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  Jws writing 2 relatives of the Breaved

  by badboy in

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  i understand that some jws write 2 the relatives of those in the newspaper obituaries,trying 2 convert them.. 1 ex-jw says she did that.. know any instances.

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  Writing letters is bad enough (and the society encourages it!), but I swear I remember an article (late 80's? early 90's?) saying what a "wonderful opportunity" it was, basically, to hang out in graveyards (as dad would say, "I shit you not"). The graveyard thing might have been for a specific holiday like memorial day or Dia de los Muertos, where lots of people visit graves, but I think I remember it pointing out that in general people were in a mood to talk when visiting their relative's graves. I guess that answers the question, how low can they go?? I've always thought the only reason Prince became a JW was because somebody took unfair advantage of him when his baby died.
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  Public debate on how the forum is run

  by Simon in

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  just a reminder / clarification.. i'm not interested in public debate or questioning about hwo the forum is run, especially individual decisions we make.. if you have any questions about anything or want to challenge any decision then do it via email or pm.

  any posts like this made on the main board will be deleted and, if continued, will result in suspension of the account used (as happened with minimus who's account has now been reactivated).

  i'm sure you will appreciate the reason for this.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  All I can say is, "Damn, whatever it was, it musta been good and I missed it! (as usual)"
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  Surprises in the family tree

  by Maverick in

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  2. family

  i was always lead to believe my family came to america from canada in 1926. both my mothers and my fathers families are of french decent.

  it turns out only my mothers side came from there.

  my father, who i only know casually, (parents were divorced when i was three and mom remarried when i was five), sent me a history of his side of the family.. turns out his side has been here since at least 1775, (new england)!

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  All of this came as a bit of a shock to me. I had no idea of any of this. It is kind of sad in a way to suddenly find out things like this about your families past!

  I know just what you mean. My family never talked much about our 'ancestors'...great-great grandma was about as far back as the stories went, and they never gave any indication that we'd been anything but dirt-poor farmers who came over with the faceless mass of immigrants sometime in the 19th century...no "family history" like some people had.

  Imagine my surprise to get ahold of documents from people who were doing geneologies on both my paternal and maternal families, to find out that on one side, "Capt. James Farley" came to the U.S. with his wife and son in 1625 (1625?!? You've gotta be kidding me!), and on the other, an ancestor named "Barefoot Benson" had been a scout and minor hero (good for a mention in some history text) of the Revolutionary War. Coulda knocked me over with a feather. Kind of sad, though, that we had all this history that we didn't know anything about. Part of me still doesn't believe it. (The other, naughtier part of me enjoys referring to my husband, whose great-great-grandparents came to the U.S. from Germany and Switzerland, as a wetback )
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  "Heels are for whores, never for doors"

  by Winston Smith :>D in

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  some may have seen this 'guide' for the more aggressive jw.

  but it's worth a repost for the newbies .

  http://www.eel.nu/witnessthis/witnessthis.html.

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  Cute

  Hey, I think that first pic of a watchtower might be from the Grand Canyon! Sure looks like it, although the picture quality isn't good enough to tell for sure.
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  JW literature table on campus

  by asleif_dufansdottir in

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  2. friends

  as i've mentioned before - most weekday mornings the jws have a table set up by the fountain on campus at asu.

  i never see anybody talking to them.

  mostly they have just been sitting there with all the literature on display, talking to each other.. however, the last few days i've noticed something strange.

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  Someone should set up a booth across from them with freeminds printouts

  You know...if I had anywhere near the time or energy that sounds like Lots of fun...oh and a looping tape of the Dateline episode...
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  Young People Ask... ANSWERS THAT SUCK.

  by shamus in

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  remember that stupid book that they had, "young people ask, answers that work are weird?

  minimus just mentioned it in a thread.... they have that young people ask section in the awake!

  magazines.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  girls may have a problem with masterbation?!!

  I never had a problem with it...always worked just fine for me
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  Another survey from Lee

  by Lady Lee in

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  reading simon's post about how things used to be i started thinking about how the internet has changed things.

  many believe the internet and the freedom of information it contains will be the undoing of the wts.. when i was a jw, there were a few dfings but maybe one a year or even less.

  people drifted away but we really didn't pay a lot of attention unless it was a close friend.. in here we see new people coming in all the time.

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• What year did you leave?

1992 was when we stopped going regularly...took a couple of years to consider ourselves "out forever"

• How old were you when you left?

29 & 30

• Did the internet have anything to do with your decision to leave?

no

• If you left before you got on the internet what reading did you do about the WTS or cults that helped you make your decision?

none. The crap that was allowed to go on in the congregation proved to us that the society wasn't what it claimed to be. I was so frustrated that things weren't taken care of the way they were supposed to be that I knew something was up. There is no substitute for personal experience!

• What was the one most important reason that helped you decide to leave (even if the decision was made for you through a DFing).

When we quit going to meetings, we were relieved! We'd seen and bitched about the flaws (which we thought were just weaknesses in our particular congregation), but it evolved from relief that we didn't have to go to a particular meeting, to resistance about going to any, to finally admitting to each other that it was a load of crap and certain people (power hungry small minded bullies) could just kiss our @$$.

• If you left and still thought it was "the truth" what helped you change your mind?

Once I got my mind completely back, started thinkin for myself, and wasn't afraid to question or consider the possibility that they weren't who they claimed to be, I just reasoned it out for myself.