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  If only I had known !!!

  by gambit in

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  i was going to post my personal story, but right now it feels good just to know that i'm truly not alone.... what an incredible bulletin board... using the search feature i just finished a week of reading up on alcholism, codependency, abuse, personal testimonies (and very empathetic replies), bpd, dysfunctional family systems, oh, jw's and their male-dominate, bride-selling, hypocritical policies brain-washing techniques.. 2 1/2 years ago, at the age of 39... a lady friend at work suggested i read up on codependency... i had no idea what she was talking about, and remember thinking "i don't have problems, look at you... your a mess".

  anyway, i knew i didn't feel ok and decided to read a book.

  i had just finished college and had some free time to fill.... denial is absolutely wonderful... kept me safe for quite a few years.

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  unique1

  Welcome to the Board!!!

  Good luck with all that you are going through. Hope all goes well for you from here on out.
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  So, will you be voting for Bush next time?

  by czarofmischief in

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  when the election rolls around, will you be pulling the lever for w?

  i will, unless somebody comes along with the offer of free supermodels for me.. czar

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  I will be voting for the first time and I will vote for ANYBODY BUT BUSH.
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  Alcohol and the Witness

  by Maverick in

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  when i first was studying with the duds, one of the things i found interesting is that duds are ok with drinking alcohol, "in moderation".

  i never was a big drinker, usually one drink if i'm out and will have to drive and no more than three in any 24 hour period, even if i'm staying home.. i wonder if the fact the "the judge" was a rumpot contributed to the soft attitude on alcohol?

  most of the brothers i knew were big drinkers and many of the older elders drank more with dinner that i drink in a weekend.

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  I live in the bible belt and it isn't that bad where I am from. People do try to be cautious around new people so as not to offend, but everyone I know drinks. In Walmart the other week I saw a brother I don't know very well put a 6-pack in his buggy see me and then cover it up with his other stuff. I just laughed.

  I drink 3-4 days a week and usually heavily on Friday and Sat. Not to the point of throwing up or anything, just a nice buzz.

  Favorite Beer: Michelob Light

  Favorite Mixed Drink: Bong Water or Blue Motorcycle.
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  A Tribute To My Cat Simone'

  by jayhawk1 in

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  yesterday, i experienced a tragedy in my family.

  my cat of 7.5 years simone' died.

  two days ago i left for work and she seemed fine.

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  Awwwww, I am sorry. Poor Kitty.

  Heres a toast to Simone and all the joy she brought to her owners during her lifetime. She will be missed.
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  How many of you went to the elders when you / someone did something wrong ?

  by run dont walk in

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  2. beliefs

  i've read a lot of threads of late, where people stated when they did something wrong they would go the elders the next day and confess.. i find this truly bizzare !!!.

  okay, maybe i didn't have a conscience as a jw, i did alot of things wrong, but, that would be the f--kin' day i would go to the elders and confess anything.

  i would never tell those old goots anything, because then they would have something to hang over you for a long time.

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  I did plenty of things wrong, but I never ONCE even considered going to the elders.
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  how are you still affected?

  by SpiceItUp in

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  sure there are some of us who have been "out" for years and others that are only out by their mindset but due to many reasons still have to save face.. in what ways do you still feel the hold of the wt in you?

  do you still pick out your music/movies carefully?

  does nudity and/or language still offend you to a deafening degree?

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  In what ways do you still feel the hold of the WT in you? Do you still pick out your music/movies carefully? Does nudity and/or language still offend you to a deafening degree? Do you still "judge" other by appearance? Are you still turned off my "magical" stuff (ie Harry Potter)?

  1. I still have to attend meetings occassionally just to appease my parents and so they can still speak to me.

  2. Nope, watch porn and cuss like a sailor.

  3. Nope, never have really. I have always thought punk rockers looked cool and bikers were the nicest people on earth.

  4. Not really, but I still can't deal with horror flicks, the demons terrify me still.

  As for other things, I feel weird when a Non-dub prays. I feel guilty for celebrating my or others birthday but I am getting over that. I have to stop myself for spewing out common "overcoming conversation stoppers" type speach. I hear somebody talk about the trinity and it is all I can do to keep myself from telling them why that is such a stupid belief. But, again slowly but surely I am getting over that.
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  To 'No One'

  by Guest 77 in

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  i read your reply to 'not fitting' and i'm sorry to hear that only one person welcomed you to the board.

  you have to forgive some of us because the board moves quickly and trying to read as many posts as possible and make replies is a chore within itself.

  anyways, welcome and i think i speak for others.

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  Glad to have you as part of the board.
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  I Just Don't "Fit" Anywhere!

  by pettygrudger in

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  i'm sitting at work today, listening to all the different "cliques" around me, typing here on these boards a bit (don't tell), and it occurred to me again that i just don't fit.. .

  it seems like i don't "fit" anywhere.

  i'm always on the outskirts of alot of "groups", always on the fringe, but never inside.

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  Neither do I really. I think my individuality comes partly from being raised a witness. Witness children are always on the outside of groups, even if you have friends, they see you as different because you didn't celebrate anything, you couldn't attend school dances, etc. I got used to being the "oddball" and now I take pride in it.

  It isn't just anyone that can be as unique as us!!!
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  Some People Stay Witnesses Because They Don't Want To Think For Themselves

  by minimus in

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  i've come to that conclusion.

  some would rather not have to think about a position, a prophecy, a requirement or a belief.

  they really would rather follow the dictates of leaders of an organization.

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  Minimus: you hit the nail on the head.
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  Were you baptized too young?

  by sandy in

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  2 peter 2.

  22there has befallen them the thing spoken of in the true proverb, the dog turns back to his own vomit, and, the sow is washed only to wallow again in the mire..

  i remember when i was going over my baptismal questions the elder spouted off this scripture to me.. looking back at it i wonder how could he be such a moron!

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  I was 13 for a whole day before I got dunked. I will never forget the date because it was one day after my birthday.