Posts by Redneckgurl

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Just don't understand them...........................

by gti2002 in

my husbands family are jw, my huband threatened to be but has changed his mind.

his mother is absolutely foul to me and has taken every opportunity to try and get in between us and split us up.

if we ever row, she takes his side and starts pointing out what an awful, disgusting (yes she actually said that!

Redneckgurl

GTI,

It is going to be hard for you to understand because you have not been a JW before. Their reasoning on things is so different than what you would think. It is true that your opposition to him attending meetings is going to be looked upon as persecution, and even as an attack by Satan, all the more reason for him to "move ahead" and fight that much harder to go. You of course will be seen as just another worldly person under the hooks of the devil, being used by him to do evil against those who want to do God's will. See? The more you fight, the more you might lose. The only thing you can hope for is that he will someday see the light about the "light" and leave that way. Otherwise, you will have a husband with a guilt stricken conscience who will be resentful of you for keeping him from God, that is, if he listens to you. Wish I could be more hopeful for you, but it is a way of thinking that is NOT easy to get rid of.

Redneckgurl

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Nipple Question

by Stacy Smith in

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i see at least two males here (according to their avatars) have nipple piercings.

the only question that comes to mind is.....why?

is it something that you have done to impress women?

Redneckgurl

Over the past year and getting out into the real world, I have met several women and men with nipple piercings, and while I would not do it, it is a turn on for me........they feel cool in your mouth (huh! did I just say that?)

Anyway, most of them did it cause they wanted to feel the pain, that let me know it wasn't for me! I hate pain, but my husband is going to get one pierced.

Redneckgurl

23

Does anyone else still get Armaggeddon Nightmares!!

by Lainey in

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i haven't posted for a few weeks as i have been back at work busy beavering away, however as it is my day off i thought i would see if anyone else has the same trouble that i have, and also if there is anything they have found useful.. i have always had trouble eating properly and sleeping ever since my early teen years, but over the past couple of years or so (even though i know i don't believe the watchtower teachings anymore) i have at least 3 or 4 times a week, the most vivid awful nightmares about armaggeddon, and the different ways that jehovah is going to destroy me because of my wickedness.

i wake up in tears and shaking with fear, and then i am not able to get back to sleep, i just lie awake until the morning not daring to close my eyes.. i can't believe that as a grown woman, the watchtower teachings keep coming back to haunt me.. lainey.

ps can i also thank all the posters for the kind personal messages that i have received since i came here

Redneckgurl

Lainey,

I have had those nightmares before! When I was 18 and DF'd, I had the most horrible dreams about my parents screaming for me, being swallowed into the ground, pleading with God that I was sorry and that I did love him, etc., etc.. I was terrified that somehow I needed to get back to the meetings and approved with the God again. What made that easy for me was getting pregnant and thinking I would save my child's life.

Many years later--------I no longer go to meetings anymore because I don't think this religion is God's only approved religion, nor do I believe it is truly good for everyone. I have NO desire to go back, NO regretful feelings at all (except that I didn't do this a long time ago) and I am so happy to say that I have not had any nightmares this time. It has been over a year since I started searching into things.

The only dream that I had was last week. I dreamed that my parents took my children and were hiding them and threatening me to start going to meetings again so they wouldn't die. I couldn't find my children. That was an awful dream, but I didn't think I was going to die in my dream! A great feeling to wake up to and realize how much I have changed inside and no longer wrought with fear and guilt all the time!

Redneckgurl

54

my heart hurts.

by flower in

well i have been feeling a bit like crap lately.

work has been very stressful and my attempts to make new friends outside of the jw's have been mostly futile.

the people i work with are immature and are more interested in the latest office gossip and whose doing what than anything else.

Redneckgurl

Flower,

It's good to hear you are feeling better, that we were able to pull you up on your tosies again! I am sure I will be where you were the other day, feeling pretty crappy about my life and and to see that I will have somewhere to go and be given kind words is awesome!

As I am on here longer, I hope to get to know you all better.

