Posts by gcc2k

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Sept. KM question box now a video on Youtube

by Wasanelder Once in

yep, i put the sept. km question box on youtube.i set it to the song "clampdown" by the clash.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=bhvhe4no_bi

http://youtube.com/profile?user=truthbookblue

Knocking director is gay

by gcc2k in

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i'm not sure where this belongs, but i found it to be an interesting article:.

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http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/g/a/2007/05/14/findrelig.dtl&hw=jehovah&sn=001&sc=1000

gcc2k

I'm not sure where this belongs, but I found it to be an interesting article:

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/g/a/2007/05/14/findrelig.DTL&hw=jehovah&sn=001&sc=1000

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Good Friday....

by AK - Jeff in

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gcc2k

That would be Depeche Mode's Personal Jesus.
Others have covered it, including Johnny Cash.

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New duds for the Assembly/Convention

by gcc2k in

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my wife seems to break out new outfits for her and the kids at these events.

i get the idea when someone is single (sisters are "fellowshopping" - always loved that term).

old habits die hard, perhaps?

My wife seems to break out new outfits for her and the kids at these events.
I get the idea when someone is single (sisters are "fellowshopping" - always loved that term).
Old habits die hard, perhaps? The same goes for the Memorial - everyone always seems to sport new dresses. Well, the women anyway, no one cares what the brothers are wearing except the elders :)

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managing a mixed marriage - is it possible?

by gcc2k in

i think one of the major obstacles i see in remaining in my marriage is how to manage the fact that my wife is "in" and i'm not.

i am a fader, not da or dfd (i've wanted to da for a long time but haven't, and haven't been dfd yet).

my wife is devout but not fanatic.

gcc2k

Sass - I see you read my other thread :)

I'm not sure if "forgiven" is the right word, but we're trying not to make any rash decisions. I'm working through things in therapy and it's not easy.

Getting her "out" is not an option. She's thought about it, for the sake of the marriage, and can't do it.
There are things that bother her (some things) but they are not big enough to the point where she would consider leaving.

I truly believe that the religion issue is divisive enough where it was a factor in my recent behavior (not the only factor, but it didn't help).
Having no friends you can be close to, including your spouse, is certainly going to weigh on a marriage.

If we stay together, I don't see that changing though. My friends won't be her friends, and vice-versa.
I recently met a friend of hers and her husband, and while my first thought was "hey, they're cool, we could be friends", I quickly realized that they probably want nothing to do with me, and I certainly noticed the husband staring at my beard, probably thinking "oh, that poor misguided brother".

I think the success of any mixed marriage is going to depend on the degree of compromise that each spouse exhibits. For example, if I insist that the kids not go to meetings or out in service, that's going to be a very different marriage from the one we've had so far, where I let them do as she pleases.
Likewise, if she's unwilling to accept my friends as real friends, and not just "my husband's worldly acquaintances", I don't see that working.

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managing a mixed marriage - is it possible?

by gcc2k in

i think one of the major obstacles i see in remaining in my marriage is how to manage the fact that my wife is "in" and i'm not.

i am a fader, not da or dfd (i've wanted to da for a long time but haven't, and haven't been dfd yet).

my wife is devout but not fanatic.

gcc2k

I think one of the major obstacles I see in remaining in my marriage is how to manage the fact that my wife is "in" and I'm not.
I am a fader, not DA or DFd (I've wanted to DA for a long time but haven't, and haven't been DFd yet).

My wife is devout but not fanatic. She's balanced in a lot of ways that traditional witnesses are not (allows the kids to take sports classes with non-JWs, for example) and recently has been making more of an effort to meet some of my complaints (for example, letting the kids play with the neighbors' kids, and making a point of telling me).

When I bring up our differences as a problem, she points to friends of hers that manage to make it, even some who have DFd spouses.

The thing that bothers me is that I know we will have two mutually exclusive circles of friends. They can overlap at some small point, depending on the people, but by and large we will have two separate worlds.

Then there is the issue of kids - what if I want to celebrate holidays or birthdays? Do I accept that she'll leave the room or the house, or not travel to a relative's house?

I know all this depends on the "piousness" (for lack of a better term) of the Witness, but I just see it as a recipe for disaster.

We have other issues as well, but I figured I'd start with this one :)

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

gcc2k

I'm chuckling because I bet I know the actors in this soap opera, though I now live far far away... :)

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For the kids is it better to stay married and miserable or...?

by brunnhilde in

...get a divorce and at least have a chance at happiness?

my husband and i would never have gotten married if we weren't both in the borg.

now we're both out and we have nothing in common.

gcc2k

It's tough. I'm in a similar yet different boat.
I'm out, she's in, and I'm not sure if I want to stay together.
Heck, I don't know what to do either.

Everything I've read indicates that clearly, how well your kids do in a divorce depends on how well the parents get along.
No fighting, no namecalling, etc.

But, would kids do better with divorced but happy parents vs married, unhappy parents? Unclear.
It's also unclear if you will be happier when you're divorced.

Couples therapy helps, but it's not a magic pill. Consider individual therapy as well if you can afford it.

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2007 DC "Follow the Christ" Locations Available

by blondie in

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i finally got the list for the us and canada.

i can't say which one your relatives or "friends" are going to but i can tell you what the sites are.

i notice they are not posted yet on the www.jw-media.org website.. many did not get their march 1, 2007, wts in us congregations until this week because the site of their convention had not been announced at the congregation level.. there are several english conventions being held at the newburgh, ny assembly hall and the queens, ny assembly hall as well as at the west palm beach, fl assembly hall.

gcc2k

Very interesting Blondie. That information tells me most likely one of two things:
a) They are expecting much smaller turnouts, so they are using their own facilities and not booking the large stadiums.
b) The stadiums are no longer interested in having them there, at any price. This was the case with Yankee Stadium, which they lost a few years back.

Of course, there will still be a shortage of funds throughout the events, despite the fact that they own the facilities.
Also, please remember to deposit cans in the containers clearly marked... "cans". Thank you.

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2007 DC "Follow the Christ" Locations Available

by blondie in

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i finally got the list for the us and canada.

i can't say which one your relatives or "friends" are going to but i can tell you what the sites are.

i notice they are not posted yet on the www.jw-media.org website.. many did not get their march 1, 2007, wts in us congregations until this week because the site of their convention had not been announced at the congregation level.. there are several english conventions being held at the newburgh, ny assembly hall and the queens, ny assembly hall as well as at the west palm beach, fl assembly hall.

gcc2k

District conventions in Newburgh? Must be foreign language? Either that, or they are having trouble booking the large sites like Nassau Coliseum. I've always noticed that many people go to other locations. In (my former congo) the ones looking for a leg up would always where they were assigned, so they could help with setup, etc. But most other "normal" JWs combine their trip with a vacation, or split up the convention dates so they won't go broke.