to me forgiving is not forgetting.
forgiving allows me to go on with my life.
but forgetting is something different.
I agree with Big Tex
Always found it amazing the societies push "forgive and forget" - yet I found it amazing that if one apologized/repented to elders it was enough...even if they never corrected wrongdoing or apologized to the person they had hurt/wronged.
i'm so excited i could burst!
my sibling and i have been reunited, not only irl .
please give breal a much deserved hearty welcome y'all!
thanks again!
SPAZ - you is making me laugh...
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
oh and DJ - yeah I am lucky - but if you had siblings you would realize that it like all else has its moments. I have mostly found that the people I consider "family" are all adopted friends. Perhaps you have some like that in your own life.
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
Spaz - you is gonna make me all emotional...
Maverick - I certainly hope so! I'll keep reading as I have learned a lot from everyones posts.
Rayzorblade - yep once I found this and read some other peoples stuff I felt almost normal.
Cheers & thanks again for all the welcomes
i know that many of you gave me the advice to wait until i'm done with school, but what can i say, i'm stubborn .
please share your pre-pregnancy and pregnancy tips that either made things smoother or things you wish you has done to make things easier.
i also want opinions on such things as epidurals, circumcision, nutrition, breast-feeding, money saving tips, etc.
good site for those ttc (trying to conceive)
i never wanted to go to bethel but when i was a teenager, i wondered what i would need to do to become a circuit overseer.
I did not have the correct last name to be anything special in the congregation I grew up in...so there was no point.
i am a newbie and apparently very naive.
i in reading different threads, lurkers have been mentioned.
my initial thought was "lurking" meant people like me reading for awhile and eventually posting.
hmm.. i started my intro with "lurker no more" ... i did not realize so many felt that lurkers are jw's trying to cause problems.
To clarify I read but did not post (for some of the same reasons as radiolady).... I am an ex JW for almost 10yrs...and no I was not stalking anyone & certainly NOT trying to cause problems for anyone else that may post... it amazes & disgusts me that anyone could/would cause problems for someone just by reading this stuff
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
Jgnat - good call on the name
Gopher - They did not directly call me evil - they read me scripture and inferred it pretty heavily...sorry I should have clarified.
Thank you all for your kind words!
many comments are made that jw's are actually brainwashed.
do you think this is true?
I believe timing and circumstance have a lot to do with it...
It is misleading though as they claim it is voluntary....if so why can one not leave voluntarily?
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
I finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured I would introduce myself. As I mentioned in other thread I have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs. I was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good JW's. Starting having troubles while still in high school. Doubted some things (although I am by no means as well versed in the bible doctrines as some here) and simply started to feel never quite good enough. Attempted suicide at a young age and this was really the catalyst for me to see that something in my life was majorly wrong. So I went about trying to find happiness...
First I request help from my bookstudy conductor to find someone to study with me and attend meetings/service with as I knew according to the JW's I was "spiritually weak" - no response....fast forward about a year and I was requested to meet with the elders... this was all new to me as I had never had any run in's with anyone and so I went like a good little JW - as I posted in the other thread it did not go well - they read me a scripture about repenting...then asked for dirt on other youth in the hall... and when I refused to give them info about others or myself they read me a scripture about being evil and told me that none of my family or friends would be able to speak with me anymore.
I left home - stayed with friends until I got my own place - ended up married at after a while to a very abusive person (I was looking to belong) and got divorced within the year. Had my wild time, my sad and angry time...but I was fortunate as being so young I discovered that my "worldly" friends were my new family. Thanks to some very lovely, supportive and caring people today I am the happiest I have ever been - married to my partner of 6 or 7 years.
When I left I did not have access to internet and other than a few well intentioned people worried I needed deprogramming (which mostly meant converting to another faith)...I basically discovered all the joys and sorrows associated with having chosen a lifestyle contrary to everyone around me. I did not have any other ex JW's to speak with and until a sibling recently was df'd and mentioned finding a website a place of healing and closure I had no idea there was such forums as these.
I probably won't post much but I like to read everyone's diverse opinions on so many topics and as everyone seems to say it is very comforting in a strange way to see some of my own emotions brought to the front by others.
