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  Here We GO - Can't Fade No More

  by unique1 in

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  2. bible

  ok, a little update on my story.

  i told him yes.

  i told him, i just couldn't do it.

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  JWfacts. I had just turned 13 when I was baptized. I have only auxillary pioneered since then and only when living in my parents house. I never went to Bethel or anything else. So I think it should work. Thanks for the info. I will put it to good use.
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  Here We GO - Can't Fade No More

  by unique1 in

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  2. bible

  ok, a little update on my story.

  i told him yes.

  i told him, i just couldn't do it.

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  Damn, Garybuss, I thought my parents were harsh. That is just crazy. Sorry man.

  Love the swimming kitty icon Fairmind. The letter should work for it threatens legal action against the local congregation if it doesn't. I will give it a month or so and let you know. The elders around here are kind of slow.

  Thanks everyone for the support. I will keep you all updated.
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  What is your rating?

  by billyboy in

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  2. friends

  as a bit of a newbie , i'm interested as to the overall viewpoint of site users and spectrum of views.. using a crude gauge , where 1 = completely convinced "stepford"jw ("jhs organisation is wonderful etc") and 10 is a completely rabid "tear down the tower" apostate/ex-witness pathalogically hating the whole jw structure , where do you fit in?

  (apolgies to both groups - no offense intended).. i'm about 2.5 - somewhat disillusioned , keen for reforms in certain areas but broadly accepts the teachings and loves the lifestyle.

  would never leave.

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  About a 5. I believe to each his own. Do what makes you happy religion wise.
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  MY LITTLE GIRLS HEART PROBLEM

  by chuckyy in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i am very angry at this time.. i took my 7 yr old little girl to the hospital yesterday....she has had heart problems since birth.

  i explained that we were no longer jw,s and would accept blood if necessary during open heart surgery.

  the doctor told me that if that was the case, the operation must proceed without delay.

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  GOOD LORD!! Poor little thing. I hope all goes well. You realized the idiotic policy before most do and before more damage was done. Best Wishes.
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  My Dad died this evening

  by Mulan in

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  2. friends

  i thought i would let you know that my dad, passed away a little while ago, tonight, january 23. they called me at 6pm to tell me.

  he had been failing rapidly for the past month, and had completely lost his hearing and was totally blind.

  the dementia was extreme too, and he still knew me on thursday, but didn't wake up to know me in the following days.

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  So sorry to hear that. (((Hugs)))
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  Here We GO - Can't Fade No More

  by unique1 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  ok, a little update on my story.

  i told him yes.

  i told him, i just couldn't do it.

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  OK, A little update on my story. My husband have been sucessfully faded for 5 years. This past Saturday my mom and dad saw my husband with a disfellowshipped friend of ours. The only reason they didn't see me, was because I was a chicken and went and hid from my parents until they left. For the record I am 28 and yes I realize it was RIDICULOUS!! Anyways, my dad tried a suprize sheparding call on us, but we didn't feel like answering the door so we didn't. I spoke to him on the phone last night. He told me he wanted to come by and talk to us. I told him I didn't feel it was necessary. My hubby and I didn't need a lecture or to be preached to. He wasn't going to tell me anything I didn't know already. He asked if we still hang around our disfellowshipped friend. I told him yes. He started into the whole speil about how we aren't to associate with those disfellowshipped. I asked him if he thought someone should be able to change their mind about their religion. He said yes and kept on that we shouldn't associate with them. I told him, I just couldn't do it. I couldn't pretend to not know someone because they make a mistake, I love them too much. Dad said my love wasn't greater than Jehovahs and that Jehovah had people put to death in olden times if they went against his law, at least JW's give you a chance to come back and don't write you off altogether. He said it was loving discipline to not speak to someone. That they usually come back. I told him most of the ones I knew didnt' come back and the ones who did, did it for their family not Jehovah. I told dad, he had to do what his conscience led him to do. If that was turn us into the elders, so be it. I had to do what my conscience let me do and shunning wasnt' one of them. So he reitterated that he and my mom would not speak to me until I changed my attitude. I told him, I loved him unconditionally and wished he felt the same way. That was that. My mom sent me an email this morning stating

