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  ?I NEVER , ever, thought I would say this....

  by azaria in

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  mb: .

  for the past week or so my mind has been going a mile a minute.

  ill be at work, in bed, wherever, things come into my head, and i have to write it down that very moment.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  You just knew the anthropology goob couldn't stay away from this

  But when it comes to genes, humans are so similar to the two species of chimpanzee that physiologist Jared Diamond has called us "the third chimpanzee." A quarter-century of genetic studies has consistently found that for any given region of the genome, humans and chimpanzees share at least 98.5% of their DNA.

  http://cas.bellarmine.edu/tietjen/RootWeb/which_of_our_genes_make_us_human.htm

  (the 2 chimp species mentioned are the common chimp, Pan troglodytes, and the bonobo, Pan paniscus)

  The sources I looked at had 98.5% as a minimum...some said "over 99%"

  It's also important to know that humans and the chimp species are more similar to each other genetically, than either are to the other apes - ie, chimps are more like us than they are like gorillas (the 5 great ape species [hominidae] are: common chimps, bonobos, gorillas, orangutans and humans; apes are one of the types of primates)

  ...and I better stop the Physical Anth lesson right here before you all whack me...
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  Where am I?

  by joelbear in

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  i'm 45 years old going to college for a degree in marketing so i can find a decent job.

  i made two a's last semester.

  i'm only taking 2 classes at a time because of my nerves.. every day is a battle with my nerves.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  On my bad days I think about returning to the Kingdom Hall. Maybe I am one of those who needs the sense of security found there.

  I guess I'm having a hard time figuring out...what sense of security??

  My close family are all witnesses. While I have a pseudo relationship with my brother and my parents (not based on reality since they have no interest in my career, my relationship with Mitch or anything that makes me me, I have no relationship with the rest of my close family.

  Can there be a sense of security in being with your family and a whole KH full of other people who have no interest in who you really are? Who would actively condemn everything you place importance on??

  I guess I just think that going back to the KH would add stress upon stress as you try to conform to something that's not really you, and try to have relationships with people who only like the facade you would present, and not like the real you.

  But then, I think the answer to everything is...go back to school, take a class

  And about the abandonment thing...lots of us have been let go from jobs. Both my husband and I have. In his case, one time was he not only let go because he got hurt, we had to get a lawyer because they didn't want to pay workman's comp. It can be traumatic to lose a job, but you can also often look back later and say, "I wouldn't be here if that hadn't happened, so it worked out OK." Of course, that doesn't lessen the stress when it happens.

  As far as being let go from Bethel...that's more like a merit badge, isn't it???

  Take care, keep plugging, keep your chin up and go out and enjoy doing what you want!
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  My first "Wordly" Funeral...

  by confuzcious in

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  hey guys, .

  i just attended my first "worldly" funeral since i've been out of "the truth" tm.. anyways, i thought it was nicely done.

  it gave honor to the deceased, it drew me closer to jesus and it evoked emotions within me.. i'm just contrasting this to the jw funerals which always seems like way to peddle products rather than honor the dead.. no thoughts in particular for me, but anyone have any similar thoughts???.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  I will never forget my husband's grandma's funeral (a dear and wonderful lady). None of either of our families were JW (of course we caught hell for going...he was even a pallbearer...I've always been so glad he did that for his grandparents even as a JW).

  The preacher who gave the talk was her nephew (that church also has elders rather than clergy). It was hard for him to get thru (everybody adored grandma). He told the family, (3 of her 4 kids lived several states away) that he wanted them to know something about their grandma...he wanted to be sure they knew that all the letters and photos they sent were cherished (everybody visited several times a year, and sent letters with pictures often). He said nobody ever went to grandma's house, for even a few minutes, without being shown all the latest pictures of "the kidzs" and hearing what everybody was up to. He said he wanted everybody to understand how much grandma loved us all. We all broke down.

  Talking about the deceased can be kind of a mixed blessing. It was hard but it was good.
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  The New Gender Gap

  by DanTheMan in

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  http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/03_21/b3834001_mz001.htm

  save the males!!!

  lol

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  My question is, has the public school environment become such that boys are increasingly marginalized?

  hmm...maybe, but I'd like to see research into causality. What if it's increase in watching TV and playing video games that is feeding into male problems with AD/HD or short attention span? What if it's a problem partially caused by general lack of respect for authority (reinforced by parents who take their kids side against teachers)? THere are many things it could be, that are not necessarily the fault of the school.

  There's a lot we don't know about how kids really learn. Don't forget, it's been only in the last 50 years or so that everybody in the US attends school (theoretically) into high school. My mom was the first in her family to even go to HS. More of the population is going to school longer (not just the high achievers), including those who would have dropped out much earlier due to lack of interest or aptitude. Now they're 'forced' to stay in.

