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  The Funeral Part 3

  by WLG in

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  the funeral part 3. the funeral was over.

  it was time to ride out to bury my brother.

  my friend and i decided to ride together, and break off from the group because we were hungry, thirsty, and mentally screwy.

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  unique1

  You definitely have a way with words. Deepest Sympathies!!
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  Hurray for people that are individuals!!!

  by purplesofa in

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  i'm sick of groups.

  i admire the people that come here and stand up to be an individual.. there are so few that do not.

  what percentage of people do you think stand up and be the unique, precious, individual that they truely are?.

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  You know, I have been dealing with this subject a lot lately. I have always considered myself an individual. However I realized, I didn't know how to act like one. I have always acted in the way expected of me. I was a good JW in front of my parents. I was a double lifer to my friends. I put on a business persona when at work because it is what is expected. I found when I left the JW's I didn't know how to act anymore because I no longer had anyone expecting me to act a certain way.

  I think leaving a group forces individuality in a way because it forces you to figure out who YOU are. Kudos.
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  Ever have the shame of knockin on your schoolmates doors as a kid?

  by xnmad in

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  ever wanted the floor to just swallow you up?then spent the rest of the wkend shittin it coz of whats gonna happen when you walk through the school doors on monday morning.think its affecting my parenting skills as an adult though coz am so aware of how my children feel about things, and the importance of never making them feel awkward or embarrassed.makes me wonder how much my parents thought of my feelings?i think they thought any bullying was a necessary form of torture, and would help me feel as christ did,i was probably sposed to enjoy it.

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  Once and thankfully he was nice about it. I was mortified.
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  left 16yrs ago n still have issues and confidence probs,

  by xnmad in

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  2. experiences

  ileft "the truth" 16yrs ago and still cant move on in some areas of my life, i have no family now as they stopped talking to me and have never relented.this has left me with serious problems with needing aproval from people in my life.i have never stopped trying to win my fathers aproval and no i,l never have it unless i go back(which would never happen)jus wondered if any1 else has similar hangups, n if you do, how do i deal with it n move on.

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  unique1

  I saw a psychologist. I recommend you do the same. It has really helped me. Psychologists can not prescribe drugs so, the truly work you through the problem, instead of just throwing pills at it.
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  Ahhhh yes ... those wonderful "quick-builds"

  by Frequent_Fader_Miles in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just reminiscing a little on all the "quick-build" assignments i supported in the past.

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  what was your "quick-build" experience?.

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  My dad was an uber carpenter so I went to almost all hall builds in the area. My first memory was of one in Gso when I couldn't have been over 5. I remember they had the watchtower study that Sun morning with work still going on outside. I was scared because I was in there by myself with no one I knew because both my parents were outside working.

  I started out a little older as the cookie/lemonade/water girl who would walk around with a tray and a jug and some cups for the continued refreshment of the workers.

  I then progressed to cleaning up the job site, followed by brick lines and helping with the stone work.

  Then I helped nearly every weekend between the years of 15 and 17 building the local assembly hall. I served as weekend secretary to the overseer in the winter months and was switched to the curb and gutter crew in the summer.

  What a waste. Met a couple nice brothers for dating that turned out to be losers. That was about it.
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  staying "in Truth" for family--is it worth it?...hyporcrite needing help

  by oompa in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i have just been outed on this site due to my own stupidity, and lost my anonymity after just a short pleasant while here.

  i have been turned in folks, compete with screen name/avatar, by family and i have a ton in.

  it is easy to tell it is me, although i never use anyones names.

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  You say you are on 5 meds. Are you possibly Bi Polar. Don't answer that if you are, but if you are, tell them you went off a few of your meds and went through a manic phase which led you to post on here. You eventually realized you were going out of control and started them back again and are trying to be a good little witness. I know many witnesses that were BiPolar and who would go through their manic phases. They don't think straight or rationally. You could always use that as a crutch to get you through this.

  Or you could just say F it all.
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  Past few days have been very emotional for me ,when will it get better ?

  by troubled mind in

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  since my mom passed in january my dad has wanted me to go through her things and clear out her bedroom.

  i procrastinated long enough so the past two days i have been sorting through it all .

  i feel like i have been punched in the gut .

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  Cleaning out things is the toughest part. It is worse than the viewing and funeral wrapped up together. It will take a few weeks after you have finished for everything to get back to some normalcy. I feel for you. Hang in there and just get it done as quick as possible so you can heal.
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  Big Love- Quiz for the women

  by misanthropic in

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  take the quiz and see which of the women you're most like.

  http://www.hbo.com/biglove/games/.

  i'm a margene

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  I am a Barb, I knew I would be. I identify most with her.
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  When will the knee jerk reactions stop?

  by Bobbi in

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  i answered my door yesterday and there was one of my neighbors.

  he has a couple of boxes with him and says hi, just call me santa".

  he had gotten some extra stuff from him work and thought we could use it ( cereal and granola bars) .

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  Don't feel bad. It has taken me 4 years to say "bless you" after someone sneezes automatically and it still feels a bit weird. It gets easier with time.
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  Jehovah's Witnesses Who "Get" It

  by minimus in

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  i think there are many that understand that alot of things are bullsh*t. i think they know that the "truth" is not everything it's cracked up to be.

  they recognize that many directions should simply be ignored.

  just don't talk about it.

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  Worked that way for me. Unfortunately I know a lot like me still in due to family pressures.