  "We wanted to respond to the last comment you made on the phone: “I wish you could have unconditional love for me.” We looked up unconditional love and only found it mentioned three times in the Watchtower publications. This is a statement from the Awake: “AMONG the greatest gifts parents can give to their children are unconditional love and a set of values that the parents live by and do not just lecture about. Without proper values, life is little more than a crude struggle for survival. Values give meaning to life. They establish priorities. They set moral boundaries and define rules of behavior.”

  We do love you unconditionally so does Jehovah, but as stated above, unconditional love is not without priorities, rules, boundaries and values."

  I plan on sending her the Websters dictionary definition of unconditional love. How screwed up do you have to be to look up a definition in the Awake instead of Websters?

  Now I am preparing to send a Baptism Nullification letter so I won't be disfellowshipped or disassociated. I will let you all know how it goes. Thanks for all of your support over the past 4 years.
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  Many Questions

  by urstruly in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi i'm new to this forum.

  i've looked at other websites to and i see all this about the jw's, now i'm not one, i was raised a jw but made my own decision and my parents respected that.

  i've read so many horror stories, but my life wasn't like that at all, as a matter of fact, when they first knocked on our door and my mother accepted a study our life changed for ever, it was for the best in many ways.

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  Well, I am not DF'd at this time. I did not choose to join the witnesses. I was born into it and baptized at 13 so I wouldn't disappoint my parents. Now, later in life, I don't agree with some of their teachings, but I can't tell them that or I will be disfellowshipped and my only relatives won't talk to me anymore. I will not leave my best friend who is disfellowshipped, and if I am caught hanging out with her I too will be disfellowshipped. Disassociation and Disfellowshipping have the same announcement nowadays "So and So is no longer a member of JW". Let the shunning begin. So we hide because we love our family and don't want to lose them. We look to fade so we can keep everyone happy. I don't hate the JW's I just wish they would live and let live.
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  Defamation of Character Lawsuits examples?

  by unique1 in

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  2. friends

  ok. i think it is just about time to have to write a letter to my presiding overseer.

  in the letter i plan to state that i was under duress to get baptized at the age of 13. that this letter is confidential and protected under preacher/paritioner confidentiality and no one should be told about it.

  that i be removed as a publisher and that my baptisim as one of jw's be nullified.

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  Not Lexpro. Sorry. I mean Lexis or West Law. Sorry it has been 11 years since I had my paralegal degree and 9 since I have worked for a lawyer. Any ex JW lawyers out there that would be willing to read my letter to the Congregation and make suggestions? If the letter works I will post it everywhere for all JW's baptized before 18 to use so they are not shunned.
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  Contorted Irony

  by Farkel in

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  it pains me to see all these topics trying to figure out whether a god exists or not.. it is not possible to figure it out.

  it's like taking chicken soup when one is sick: hey!

  it won't hurt you!.

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  I am with you Farkel. Unless god decides to burn a bush outside my house and have it speak to me, I probably will never know for sure. Sometimes I think that Humans can't deal with the thought of non-existence so it is possible they made God up to explain an afterlife. I come to the conclusion however that I have to believe in something. I choose to believe in a God. I just wish he would get as fed up with stuff down here as i do.
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  Defamation of Character Lawsuits examples?

  by unique1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok. i think it is just about time to have to write a letter to my presiding overseer.

  in the letter i plan to state that i was under duress to get baptized at the age of 13. that this letter is confidential and protected under preacher/paritioner confidentiality and no one should be told about it.

  that i be removed as a publisher and that my baptisim as one of jw's be nullified.

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  Any paralegals out there that can look it up in Lex Pro or similar computer program? ANYONE?