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  Reminder for assistance for FlyingHighNow

  by bebu in

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  it's a new month coming, and i would like to encourage folks who can and feel personally lead to, to give some special financial assistance to fhn.

  yes, there are always bills to be paid... .

  it is hoped that fhn can be tided over, esp.

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  BTTT