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Blood Transfusions & the Law

by Mystery in

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blood transfusions and the law

my sister just called me.

i knew someone had to be sick or hurt.

I talked with my sister this morning and she said that my nephew is doing well. They have not mentioned the blood issue again. I would like to hope that if it was taking a turn for the worse that she would tell me. Sometimes I am not so sure that she would.

I have a old school friend that works at the hospital that I have occassionally kept in contact with. I will call them tomorrow evening and ask her to check on him to make sure that the issue has not/is not coming up again.

I did contact Child Protection. I went ahead and filed a reference to the situation. They told me to call back if his condition worsened and the blood issue resurfaced. If in fact it does, they will talk with his doctors, if it is indeed life-threatening they will get a court order for temporary guardianship over him and allow the surgery/transfusion to take place regardless of my sister.

If this does come about my DFment will come soon thereafter. I know they will know that it was me that called. If it even gives the hope of saving my nephew's life (if he has a turn for the worse) it will be a burden that I will gladly carry. It is a lot better than sitting here just saying how wrong and sick that they are.

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I had not thought of Child Protection - it seems like the best interference that can be run in a situation such as this.

Thank you again.

deborah

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A question for all women that were raised in the "truth"

by codeblue in

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do you feel like you have low self esteem because of being raised as a jw?.

codeblue

Mystery

Yes - the congeration and my parents. Like Petty said nothing was ever good enough.

I have boys but from the very beginning I was absolutely determined that no one would walk all over them. Sometimes I think I may have done the job to well!

They are very stubborn and opinionated. They don?t? back down from anyone, sometimes unfortunately including teachers.

But the problem is ?they take after their momma? Now that I have learned that I am "good enough".

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My first post

by Agnes in

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this is my first post and i just wanted to say hi.

i have been a long time lurker (confession time) and decided to finally take the big step.. not much to say for now, but i would like to say thanks for all of your sharing.

i've learned so much.. please read my profile for more information.. .

Mystery

Welcome Agnes.

Even if you don't post much; the wealth of information here is unmeasurable.

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Blood Transfusions & the Law

by Mystery in

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blood transfusions and the law

my sister just called me.

i knew someone had to be sick or hurt.

Mystery

I will call child protection tomorrow. So far he is doing OK and they haven't mentioned the blood issue again. But I will call and see what would happen in a "what if" situation.

I know in Alabama when my son turned 15 he was the one that had to sign his information and forms at the hospital. He is of legal age at 15. I don't know what the law is in their state.

Thank you for your advice. Hopefully he will just be OK and the issue will not come up again.

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Blood Transfusions & the Law

by Mystery in

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friends

blood transfusions and the law

my sister just called me.

i knew someone had to be sick or hurt.

Mystery

Thank you Blondie & Little Witch.

I just talked to my niece - she said right now he is doing Ok.

Hopefully the blood issue won't be a problem.

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Blood Transfusions & the Law

by Mystery in

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friends

blood transfusions and the law

my sister just called me.

i knew someone had to be sick or hurt.

Mystery

Blood Transfusions and the Law

My sister just called me. I knew someone had to be sick or hurt. She has not talked to me since she visited me in Nov. No reply to my emails. No return of phone calls. Nothing. She (and her MS husband, pioneer daughter and thank God not baptized YET son & my mom) came to my home, made her decision that I am ?one of those people the WT warns them about?. My mom has replied to a couple of my emails ? but, only the ones that had ?sickness or broken ankle? in them and then she only commented on those two things no comments about ?life?.

But back to the subject. My nephew had a 4-wheeler wreck yesterday. He has fractured his pelvic bone in 3 places. The doc ?mentioned? that he may have to have blood. My sister ? MRS. HOLIER THAN THO JW? went into the typical JW spill. Absolutely not! Etc?. No circumstances?.. routine.

If it comes down to becoming life threatening in him need of blood, is there anything I can do to obtain guardianship (temporary or otherwise) over him? Is their any legal recourse I have to get him necessary treatment if the situation becomes life threatening?

We don?t live in the same state. I would be going against my sister & her husband, my mother, my sister-in-law and ?brothers? and ?sisters? galore in their area. I have been gone over 20 years. My nephew is 15. The only person that I have there that would stand beside me (I think) is my brother-in-laws mother. She is a nurse. As my nephew?s grandmother I believe she would at least give me a place to sleep if I feel that I can do anything if his situation worsens .

Is there anything legally I can do to take over guardinship if his situation becomes life-threatening?

deborah

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Diary of an Armageddon Survivor

by GinnyTosken in

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i was sorting through my files today and found this piece from 1996 and thought i'd share.. ginny.

diary of an armageddon survivor.

ed thorn, our presiding overseer, told us that those who were missing should have spent more time in field service.. day 2. brother thorn called a special meeting this morning.

Mystery

Waiting - that was a great read and worth every minute of it.

I wonder if I sent it to my JW family that they would know it was from me?

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Search for meaning to life?

by Amazing in

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something recently occurred to me that many people, whether former jws or others who faced hardships in life, often look for meaning to life ... specifically a special meaning to their own lives ... i have done that at times, before i became a jw, while a jw, and more so since i left the religion.. i was having a conversation recently with my oldest son who is now 29 years old.

we discussed the meaning to life and how he sees himself now - in his ex-jw years - given that he was raised a jw.

he made the following comment i thought some here may find insightful.

Mystery

Impressive reply from your son.

Also something some of us may need to reflect on.

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Wedding....

by Out At 22 in

i have been df'd for a little over a yr now.

i am living with my bf of over 2+ yrs now and we aren't engaged yet, but we've talked about it and know it's going to happen just not exactly when.

but anyways, right after my df'ing i asked my mom if they would at least attend my wedding someday.

Mystery

My parents did not come to my first or my second marriage.

But I was very lucky my second marriage; 1st I found the man of my dreams and my best friend 2nd my 3 and 4 year old son's walked me down the aisle and "gave me away".

My sister did come to my 2nd wedding and even agreed to be in the wedding. It was held outside with a Methodist preacher presiding.

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MPD Multiple Personality Disorder Question

by Celtic in

ajn just brought back some memories with her/his?

post on depression in the congregation.. did anyone else here ever experience either as a witness or since leaving, mpd?.

for many many years from around 17-25 specifically i used to go through an extraordinary rapidity of mood swings.

Mystery

I don't know anything about MPD; but I agree with Michael regarding it sounding like bi-polar.

My 15 yr. old son is bi-polar and he had/has a lot of the symptoms that you have described. Attempts of suicide, doing anything to not have to think because he was depressed. (He was not raised a JW.) At 13 he was completely uncontrollable. He, like you, had a negative scale that would quickly turned into rage. Rage to the point of me being afraid for my husband and his brother. He began using pain killers to ?feel good? and when those stopped ?helping? he overdosed.

I looked for help for over a year. Doctors telling me that he needed to be in a mental institution. Police officers telling me to put him in boot camp or the detention center.

He is diagnosed with Stage 4 Bi-Polar and ADHD. We finally found a mental hospital that wanted to help instead of lock him up. He is on med?s now (3 types). 95% of the time he is just a typical 15 year old confused about how to grow up. 5% of the time he shows his ?demon? side. He isn?t a demon and neither are you.

He has a mental imbalance that has nothing to do his attitude or him not wanting to be happy.

I am assuming that you have found help and are no longer going to the meetings.

It really scares me to think of what I would have done with my son if I had of still been a ?good little dub?.

Even though I was not to the extreme mentally that my son is, growing up a dub I was depressed and several time thought about (and attempted) suicide. Going to his therapy has helped me work out some of my issues.