  It's an incredibly complex situation.
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  The New Gender Gap

  by DanTheMan in

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  http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/03_21/b3834001_mz001.htm

  save the males!!!

  lol

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  feminazi

  I tried to use it jokingly, but I recognize that it's a pretty loaded label - I won't use it again. Sorry if I offended!

  Thank you. It's appreciated that you are willing to say so.

  It's a terrible shame that boys are not living up to their full potential, and that some things about the system makes it hard for them, but girls should not be blamed if they do well and the boys don't. Think of it this way, women have had to fight against the system for generations (think about what it was like for women in med schools even up til the late 70's), and they have been successful and are doing well.

  Liz alpha-female middle-aged feminist

  "I have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is; I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute." - Rebecca West, 1913

  Because woman’s work is never done and is underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious and we’re the first to get fired and what we look like is more important than what we do and if we get raped it’s our fault and if we get beaten we must have provoked it and if we raise our voices we’re nagging bitches and if we enjoy sex we’re nymphos and if we don’t we’re frigid and if we love women it’s because we can’t get a “real” man and if we ask our doctor too many questions we’re neurotic and/or pushy and if we expect childcare we’re selfish and if we stand up for our rights we’re aggressive and “unfeminine” and if we don’t we’re typical weak females and if we want to get married we’re out to trap a man and if we don’t we’re unnatural and because we still can’t get an adequate safe contraceptive but men can walk on the moon we can sure produce viagra for men who can't get it up (ed.) and if we can’t cope or we don’t want a pregnancy we’re made to feel guilty about abortion…and for lots and lots of other reasons I am part of the women’s liberation movement .
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  Tell me why I bother?????

  by asleif_dufansdottir in

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  (i used to be a truck driver.

  trust me.

  i have the vocabulary).

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  If you notice when a thought is logically and factually presented it is only the stubborn, hardcore JW's who will persist in justifying the Society at all costs.

  Yeah, I know. That's why I said in my first post it's not usually so upsetting. But sometimes one of the hardcore ones will go too far and say something so indefensible that I just about blow my top.

  I used to not understand how some of the OT prophets could feel able to condemn someone as being beyond repair. Now I know.
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  Here is the article and photo of Bigred from Sunday paper

  by Mulan in

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  here is the photo that ran in the paper yesterday.

  dave is in front, and our eldest son, randy is behind him.

  this is the article, online: http://classifieds.nwsource.com/jobs/jobmarket/.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Don'tcha love to see men working!!!

  Yeah! I'd love to see them working in my bathroom (the damn drywall had better be up when I get home or I'm kicking my husband's butt...we're trying to get our place ready to sell to move)

  Too bad you guys live so far!! I'd hire you in a heartbeat!
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  The scariest ..

  by Brummie in

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  film i ever saw was fatal attraction *screams* .

  this post has been brought to you by the letter b and the number 7.. brummie

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  I READ the "Shining" and I think that was the only book that REALLY frightened me the way it did.

  You too??? I was reading it at grandma's, late at night. The only one sleeping on the roll-away bed downstairs. I got up to turn on the light and jumped from there to the bed, where I proceeded to cover my head with the blanket! Every noise that old house made scared me that night. Even when the old deep freeze kicked on I about had heart failure. And grandma had sheers but not blinds or curtains on the windows, and I was sure if I looked at them I'd see somebody or something looking in!!! I quit reading scary books after that!

  Sheila~ I used to watch Dark Shadows when I was a kid. It scared me, so I'd make grandma (who babysat me while my folks worked and spoiled me rotten) sit in her chair, then I'd stand behind it and watch...but I had to watch! Gosh I was probably all of 6. Mom used to get so mad at grand ma for letting me watch it! (My bedroom had the attic door in it, and my bed was right next to it - I was terrified something was going to open that door some night!)
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  If you could spend a whole day with anyone .......

  by azaria in

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  dead (resurrected ) or alive who would you choose?.

  mood barometer: a little melancholy, but basically .

  every once in a while i think of who i would like to meet.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  My grandma and grandpa. In their house like it was when I was a kid. In the summer, so we could go get corn and tomatos out of the garden. What a wonderful day that would be God I miss them, and they've been gone several years
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  WT video "Protect Your Children" wins Award! (gag)

  by badwillie in

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  http://jw-media.org/edu_videos/psa4e2856.htm

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Hah. They need to change that video...

  "You think he's your friend and would never harm your child"

  "You think he will protect you and do what's right because he was appointed by Jehovah's holy spirit"

  "You think Jehovah's people don't do such things"

  "You think it's Jehovah's organization"

  You're Wrong