I completely agree that friendship takes time, and there are many people I respect but with whom I am not "friends".
The first time hosting an international student, I inadvertently created problems during a discussion about friendship. Our student said that she made friends with everybody, she liked everyone. I said that it usually took me a good year to feel like someone was a real friend. Unfortunately, she took that to mean that we were not going to be friends, and so we went thru several months of her acting "cold" until she explained how she interpreted that comment.
One good simile I heard about friendship is that friends are like fellow travelers who meet as they walk toward a common goal. They have a shared value to discuss; their eyes look ahead as they walk, not (like lovers) looking into each other's eyes. They are truly companions.
I'm sorry you had such a rough bout with posters here; I guess I missed all those threads. But I AM glad you came back here, because I have always enjoyed your posts, and I respect you a great deal.
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