Redneckgurl

54

my heart hurts.

by flower in

well i have been feeling a bit like crap lately.

work has been very stressful and my attempts to make new friends outside of the jw's have been mostly futile.

the people i work with are immature and are more interested in the latest office gossip and whose doing what than anything else.

Redneckgurl

Flower,

Sorry to hear what I happening to you, please don't think that God is doing this to you sweetie! The Bible even says he does not try us with evil, and having no friends sux! Something I have learned is that no matter where you go, whether it be the Kingdom Hall, another church, a workplace, whatever, wher there are people, there is that kind of treatment of eachother going on. Some places are worse than others, but people are people and they like to gossip and talk..........that's why there have always been so many talks about gossip, and that won't change.

You are going through a cycle of grief and mourning that will pass and then probably come around again someday......you will feel better! Try to get involved in something with the community. My husband joined the volunteer fire dept., and while the gossip and backstabbing is horrible there, it still gives him something to do and be a part of. We have started going out on the weekends to places where kids do not hang out, and have met some great people to see again and again when we go out and are developing friendships with them. Everyone is looking for friends, and you have something about you that someone will want more of! Just keep going...........

and one more thing.....could you be depressed? I can relate to your words when I am feeling depressed. Perhaps a trip to your family doc can help you out a little to get through this. (this is just my opinion based on personal experience)

(((((((((((((((((((A GREAT BIG HUG))))))))))))))))))))))

Redneckgurl

38

Witness Costume Parties?

by shamus in

does anyone remember a watchtower saying that costume parties were inappropriate for christians?

i seem to remember that they were labeled in the "deamon" category, even if you had one and it had nothing to do with halloween.. is this true?

does anyone remember this crap?

Redneckgurl

When I was a teenager, the congregation I was in had costume parties in November, you know, keep it close to Halloween so that costumes were easily available! LOL It was a big deal that everyone looked foward to, planned for, and was exciting.....I was always waiting to get my invitation in the mail.

Anyway, I was never invited to them because my parents thought it was a replacement for Halloween, and I was looked down upon as a troublemaker. Then they were banned and my father felt vindicated.........I just looked like him like an ole fuddy dud, and was not happy that he got his way.

Oh, did I mention that only a couple of the teens I grew up with stayed JW's? I used to wonder why, now I wish I joined them sooner!

Just Celebrated Halloween for the first time with my children! It was great! Even Hubby did it for the first time in his life! (I did it till I was 10)

Redneckgurl

29

I had to DF my brother a few days ago!

by cyberguy in

i had to df my brother a few days ago!

i just wanted to visit him and my family late december.

anyway, he said, "we don?t want you here!

Redneckgurl

((((((HUGS))))))))

Unfortunately I think I will be in the same position as you soon, I too have a brother and was planning to visit him in the spring in Florida, take the kids to see their cousin, and stay with him. I am almost positive that I won't be allowed in his home once he finds out what I have been up to....(birthdays, halloween, etc.) I don't know how I will tell my children they can not see their cousin there, it will be hard.

Please remember that it will be hard for your family too, even though they might not act like it, they are in pain because of not being able to talk to you. They will put on a front "with strength from Jehovah" and will act like they are mad at you, or that you don't exist anymore, but believe me, they are in pain too, because of what they have been taught. There are others who understand you and will be there for you, perhaps you will find someone who you can be close to and spend time with who will be like family to you. That's what I am trying to do now, make some close friends who will have me and my husband and children over to spend Thanksgiving with!

Take care,

Redneckgurl

17

In a tight spot.......and unsure what to do!

by Redneckgurl in

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i have not posted in several months..........way too much emotionally for me to deal with everything, since my family is all "in the truth" and i am the black sheep

well here is my dilemma.........we are going to celebrate halloween with the kids on friday

there are several in the congregation who still call me to do their hair.........i don't want to do it anymore, but don't know how to tell them as many of them are elderly and i love them dearly.......i don't want to hurt them, ya know?

Redneckgurl

District Overbreer,

I know what you are saying, but can't I be disfellowshipped anyway by so blatantly displaying the fact that I am NOT being a good JW? Probably doesn't help that I have lived in this town, grew up here, for the last 20 years. You know, the JW's were my life, I am starting to find new friends, my family and I, people to associate with who are fun and like us for who we are (which is very wierd by the way)

I don't want to ask my dad, the elder about this, it would probably kill him, but I don't know really, if I can get DF'd for being seen doing stuff, even if no one talks to me about it.

Oh, and here's a good one...........in the year that we have not attended meetings.......not 1 elder has come to see us, or even call. One saw us at the store and asked if they could come by sometime and I said yes (regrettably) but they never came!

Thanks for replying so quickly,

K in Texas (houston, actually)

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In a tight spot.......and unsure what to do!

by Redneckgurl in

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i have not posted in several months..........way too much emotionally for me to deal with everything, since my family is all "in the truth" and i am the black sheep

well here is my dilemma.........we are going to celebrate halloween with the kids on friday

there are several in the congregation who still call me to do their hair.........i don't want to do it anymore, but don't know how to tell them as many of them are elderly and i love them dearly.......i don't want to hurt them, ya know?

Redneckgurl

Hi everyone! I have not posted in several months..........way too much emotionally for me to deal with everything, since my family is all "in the truth" and I am the black sheep who stopped attending meetings along with my husband and children since last November! (wow, almost a year!) My father is an elder (with habits to hide) and my mother is depressed and miserable (says she is so happy, whatever) and my little brother is so much like I used to be........in denial...........

Well here is my dilemma.........we are going to celebrate Halloween with the kids on Friday.......we have little jack-o-lanterns in the house, my mother saw them, she freaked, accused me of slapping Jehovah in the face and celebrating Satan's holiday and I heard the usual words that my parents have always said to me "YOU KNOW THAT IS WRONG, YOU KNOW IT" and I politely asked her to not speak to me that way and that I would not discuss it with her. She left all PO'd

There are several in the congregation who still call me to do their hair.........I don't want to do it anymore, but don't know how to tell them as many of them are elderly and I love them dearly.......I don't want to hurt them, ya know?

I feel like I should Disassociate myself for this reason.........to let everyone know and to stop wondering, after all, I am not bitter towards them, and I respect their feelings and don't want to feel like I am leading them on in any way. I really don't want anyone popping in and saying "what is that Xmas tree there for?" I don't want to explain anything, as I feel it does no good anyway. Most of us have been there, you know what I mean.

I am just ready to make the break.........very ready, and I don't want to hear "we miss you" or "when are you coming back to the meetings" or "I know someone else who took a break and they regret it"......I AM NOT JUST TAKING A BREAKlike I am on vacation or something!

Will DAing my self end all of these questions? Will it make it easier for me? After all, I don't want to be disfellowshipped, like it is out of my hands and someone else made the decision for me. Can't I be disfellowshipped for putting Xmas lights in my yard, or for someone seeing me dressed up on Halloween and trick-or-treating with my children? I want to do what I want to do without feeling like I have to hide so I don't get into trouble.............seems I run into Witnesses all the time.

Suggestions for those who can understand? Thank you so much!

K in Texas

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Comment to JW's on latest KH Meeting (Please add your comments!!)

by bk62 in

i again went to the sunday meeting with my wife, in order to "keep abreast" and look for any flaws to exploit.

lo and behold, this was a "special" meeting b/c the "circuit overseer???

" was there to put his spin on things.

Redneckgurl

BK62,

In answer to your question as to the name of God, if it is interchangeable, I am a bit puzzled, but I think you mean, it is okay for JW's to say just "God" instead of "Jehovah"? Well, yes, that is done all the time, but we are also told that "God" is just a title, and we distinguish our God from the god of all other religions (which we are taught is basically Satan the Devil) by using the name Jehovah. There is no set amount of times to use it, in fact, whenever I have spoken with someone who is not a JW and I was trying to preach to them, I hardly used the name Jehovah because I didn't want to confuse them or scare them off. (silly me!) lol

Hope that helped! Oh, and as far as seats, yeah, some people can be really rude! Usually the attendants are too intimidated to say anything since the ones doing the seat hogging can be "stumbled" by being told what to do. (that's my opinion from observation)

Redneckgurl